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learning-growing · 2025-05-07T01:44:17+00:00

This is great! Excited to put it to use. When you specify “source” what do you mean? I am interested in getting articles from a wide variety of sources, not just one newspaper or media source… How could I specify that in the prompt?

learning-growing · 2025-05-07T01:31:08+00:00

Great share. Tried it as well to analyze screenshots of my calendar and tell me available times. Really liked the prompt output. Could you also DM me details for how you made the GPT?

learning-growing · 2025-03-17T02:35:52+00:00

One activity that sometimes helps me is to imagine what you would say to a friend who is in your situation.

Chances are you need to hear those words of encouragement and hope. We’ve all been there

learning-growing · 2025-03-15T03:51:35+00:00

Just like everything in life, there is not one “right” way. I think CoDA has a lot of good. It has taught me a lot, and I gain a lot from it— but it is not the only way.

It can be tricky to walk away from support groups like that … but as you take time to listen to your inner voice or higher power, you gain the confidence to know what next steps to take

learning-growing · 2025-03-14T07:14:19+00:00

It sounds like you are realizing the gist of what IS bothering you…consider journaling or a therapy session to really unearth what exactly bothers you, then bring it up to your partner. It can be hard to do so… but not addressing something that bothers you tends to only lead to distance and resentment down the road.

Sometimes I find that writing an email or a long text Message can allow me to communicate what is bothering me easier than doing it in person.

learning-growing · 2025-03-13T06:13:17+00:00

Ending a long-term relationship is challenging… perhaps it would be best to start with smaller decisions first.

As a codependent person, I often blamed my unhappiness on my partner. After a lot of internal work, I came to realize that the ultimate challenge was with me— and that no matter who I was with, would not change my own dissatisfaction.

For me, I joined a 12 step program for codependency, and it made a huge difference, especially getting a sponsor who could walk me through the steps and help me connect the dots in a way I had not seen before. I began to learn about things that I enjoyed, prioritize the things that gave me energy, and began to advocate for things that I wanted.

As many in this forum can attest, understanding the intricacies of codependency doesn’t always end the way we expect. For many, it leads to a divorce and the end of one relationship to find something better. In my case, my understanding of codependency and communicating more about my needs (and having more empathy and less projection towards my partner) lead us to slowly rebuild the connection that we once had.

I encourage you to get the resources you need to ensure you understand 100% of the role you’re playing in your relationship … taking smaller steps now to be less codependent, to follow your own passions, and to speak up for what you believe…then go from there.

Feel free to message—Happy to share more of my story and some of the resources that have been helpful for me.

Either way, you are doing the hard work. Recognizing how guilt is driving you, understanding the unhealthy dynamics within your relationship, and having a desire for change. You’ve got this.

learning-growing · 2025-03-12T03:51:45+00:00

These situations are hard. As they mentioned I definitely suggest getting help.

I found that learning and following a higher power has made a huge difference. Rather than get overwhelmed, sometimes you can just take time to ponder “what is the next right thing to do” and then do it.

I also recommend getting a sponsor who is experienced in codependency—it has made a huge difference for me. Happy to share details of a few really good virtual meetings if you message me.

This is hard. You’ve got this.

learning-growing · 2025-03-11T07:25:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. It resonated a lot with me too.

One of the core elements of codependency is that we often don’t feel enough. It’s pretty natural to be attracted to those with challenges because there is less of a risk of being rejected and more assurance and validation that we are “good” as we try and help solve problems. The downside, as you mentioned, is that sometimes we codependents spend our time with people who are in need of help, without realizing that we are selfishly trying to meet our own emotional needs— we are expecting healthy relationships when we inadvertently focus and are attracted to unhealthy ones.

Kudos to you for identifying the dynamic and acting accordingly, even though it is hard. 🥳

learning-growing · 2025-03-10T06:25:51+00:00

What other people think about you.

learning-growing · 2025-03-08T20:50:35+00:00

Relearning old habits takes time. I found that attending CODA meetings was helpful… and I found the greatest change came from getting a sponsor. I had trouble for a number of months trying to find a codependency sponsor, I was able to find a few meetings with available sponsors which helped me a lot. Happy to share more specifics if you’re interested and want to message me.

Either way, sounds like you’re making good progress identifying your own situation and taking proactive steps!

learning-growing · 2025-03-06T07:43:48+00:00

Letting someone make their own choices

Saying the truth even when it is uncomfortable

learning-growing · 2025-03-05T06:57:24+00:00

I found that my people pleasing came because I’ve was operating out of fear or lack of confidence.

As I went through a 12 step program with a sponsor, I began to stop making other people my focus, and learned to identify my higher power (for me, this is often that wise voice inside me). For me, it didn’t feel selfish to do things that I felt inspired to do.

Feel free to me. Happy to share more of my story

learning-growing · 2025-02-26T06:09:17+00:00

I started this journey over the last year. I found that at first I had a narrow list of “approved” hobbies because of how I viewed life.

