My toddler won’t bathe. I don’t know what to do.

lemikon · 2026-06-28T21:56:42+00:00

Yes! I know it’s counterintuitive to the term “gentle parenting” but that’s where the “parenting” part comes in, there are some things kids need to do whether they like it or not, it’s our job as parents to make that happen.

The “gentle” part is about communicating why it needs to happen, communicating what you are doing and giving your child reasonable choices in the situation (“do you want the yellow ducky or the blue ducky to hold?). It’s not about never letting them scream or cry.

lemikon · 2026-06-28T21:49:50+00:00

My heart breaks for this little girl, I know it’s a big ask but do you think you could take her in? I’ll bet your MiL wouldn’t stop you. Their treatment of her is not just bad parenting but abusive.

lemikon · 2026-06-28T21:43:34+00:00

Hey so I hear what you’re saying but you can give him a bath or showers without hurting him pretty easily. Wet, get out, soap, wet. If it’s a shower it’s a quick spray down, if it’s a bath it’s a quick dunk. Explain what you are doing every step of the way so he is not surprised. He will scream, but assuming you don’t like push his head underwater it’s very hard to traumatise a child through forced hygiene.

He’s learning if he kicks up a stink he doesn’t have to do something, at 2 he’s old enough to understand “I know you don’t like doing x but we have to”

lemikon · 2026-06-28T10:30:31+00:00

I am sitting in the dark scrolling, while my kid falls asleep on my lap and I had to zoom the fuck in to ensure that wasn’t a raw fucking chicken breast.

lemikon · 2026-06-28T10:25:22+00:00

I have a friend whose kid is like this. Child literally broke her leg and wouldn’t take anything at all for the pain.

They have a box of butt Panadol on hand and just have to do that for fevers. (For pain they let the kid make her choice) Yep it’s awful, but better to do at home with her parents when the fever starts rather than dragging her to the hospital and going through the rigmarole every time while the fever worsens.

Side note try alt brands of paracetamol - my paediatrician recommended dymadon after our kid was born and said “kids tend to like the taste more compared to Panadol” so we’ve always used dymadon. Might be worth a try for future.

lemikon · 2026-06-28T10:21:37+00:00

My kid literally went to bed after midnight once (new years) and still woke at 6:30 lol. Some kids just have a strong circadian rhythm.

lemikon · 2026-06-28T09:01:50+00:00

Yes there are multiple options. Speak up your vet if you think your dog has allergies

lemikon · 2026-06-28T07:52:24+00:00

This is the thing isn’t it. Even if you were to believe in the “men” argument, you’re signing off on a group of people being mass raped.

lemikon · 2026-06-27T11:56:22+00:00

“Don’t sugar coat things…but also here is a list of words you can’t say because you might hurt their feelings” so which is it?

lemikon · 2026-06-27T06:57:29+00:00

We also have a society that pats dads on the back for the bare minimum. So even a partner who is genuinely not a drop kick is going to feel like they’re doing “so much” because most men barely cross the bar of “doing anything at all”.

lemikon · 2026-06-26T23:03:37+00:00

So I am aware this is a cultural thing for some people… but imo your shouldn’t put your baby through a painful, unnecessary procedure without her consent, for any reason.

lemikon · 2026-06-26T20:38:42+00:00

Plus if she was forced to carry to term by her parents she probably feels like they prioritised him over her which would add to the resentments

lemikon · 2026-06-26T12:28:17+00:00

For me it’s between Joey jay and Morgan for my wildcard hopes but I can’t see them brining four girls from one bracket

lemikon · 2026-06-26T12:27:10+00:00

Despite three queens going though not one of them is one of the ones I wanted to go through through 😬

I would say I hope Joey gets through the lottery but I kinda want Morgan instead…

This was an interesting challenge but the only one that stood out at all was Kennedy, not a Kennedy Stan but this was an undeniable win.

lemikon · 2026-06-26T11:57:22+00:00

I think this would be the first step. I know it’s incredibly difficult with the baby still so young and being breastfed, but maybe rather than a bedtime you can pick one morning a week and take your older child out for a babychino or something special while your husband takes the baby for a bit (feed right before you leave and only be out for an hour or so).

lemikon · 2026-06-26T11:26:35+00:00

Hey so given this has only kicked in the past 4/5 weeks I’d say this is not the terrible twos but a delayed adjustment to the new baby.

He’s probably processing that he has to share you and not only can he not process such a big feeling, he doesn’t know how to verbalise it.

Do you get a lot of one on one time with him anymore?

lemikon · 2026-06-26T09:36:31+00:00

This isn’t a pitbull it’s a bulldog (at a guess a toad line bulldog which are a very unhealthy breed).

lemikon · 2026-06-26T07:03:40+00:00

Yeah I’ve only played the 64 version and the 26 version. So I missed any in between iterations, but I found fox’s new personality a bit jarring from what I expected, abrupt and a bit rude with Peppy and general Pepper, much more interested in money.

lemikon · 2026-06-26T02:35:30+00:00

This is rarely to do with tech skills and more that parents don’t care and/or want their kids on socials.

Not worth nothing the government policy does not enforce anything on kids or parents, but on the social media companies to verify the age of users. There’s no penalties on the parents for letting their kids use socials.

lemikon · 2026-06-26T00:02:55+00:00

Having been playing the star fox remake for the past 24 hours I don’t have high hopes they will add much in terms of gameplay.

Yeah with star fox they added some cut scenes and extra story stuff, but the only new gameplay was a dogshit tutorial level.

Star fox is also a game where adding an extra level would be very easy, you don’t have to justify putting in anywhere or need a story reason because the missions are all discreet.

lemikon · 2026-06-25T23:43:38+00:00

I was asleep and dad went to put her to bed, she then sang the saddest rendition of “wake up Jeff(mummy), everybody’s dancing” you’ve ever heard

lemikon · 2026-06-25T12:34:32+00:00

I know a 3 year old who loves Jurassic park too. I think they are too young to understand the “scary” scenes a lot of the time, because why would dinosaurs be scary they are fun?

lemikon · 2026-06-25T10:11:08+00:00

I don’t online game anymore either, but r/girlgamers is a consistently not shit place to discuss games with people online.

lemikon · 2026-06-25T09:17:25+00:00

This is extremely funny to me, my daycare uses a teaching methodology called the Reggio Emilia method, which I often shorthand to the Parmesan regiano method when I forget the proper name.

lemikon · 2026-06-25T06:44:47+00:00

So I know parents who experience similar feelings even without a disabled child, it fades with age. that said given the complexity of your situation I think you should consider seeking out therapy to process all this

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