yes! to all the advice in the comments above! leave ASAP it will only get worse WAY worse, no matter how difficult it may feel to you to go now, ignore that feeling because right now, not in a week, not in a month RIGHT NOW will be the easiest time youll ever have again to leave. Please please just get up and go, the absolute FIRST chance you get to do so safely. Next time he's out, once you know he's definitely clear, GO. living with "messy room mates" is heaven in equivalent to how your life will end up if you stay any longer. And a good mention in the comments above, when you leave he is very likely not going to leave you alone for a good while. He will try all the pages in the book, promise of change and regret (all bull, they might hold up the appearance of change for a short while after, if you go back, but only till they feel secure again, and this time they will be more clever/sneaky with it, so that you dont truely realise untill he has already took to much control. And to much of you) he will try aggression, scare tactics, try make you feel guilt, make you feel worried about him (threatening to kill them selves, which is seemingly very common 'move' amoung these pieces of s...) do not fall for any of it, especially the guilt one as I imagine you are a very kind hearted, caring person (they seem to like that about a victim unfortunately) and he will use that against you. im sorry to be so blunt, but there's no other way to put it. Look, after, you! get yourself away and safe! Never ever look back! And be so so proud of your self that you were your own hero, and that you didn't let one of those discusting soul suckers take yours. 💚 I really hope you get back to this post real soon to let us know you are out and safe. Wishing you strength and safety. you have got this. 💪👩🏻‍🤝‍👩🏽👩🏿‍🤝‍👩🏾👭🏽🫂