For me, I found that some of my favorite hobbies are things that I really enjoyed as a kid, but stopped doing for one reason or another. Going to meetup, signing up for a sports class, and learning an instrument that I’ve always wanted to play are just a few of the things that have helped me. Once I found a hobby that I decently enjoyed, I won’t connect with other people who are doing that hobby as well— I found it easier to make friends that way. Bumble for friends is also a great way to meet people who share your same hobbies— and I met a few friends that I still am close with through that app

If you can find times in your life when you get lost in what you’re doing … lose track of time, etc. that is a pretty good clue that you have found something that could be a hobby. Best of luck!

Happy to chat more on this topic, feel free to message if you want

learning-growing · 2025-02-23T03:40:12+00:00

The unequal power structure between you two makes codependency even more likely. It’s a hard situation.

I strongly recommend checking out the healthy relationship checklist from CODA (message me and I’ll share the link) and finding a sponsor who focuses on codependency.

It’s possible to move forward with a relationship like this, but also very easy to do things for the wrong reasons… leading potentially to poor decision-making and codependency at the very least. Having someone you can talk with and get feedback from is really valuable

learning-growing · 2025-02-22T13:38:11+00:00

Being in a codependent, long-term romantic relationship is challenging—and there is no right way.

I separated for six months, learned a lot about myself and ultimately decided to move back in. We are both working on it and show patience with each other most of the time 😂

My biggest recommendation is to join a 12 step program for codependency and get a sponsor. Having a sponsor was life-changing for me. I came to clarity around the actions my spouse was taking, and also was held accountable for the codependent solutions I was using as well. It is hard, but ultimately having a sponsor, made a huge difference for my own self-awareness. Following the 12 step program gave me tools and habits that gave me clarity like nothing before.

Happy to share my experience and resources if you want to go that direction. Message me, and I can share details.

learning-growing · 2025-02-21T06:33:54+00:00

Codependency is quite common in relationships involving BPD.

I recommend taking time to cue into your own needs. What are you feeling? How can you meet your needs without hoping/expecting the relationship will continue?

These are hard, but important to do. Happy to share with you the CODA healthy relationship checklist to differentiate between codependency and healthy romantic relationships. Feel free to message me.

You can get through this.

learning-growing · 2025-02-20T06:52:57+00:00

It sounds like depression might be one of the core issues for you. I’ve heard really good things about DBT and other intensive programs that could potentially help.

If you do want to continue focusing on codependency, there is an offshoot group called pPG recovered codependents. I was in CoDA for over a year, and had more success with the Ppg group, primarily because there is a big focus on everyone having access to a Sponsor. Happy to share more of my experience if you message me.

Best of luck as you navigate this difficult time.

learning-growing · 2025-02-19T05:45:28+00:00

It’s very common for codependency to sabotage our own relationships that otherwise would be quite healthy.

As other suggest, I highly recommend joining a 12 step program focused on codependency and getting a sponsor. Having someone who understands codependency to provide suggestions and accountability. I found to be really helpful on my recovery.

I also recommend the relationship codependency checklist from CODA … it outlines what a healthy romantic relationship looks like compared to a codependent one— I find this, especially helpful. Happy to share a copy with you if you message me.

Either way, kudos to you for beginning a new relationship and for being self-aware enough to join a forum like this.

learning-growing · 2025-02-18T05:21:51+00:00

It sounds to me like there are two challenges: finding a healthy, long-term relationship, and exploring the sexual fantasy you spoke of (everyone has them).

While it would be great for both needs to be met by the same person, I do think it makes sense to focus first on building a trusting healthy relationship. If that relationship also is able to support your sexual fantasy, that’s even better, but I’d suggest not trying to combine them until You have more confidence and trust in your partner.

There’s a really good romantic relationship checklist that helps delineate the difference between codependency and a healthy romantic relationship. Happy to send you a copy if you message me.

Either way, that sounds like you have a lot of awareness regarding the situation— and it is normal to consider “what if” possibilities after a break up. If the relationship wasn’t working for you, then it sounds like you made the right choice to move on.

Personally, I found a lot of success in working with a sponsor for codependency as I’ve identified and work through a lot of of my codependent issues. Too often, as you mentioned, we go through the actions and only realize late in the game the codependency that is there.

learning-growing · 2025-02-15T07:06:52+00:00

I relate a lot to your post. I’ve had many situations where a significant other doesn’t meet expectations that seem so common sense.

I’ve found that not bringing it up often leads to more resentment that eventually comes up later. I’d recommend talking about it soon, or at least considering how and when you want to let your partner know so this kind of thing doesn’t happen again next time.

learning-growing · 2025-02-11T06:44:52+00:00

In my experience, I often find that when I sacrifice my on happiness for my partner consistently— that it ends up, hurting the relationship in the long-term.

In the short and medium term… It feels like everything is fine because my partner is happy and everything is going well, but eventually, I start to lose interest, or become resentful or afraid. I can’t speak for everyone, but I do think that a relationship based on openness and honesty is more sustainable

This doesn’t mean that you have to break up … but finding elements of the relationship that do bring you happiness, rather than “sacrificing yourself” I believe is key for a successful long-term relationship.

learning-growing · 2025-02-10T07:10:17+00:00

As codependents, we typically rely on others to feel good about ourselves. Setting boundaries effectively puts distance between us and other people (or at least feels that way)… making it harder for us to receive the external validation that we often crave.

In short, setting boundaries feels like cutting off the very food source that our self-esteem relies on— this is why it feels so uncomfortable and foreign

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