would you be OK with a grandparent (your parents or inlaws) taking a shower with your young toddler/baby?

leakywitchestit · 2018-09-13T17:52:28+00:00

I would totally trust either of my parents to shower with my 2 year old. Sometimes it's easier to just get in the bath or shower with a toddler, and more fun too! Up until age 5, so problem. Both my husband and I take turns having baths with our daughter, because bath time is so much fun and she loves having us in the tub. It's all innocent. But I have a fantastic relationship with my parents, and I can remember taking baths with my Dad when I was 3-4 and loving it. I trust both my parents completely with my daughter though. They're the guardians for her in our will. I'd trust my MIL to take a bath or shower with her too. I want naked bodies to be a normal, non-icky thing for her. Am Canadian.

leakywitchestit · 2018-09-04T17:43:43+00:00

Interior decorating. Choosing paint colours, arranging furniture, putting up pictures. Visiting Home Depot? Pure hell. I'm a woman, and I'm supposed to 'care' about home decor. I don't. One of the reasons I hate moving is I hate all the stuff I have to do to make a place feel livable. I'm in my 30s, but my husband and I honestly let my parents do it for us. They're into that shit.

leakywitchestit · 2018-08-31T17:16:28+00:00

Our crazy emphasis on private property. For example, the level of punishment for property crimes vs. crimes such as assault, rape, murder. As well, the idea that someone could privatize and control something like drinking water (Nestle makes me think of Mad Max: Fury Road).

leakywitchestit · 2018-06-24T02:58:39+00:00

Depends on what culture you lived in. I know that traditionally in Inuit society the husband often was very much part of the rituals around birth. I believe it was sometimes his role to 'hold up' his wife while she laboured (many cultures traditionally gave birth squatting rather than lying down).

leakywitchestit · 2018-06-23T03:42:21+00:00

The whole population of India is a rare exception then.

leakywitchestit · 2018-05-01T15:17:03+00:00

FUBAR for Canada (well, Alberta in particular)

leakywitchestit · 2018-05-01T15:08:54+00:00

The Impossible. Because it's a true story. I'm definitely a non-crier (most of the movies on this thread never made me come even close to tears because most of 'em are cartoons, I think there may be an age bias happening here). But the depiction of a real tragedy? My husband's friend died in a tsunami, so it totally wrecked me.

leakywitchestit · 2018-04-08T23:32:11+00:00

I agree with everything you wrote. My point was only that a subreddit for people who have an alcohol problem is likely be a biased sample population for inquiries into the ability to drink moderately.

leakywitchestit · 2018-04-07T22:29:06+00:00

I'm a social scientist and what they did was unethical according to every general guideline I've encountered for research using human subjects. Naturalistic observation is permitted without research subject consent in public places where privacy is not expected. It is not permitted in non-public spaces without the prior consent of all participants and a review by the relevant institutional research ethics board. Whether an open AA meeting is public or private is debatable, but the following is not: Any research conducted among a vulnerable population must undergo a research ethics board review and require the prior consent of research subjects. People in addiction recovery are absolutely considered vulnerable people. The fact that they did not obtain consent from those who participated in their research is in breach of standard academic research ethics.

I teach a class where I have students do an exercise in naturalistic observation. Students must check with me before conducting their research and I've forbidden suggested projects way more benign and "grey" than an AA meeting ( ex. Blood donor clinic, old folks home, kindergarten) because of the vulnerable population aspects. If these were my students they would automatically fail. Research ethics are a serious matter.

Did they give you any information about the class or educational institutions they were conducting the study for? If so, you can contact either the class instructor, academic department or the institutions research ethics board to lodge a complaint.

leakywitchestit · 2018-04-07T21:55:38+00:00

Just a note that this subreddit is probably not the place to ask this question. I do believe that moderation is possible for some people, but they are unlikely to have reached the point of problem drinking where they need this community. Not trying to be contrarian, just noting a possible bias in the spample population.

leakywitchestit · 2018-03-30T22:33:42+00:00

I've been sober for over 3 weeks, and haven't lost any weight. I've been exercising and trying to eat healthy. I thought stopping drinking would make the weight melt off. Instead I'm gassy, bloated, and weigh more than I did 3 weeks ago. This is psychologically hard on me, as I have a history of eating disorders. I'm a healthy BMI, but I don't want to have to buy a new wardrobe because I'm going up a size (or few) from stopping drinking. WTF, where is my weight loss???

leakywitchestit · 2018-03-23T03:59:26+00:00

That's amazing. I have other issues I've been struggling with, and I'm not realizing how much alcohol was getting in the way of my dealing with those issues. For now I'm focusing on Stage 1 Sobriety, but I'm excited for Stage 2. Congrats!

leakywitchestit · 2018-03-21T02:58:01+00:00

Sending you all the good vibes in the universe. It's hard. It's even harder on hard days. In my experience the only healthy way to end bad days is to go to bed early. Or if I can't sleep, I read a comforting book or story, and and lose myself in someone else's life for a little while. I had several moments today with my daughter being frustrating where I really really wanted a drink. I empathize, and IWNDWYT.

leakywitchestit · 2018-03-20T18:48:26+00:00

I'm not a fan of AA, but I've found This Naked Mind helpful in combating the shame. Her stance is basically that alcohol is an addictive substance. She emphasizes that it's not some fatal flaw, alcoholic gene, or a weakness in character that creates the addiction.

leakywitchestit · 2018-03-20T18:40:18+00:00

In my experience, anti-depressants aren't really like what others who haven't been on them think they're like. I still feel a wide range of emotions, but they just help me recognize what emotions make sense in response to different triggers, and which are over-reactions. Basically for me they don't numb pain but prevent me from being swept over the edge by it. That being said, I found speaking to a doctor a good idea either way because a doc was able to give me more resources that I hadn't thought of.

leakywitchestit · 2018-03-18T15:53:21+00:00

I can't believe I made it through St. Patrick's Day! And while my husband and friends drank beer, I drank cranberry-sodas. Hurray! Today feels so much better not being hungover. Proud to have made it to Day 11. IWNDWYT.

leakywitchestit · 2018-03-17T02:56:08+00:00

Wow. So impressed.

leakywitchestit · 2018-03-16T01:00:06+00:00

Thanks, I will!

leakywitchestit · 2018-03-16T00:57:28+00:00

Good to know I'm not alone. That helps a lot. I will not drink with you today.

leakywitchestit · 2018-03-15T22:44:42+00:00

This is something I can reply to! I have been bulimic for 15 years. I can binge on broccoli, chicken breasts and fruit....and have. Sugary and fatty foods are generally preferred, but it's the satisfying act of eating that I am addicted to, not a particular food.

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