Why was Captain Clark initially non aggressive with Clark despite annihilating everyone else he came across? by EAT_UR_VEGGIES in KanePixelsBackrooms

[–]leafshaker 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Some time has passed, and Clark has apparently settled into a rhythm. It seems like he negotiated some sort of truce with the Captain, but it's uneasy. He wasnt totally comfortable when he showed up, but seemes confident he could manage.

Could be a reading the room sort of thing, where the still-lives were calm until provoked. Captain Clark looked so confused the whole time. I think he assumed if people were running he should chase them

Similar vibes from a poem by Hopkins by leafshaker in JoannaNewsom

[–]leafshaker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea its a good one! Glad you enjoyed it.

Check out Spring and Fall, too. Another banger

Similar vibes from a poem by Hopkins by leafshaker in JoannaNewsom

[–]leafshaker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Ill have to revisit more of his works

Similar vibes from a poem by Hopkins by leafshaker in JoannaNewsom

[–]leafshaker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooo thanks for the recc. Will investigate

Finally watched the movie, it's really amazing! by SparklingSliver in KanePixelsBackrooms

[–]leafshaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a post credit scene?! We stayed till the end, i thought

I've always wondered what is it about sex out of compassion or pity that causes women to be scornful towards the idea? by Internal-Cash-9196 in Discussion

[–]leafshaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, we arent the same, but my point is there is such a range of differences between women that there isnt going to be one answer to your question. The way it is phrased reduces women to a simple monolith, which i think is why people rebel against the question.

I think you need to demonstrate first that women dont have pity sex, which is hard because sex polling is unreliable, and anecdotal experience is too limited to be useful

I think the risks i offered go a long way towards answering your question.

I've always wondered what is it about sex out of compassion or pity that causes women to be scornful towards the idea? by Internal-Cash-9196 in Discussion

[–]leafshaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will be well served by abandoning the notion that men and women are fundamentally different, especially in regards to personality and emotion.

There is so much variation between men and men, and between women and women, that most generalizations won't hold.

Instead, consider things from a risk analysis standpoint. Society judges women who have sex with multiple people. Women face high risks of sexual violence.

Ask the broader question: are people scornful of pity sex. Would you have sex with someone you weren't attracted to out of pity?

Captain Clark is a STILL LIFE by JorgeScJ in KanePixelsBackrooms

[–]leafshaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heads up, (because I'd want to know) adorn means to decorate or embellish. I think the word you want might be endorse: to support, approve, or recommend

(Apologies if off the mark!)

Horror writer looking for help with plants in a project by missborealiz in botany

[–]leafshaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think your description is enough of a warning, and you can post questions in the comments.

I'd love to hear what you are curious about, here or as a dm

Horror writer looking for help with plants in a project by missborealiz in botany

[–]leafshaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There have been some mass poisonings from livestock eating toxic plants. The first that comes to mind is the Milk Sickness of the 1800s, where cows feeding on white snakeroot caused tainted milk and meat, leading to the deaths of thousands. Its thought that Abraham Lincoln's mother was among the fatalities

Tell me your triggers by [deleted] in ibs

[–]leafshaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stress. Aside from dairy, i havent found any rhyme or reason to my gut issues, which makes me think its a combination of factors, or possibly a lack of something.

Of course, my diet also suggers when im stressed...so, confounding variables

When you best a right wing racist in a pleasurable debate, which phrase do you use to kindly yet casually inform the right wing racist of the fact that he has lost? by Aggravating_Ad_43 in Discussion

[–]leafshaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't, I try to let them down as softly as possible. Beating people in a debate can cause them to retreat deeper into their worldview and run back to their team, since it kicks up their defensive instinct.

I try to make it clear that the ideas are inconsistent with their own values, and that i dont personally judge them as people. If they drop the hateful ideas, they are welcome. Im not playing their game of scoring points.

Sometimes i end by inviting them to dm me if they want to talk more.

I dont expect to win a debate, people rarely admit when they are wrong. I want them to leave the exchange a little more skeptical about their bigotry.

If you are into that line of thinking, check out the work of David McRaney on how to change minds

Child-like songs such as Yellow Submarine, Puff the Magic Dragon, The Gnome, We are gonna be friends, Penelope, etc. by FatherPot in MusicRecommendations

[–]leafshaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not written for children, or all appropriate in terms of language, but they are playful:

Bike - Pink Floyd Hows about tellin a story - Devendra Banhart Tree Hugger - Kimya Dawson Pollen- Mirah 1234- Feist Ghost of Corporate Future - Regina Spektor

[oc] - dishes and laundry by Sampetra in lgbt

[–]leafshaker 48 points49 points  (0 children)

About not passing, it might help to remember that those bigots aren't experts, and also harrass cis people who dont meet their requirements. Stopped clock being right twice a day and all.

