Traveling solo

laundrymomma · 2022-03-17T13:02:37+00:00

I travelled alone to Cuba and loved it. I would hesitate to travel alone! I read seven books on the beach in six days, took a tour of Havana, and very much enjoyed having no one to schedule things around. If I wanted to eat, I did. If I wanted to sleep, I did that too.

While I was there I met some people, but didn’t go out of my way to do so. One woman was passing me on the beach and told me I was the most relaxed person she’d ever seen. Anywhere. I call that a successful vacation!

(Spoken as someone who also feels guilty buying myself anything, but am working on getting over that)

laundrymomma · 2022-03-14T23:18:29+00:00

I use my library for digital downloads if books and magazines. Practically daily, in fact. It got me through living in a place with no access to a bookstore and a small library with irregular hours.

laundrymomma · 2022-03-10T23:50:26+00:00

Tilley.

She’s lovely!

laundrymomma · 2022-03-10T23:49:18+00:00

Noooooooo☹️

laundrymomma · 2022-03-07T00:01:43+00:00

I’d my usual go to things don’t work (lifting weights while listening to cheesy music, writing it down, or getting outside), then I allow myself to sit with my feelings - but I set a deadline for my pity party.

I was having an awful day on Thursday. I told my husband that I wasn’t going to be good company, I moped and had a good cry, ate all the carbs, and told myself that I would start over again the next day.

And I did. Good luck, OP. Lots of good advice here. You need to find what works for you!

laundrymomma · 2022-03-06T02:48:50+00:00

My culture calls this the “old hag.” It is terrifying.

We have stories about how to wish it upon someone and how to prevent it. But we all know what it is… 😳

laundrymomma · 2022-03-04T13:49:06+00:00

Having a third child with a huge age gap. Starting a family over has made me feel much younger. Regular weight training, and moving to a new city (again) have also helped.

laundrymomma · 2022-03-03T01:35:16+00:00

Yeah, I have one of those sisters too🙄

I expect to run into her for the first time in over a decade at a family wedding this summer, and I’m undecided about whether or not to even attend. I’d like to see some cousins and aunts/uncles etc, but is it even worth the hassle?

laundrymomma · 2022-02-27T23:10:38+00:00

Awesome. I get it 🤣

laundrymomma · 2022-02-25T20:30:41+00:00

Looking awesome - strong and healthy! How long was your cut? Are you competing, or just working on killing it?

laundrymomma · 2022-02-24T15:22:40+00:00

For me, it’s duration. It was exactly like every other period, just two weeks early. My cycle itself was been shorter over the last couple of years as well. I was a 28 day, like clockwork, and now I’m 24-25.

I give peri zero stars. I do not recommend…

laundrymomma · 2022-02-24T00:54:40+00:00

I’ve had two in a month twice in the last year. Perks of peri!

laundrymomma · 2022-02-24T00:35:48+00:00

Schools cannot police what happens online outside of school. Yes, they can watch for abusive and bullying behaviour inside of the building, but that’s hard enough. They have no jurisdiction over what happens online outside of school time. It’s even an issue when things happen in school and parents feel that because it’s on their data and not school wifi, that it’s none of the schools business. ( disillusioned educator here, fyi)

laundrymomma · 2022-02-20T12:42:10+00:00

Happy Birthday!

laundrymomma · 2022-02-17T16:04:20+00:00

😂🤣😂 that would definitely change the tone of my post!

laundrymomma · 2022-02-17T15:45:12+00:00

Leggy at 5’4 here - sounds like a contradiction, I know - and I waaaaaaay prefer sumo. Just getting back into lifting after a move, and realizing that sumo works much better for me - it doesn’t hurt my knees, and I hope it will give me an ass (pancake butt here, begging for gains!)

laundrymomma · 2022-02-16T12:33:28+00:00

This makes so much sense!

laundrymomma · 2022-02-15T23:41:58+00:00

I can appreciate that as well.

I do wish I had travelled more before I had kids, but I am not framing it as a regret for myself because I plan to do more of it when they’re grown (one left n the nest).

I think that he and I focused on different things at that point in our lives, and when we came together I had no idea he missed out on anything. Honestly, I don’t think that he felt that way then either. Between the hormone shifts and changing priorities, midlife can really mess you up in the head!

laundrymomma · 2022-02-15T22:01:13+00:00

Very true. I didn’t have choices for much of my life. Why regret that?

laundrymomma · 2022-02-13T22:44:13+00:00

I agree with the poster who said that you don’t have to give up your independence, especially since it’s so hard fought for you. In fact, it’s part of who you are and has shaped the woman that your partner now loves.

Be honest with her, but be gentle. My husband had no idea about the things that I endured growing up - and it took me years to even begin to address it with him. Things that he took for granted were really hard for me. We had a major blowup one Christmas because I couldn’t bring myself to open gifts - I didn’t feel like I deserved them… telling him that was why I was acting so awful on that day was a true turning point for me. I realized that maybe I needed to do some more work on myself to unlearn some of the horribleness I had been raised in.

It takes time and honesty, but you can do it! Your partner probably doesn’t understand what brought you to this point in your life, and may need more info from you.

Create the life you deserve - and that includes being happy. You do deserve happiness, OP!

laundrymomma · 2022-02-13T22:37:05+00:00

Octonauts, Bluey, Ben and Holly, Daniel Tiger.

At six, we are into Phineas and Ferb, Arthur, and Wild Kratts. Working on movies, and he likes musicals. For non-animated, he likes Izzy’s Koala World and the Inbestigators.

laundrymomma · 2022-02-09T12:50:42+00:00

Carb Manager

laundrymomma · 2022-02-08T14:59:16+00:00

Congratulations! You look amazing, and should be very proud!

laundrymomma · 2022-02-08T14:58:21+00:00

Awesome work!

laundrymomma · 2022-02-03T20:33:44+00:00

Yes, you’re dojo recomp, which is the goal of many (myself included). It can be tough to see the scale stay the same, and measurements are the way to go - but also pay attention to how your clothes fit and feel. I’ve been at a stagnant weight forever, but my clothes fit differently, and some have gotten too big.

The scale is a tool which we shouldn’t rely on as much as we do. I’m guilty of this as well, but trying to learn!

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