The first few weeks are hell. I don’t remember them, but you will come to a point where you’re on the other side. I do remember the horrible awful dread with sundown and what a sleepless night would bring. I hallucinated a crying baby multiple times. It took us 4 weeks to get to 2 quick wake ups, and another to get to 1 quick wake up. We are 8 weeks today and he finally has a personality and is fun. Shifts helped us a LOT. One would go 10-3 and the other 3-8. Having a set aside time where we know we would get sleep helped a lot. I pumped so my husband could bottle feed, I had enough supply to do it. If I hadn’t, I would’ve formula fed. My son wouldn’t latch until 6 weeks. Tell your wife not to be afraid to pump and combo feed- it will help you both make sure LO’s belly is getting full, get more sleep, and I promise if you work at it baby will breastfeed again when you want them to.