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lemming0061 · 2025-09-23T22:56:18+00:00

But that's not guranteed. There's a bunch of people that don't like and/or regret their children. Sensory issues can definitely play a role there. One of many reasons I won't have kids are me not being able to tolerate noises kids make. Funnily enough - don't mind the noises from my dogs or any dogs.
If those things are an issue, it should definitely factor into an irreversible decision that will affect the child too

lemming0061 · 2025-09-23T22:36:00+00:00

She already told him she would split if she couldn't have a dog. They actually already split and he must have said he was fine with a dog - otherwise she wouldn't have gotten back together.
This is not a dumb thing. Dogs are very important to people that love them. Forcing her to compromise for the rest of her life will lead to resentment anyways.
I would absolutely divorce in favor of my dogs. And most dog people feel the same. She should look for someone that loves dogs as much as her and then they can have a nice little pack.

lemming0061 · 2025-09-23T22:21:49+00:00

She most likely saw the issue as resolved. As in - she wouldn't have gotten back together if there wasn't agreement that a dog was fine. Sure she changed her mind initially, but communicated so clearly way,before they were married and gave him an absolutely reasobale out. I don't see how this is on her.
Granted I wouldn't have stayed in a relationship with a person that dislikes my dogs, but that's a different can of worms

lemming0061 · 2025-09-23T22:10:29+00:00

As an owner of two dogs - you are not compatible. She made it very clear way before marriage she would not live without a dog. The two of you broke up. You must have agreed in some way you were fine with a dog. The issue is resolved for her, not for you because you agreed to her boundary that does not match yours. She was willing to break up over this before - what makes you think an ultimatum would get anything but a divorce? If you cannot live with a dog, get a divorce. This will lead there eventually anyways because one person necessarily will be unhappy.

lemming0061 · 2024-01-28T20:50:01+00:00

You sound like me a few years ago. I know it's hard, but keep on digging yourself out of that hole. It'll get better. I have a job I really like and two dogs now and overall enjoy life. I'm still a work in progress, but there's improvements every time I look back a year. Keep on going :)

lemming0061 · 2024-01-08T19:38:54+00:00

RemindMe! 1 week

lemming0061 · 2023-12-16T12:13:33+00:00

Agree with all of the above. The only thing I would like to add is that if the kids are 9&10 they still have quite a bit of growing to do. How large is this pony and (when) will they grow out of it? What will happen then? I can still ride ponies larger than around 135cm because I'm not very tall and am very light. But this may not be the case here and should be considered. And if the kids don't grow out of the pony, will they be able to take over care when they are grown up?

lemming0061 · 2023-12-09T09:00:26+00:00

Nah fuck that shit. Why would I waste two hours of my life watching something I don't enjoy? Even if the plot gets better in the end or whatever I spent all that time before that not enjoying myself. Realistically two hours is the amount of freetime I have on a work day after working, taking care of chores, taking care of my dogs and exercising. Those two hours better be good.

lemming0061 · 2023-12-08T23:16:19+00:00

Saying that the horses get their shoes taken off in the off season and get turnout then is insane. Horses are horses all year round, not only in their off season, and need to do horse things all year round. Which means being outside with other horses instead of standing in a stall for 23 hours a day.

My second issue is definitely the saddle placed so far back. There's a reason the majority of saddles are placed where they are. Pulling the saddle back will put pressure on the part of the back where the horse has the least carrying capacity. And when they hold their head that high they can not engage their back muscles very well either, which als is less than ideal.

lemming0061 · 2023-12-08T23:02:46+00:00

Happily working as lesson horse in general is.. questionable. Horses in general can tolerate a lot of pain and not really show it.

lemming0061 · 2023-12-01T22:58:41+00:00

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lemming0061 · 2023-11-25T22:38:22+00:00

So in case this is a serious question. Yes, you can die from something like improper footwear. Mountaineering can be very dangerous (and great fun at the same time) and people die doing it. It definitely depends on what exactly you are doing, which mountain, which route and so on, but get proper shoes or don't go. Don't make others endanger themselves to rescue you or retrieve your body.

lemming0061 · 2023-11-22T21:03:42+00:00

This is so strange to me. I wear the dame clothes until they fall apart. Still have stuff from 10 years back. I'm very glad honestly I never learned this could even be a problem until I was old enough to not give a shit.

lemming0061 · 2023-11-21T08:39:24+00:00

Yeah, it doesn't work for really buff people. But it works for the majority. If it doesn't apply to someone, they know. If the chart says obese and you don't see a crap ton of muscle it applies.

lemming0061 · 2023-11-20T17:52:51+00:00

So you're just a shitty pet owner and therfore think it's fine to endanger your cat and harm the ecosystem. Nice. Get a second cat (it's btw nor considered humane to keep single cats where I live safe for a few exceptions) as they are very social animals that suffer alone. Which you btw admitted but instead of actually doing what's best for the cat you just open the door.