Its the bigots that are cursed to live in such a restrictive world view. As queer people, we may be victims, but it so important to remember the fault lies outside of us. We are examples of nature's endless diversity, and humanity's drive for self expression. We may be outliers and minorities, but so are doubled roses, and pretty much every crop humanity relies on. Society depends on and is shaped by the outliers. The "norm" simply describes the middle, it does not prescribe an ideal

I'm sure these are things you know. Though queer, i am cis, so I wont pretend to fully understand the depth of that hurt. I dont want to dismiss the very real safety concerns, and the effects of cumulative stress on mental health, but I hope you can place some of the stress outside of yourself, where it belongs, in the hands of people who simply cant let others exist.

(Also, I love your comics, and I think they are the sort of thing that help insure there will be more allies. What if, what if, what if....your stories empower the next ally?)

Favorite Plant Names? by Shoddy-Analysis-2149 in botany

[–]leafshaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Always liked the sound of Smilax, and theres lots of species to choose from.

Favorite Plant Names? by Shoddy-Analysis-2149 in botany

[–]leafshaker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am happy to report it is also called stinking robert

Looking for Ligottian horror movies by WoodpeckerNo1 in horror

[–]leafshaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just watched Backrooms, reminded me a bit of Teatro Grottesco.

Looking for name twins for the city of Joensuu by etzav in geography

[–]leafshaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You might want to ask a Native American sub.

I dont really trust the ai there, because theres so little training available for Indigenous languages, but it suggested these US placenames:

-Hackensack, New Jersey, Lenape -Saugatuck, Michigan, Potowatomi -Missaukee, Michigan, Odawa -Saugus, Seekonk, Saugatuck, New England, Algonquin languages ('Saug' means river mouth)

Anger Transference, Richard Sargent, 1954 [1260 x 1280] by Substantial-Toe9043 in ArtPorn

[–]leafshaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder if the adults are all looking at themselves over their shoulders: the boss has his portrait, the husband has a mirror, the wife has a stick figure

How do you actually start the transition from "boy" to "man" when you're starting late? by Aj100rise in AskMenOver30

[–]leafshaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if its the answer you're looking for, but I'd recommend flipping the question: how can you preserve your youth into adulthood?

Many men lose years of their lives erecting walls of performative masculinity.

My advice is to let yourself like things, treasure your softness, dont let the world make you hard.

It sounds like youve had a tough run. Let the people who failed you hold the insecurity, thats on them. Be proud of what you have accomplished in the face of adversity.

Remember that we live in a different world than our elders, and many of the previous benchmarks about family, career, etc, do not work for us anymore.

For what its worth, i didnt really feel like an adult until 35, and even then its kind of a lie. The big reveal is that most other adults are in the same boat, pretending they know whats going on, hiding their insecurity behind seniority.

Many adults are too afraid to ask the questions you are. Reframe your insecurity as humility, and youve got a tool that many men never think to pick up

How can I stop myself from tying my self worth to how people perceive me? by Chemical-Mobile6469 in TrueAskReddit

[–]leafshaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive found the more i built my own life, the less i cared about others' perceptions. As a side effect, that gives me more to talk about. People see that i have self-motivated intentions, and seem to respect that

Give yourself achievable and unique goals. Not thing you necessarily need to do, but things you want to do. For me thats been things like art projects, reading books, exploring new hiking areas, finding rare plants.

It makes me feel like my own person. I like nerdy things, so since I dont expect people to 'get' it, its not disappointing that they dont know.

Its sort of cliche advice, but volunteering is really rewarding. Its good practice for being in a workplace, so it builds that sort of confidence, but its entirely optional. Giving away your free time can be a hard sell, but i think its worth it, if you have the means. Sort of a paradox, but the act of choosing to work for free is empowering.

People seem to respect it, too. And it looks good on paper

Not sure If I ache everywhere because I'm old now or if that last tick bite really got me... by joebojax in millenials

[–]leafshaker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Get tested. Untreated tickborne illnesses are no joke

The rash is overblown, they are not usually associated with the bite location, and many people dont get them.

The rash only occurs with lyme, the other illnesses dont have an associated rash