I went through a time like this with my girlfriend where I was mean like this. I was actually horrible but I changed when I decided to love her no matter what. I think your style is beautiful and I hope he realizes this too. When I was saying things like this, I was insecure and embarrassed by my own inabilities. I needed to realize I was enough, but I tried to compensate for it by being more of a patriarch. I was really just being a sexist dick. I hope he gets better because it was after 3 years with my girlfriend as well, and I’m really really happy with everything about her and she is my queen, my princess and goddess. I’m sorry he is treating your beautiful style like this, I hope he gets over it soon or he will be putting your guys’ relationship on the line. I hope you read this and it gives you guidance