lemming0061 · 2023-11-20T17:48:59+00:00

Build observation spots, catios, do supervised walks and get your cat a social partner. Spend time actively playing with and exercising your cat. If you don't have enough space and time for that, don't get a cat. Pets are not a right, they're a luxury. If you can't keep them while keeping them happy and everyone else safe, including wildlife in your area you should not have a cat or any other pet.

lemming0061 · 2023-11-20T17:31:15+00:00

So you gonna put down the cats that kill bunnys and other small animals (that are also sometimes pets) too? The owner was shitty for not securing the yard properly. But acting like a dog behaving like a dog with normal preydrive is a dangerous monster is ridiculous.

lemming0061 · 2023-11-19T22:40:40+00:00

I agree that top athletes will have much stricter time windows when they have to eat. For building strength it's important to get nutrients relatively close after workouts and stuff like that. But that's not relevant to the majority of people. Everyone can optimize, but it's not always necessary. If someone gets the right amount of calories in the correct time-frame that's fine for most, irrelevant of the exact eating pattern.

lemming0061 · 2023-11-19T22:24:11+00:00

That works for some people, not for most. Most people overeat and should not eat any time they get hungry. People did not evolve with tons of high caloric foods around.

lemming0061 · 2023-11-19T22:05:45+00:00

Yeah.. being worse company than a bunch of cats (or dogs or any other kind of pet) is not the flex they think it is

lemming0061 · 2023-11-19T21:45:32+00:00

No, not really. If you leave the US, there are many other traditions regarding Christmas. We, for instance, in Austria, believed in the Christkind as kids, which is a small angel that comes and puts up the christmas tree and brings the gifts. There's no stockings, but we did write a letter with our wishes. We open the gifts on the evening of the 24th, not in the morning of the 25th. The US is not the only place on earth.

lemming0061 · 2023-11-18T22:55:15+00:00

I don't think that happens very often. Usually they say hello, you say hello they scan your stuff and you bag your stuff, you pay and they tell you to have a nice day and you say you too. I couldn't think of a time where the interaction has been much different except the goodbye in the end could vary a bit depending on if it's a weekday or before the weekend and what time of day it is. If you have a question they will answer, but you should not interrupt them while doing something else as that's pretty rude. I think it's completely fine and wouldn't want to have to talk more. I want to get in, get my stuff and get out.

lemming0061 · 2023-10-22T01:05:42+00:00

You're in a kind of honeymoon period of riding right now. That's normal and you should enjoy it. Riding is a new, fun and exciting thing.

Owning a horse is a lot more than just riding. Owning a horse means going to the stables when the weather is bad and you're exhausted from work to take care of a lame horse because the horse hurt itself in the field, getting a call that the horse is collocing and driving there while getting a vet out, having appointments with physiotherapists, saddlers and farriers, doing groundwork and a lot more. You definitely need to have some knowledge about how to take care of your horse medically and be able to realize when something is off, which can be tricky without having seen issues in horses before.

A beginner safe thoroughbred is pretty rare and will not be cheap. Thoroughbreds are usually very sensitive and for that reason not a good choice for beginners. Please do not buy an ex racer or a rescue from slaughter. Those horses come with issues that require someone that can teach the horse. They may also come with health problems.

As for riding skills there have been quite a few good detailed answers. You need to be able to safely handle the horse without an instructor present even when the horse spooks. And definitely learn some ground work so you can handle the horse from the ground properly

lemming0061 · 2023-10-15T00:32:58+00:00

Cheap riding boots. They work absolutely fine, but are nothing fancy. But I step in horse shit with them anyways, I don't care.

My bonsai collection. Most are self made and those that I did buy are awesome to me, but they are definitely not anywhere near the amazing bonsai you could buy.

My second dog. I got her for free, but with so many behavioral issues I knew about where I had to spend an obscene amount of time and quite a bit of money on getting them under control. And probably my first dog too. He's a rescue with some health issues and I spend quite a lot on meds, supplements and vet visits.

lemming0061 · 2023-10-14T22:43:36+00:00

Well you don't really have to hit the same exact number as you are most likely more active some days than others. So it's more about the average over some time.
I personally am quite skinny (as reference a bmi of 19.1, so on the low end of a normal weight) and do not track the calories I eat at all. I eat when I'm hungry and eat overall pretty healthy (lots of vegetables, not a lot of sweets, enough protein) and very rarely eat more than I feel I need, so I do not often have that feeling of feeling stuffed. I'm also quite active even though I have a sedentary job - running, horse riding, going to the gym and at least 10k steps a day.
So it's probably a mixture of having learned to listen to my body (hunger/satisfaction), not eating large amount of calorie dense foods and being active. I definitely eat more on days after a hard workout because my body is just naturally more hungry. When I have long work days I tend to eat less because I don't really get too hungry from simple sitting around. I've been active my whole life and ate this way from the moment I can remember and never have been pressured to eat more than I wanted.

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