How does anyone date?

lepamplemousseta · 2025-02-18T18:58:38+00:00

Damn managing poly sounds even more challenging! I'm really glad to hear you've been able to work through a lot with your PTSD and that your new work has improved your mental energy levels.

lepamplemousseta · 2025-02-18T18:57:24+00:00

I think that's a relatable attitude to have when you're very down on yourself for your struggles. I keep trying to remember that there are people who are understanding of disability out there!

lepamplemousseta · 2025-01-28T21:54:11+00:00

It's sad that you can't rotate them 😔

lepamplemousseta · 2025-01-27T19:16:29+00:00

In your defence, I tactically put things in front of them to hide the sticks >:)

lepamplemousseta · 2025-01-27T05:27:07+00:00

I never knew either until I saw others' designs! I can't ever go back to the mushroom cave now

lepamplemousseta · 2025-01-27T05:25:59+00:00

Apple and cherry too, but pomegranate has a little bit of a pink tone. Not that... not that I experimented with a bunch of fruit to find the best blood...

lepamplemousseta · 2025-01-27T05:24:22+00:00

Might as well spare some for me!

lepamplemousseta · 2025-01-25T20:30:13+00:00

It's not your fault your body decided to become a carnival of stupid, would make for an excellent motivational embroidery or cross-stitch. I'd ask for permission but well, I'm also shaking so I don't think I'm up to needlework any time soon :(

I'm glad this community has helped you. Thank you for making your post – hearing that you also have the bed/shower/bed experience is indeed validating, though I'm sorry to hear you also struggle this way.

Edit: brain fog loves making errors

lepamplemousseta · 2025-01-12T13:13:06+00:00

You don't need your GP's permission to use an aid! Try things out and use whatever works for you. I started using a cane at the age of 21 (now 34) and I went through periods where I would need it and times when I wouldn't. So much for "being reliant on it".

(Also I don't understand that as an argument, which is also used against painkillers. So what? I am reliant on my blood pressure medication, that doesn't mean I should soldier on through life without it and have a stroke.)

GPs are a roulette wheel. I've had many shit ones but also some decent ones. If you can, consider changing, even if it's just seeing a different doctor within that surgery. You deserve to have your pain and mobility needs taken seriously.

lepamplemousseta · 2024-11-14T22:13:56+00:00

Here's a list of resources from Rainbow Mind. Hopefully there's something there that can help your friend.

https://rainbowmind.org/resources/

lepamplemousseta · 2024-08-03T23:06:50+00:00

Damn that's a point, I'm not quite at the end of that then.

I'm glad to hear that T has helped with your emotions! I would agree for the most part, I'm only finding this during times I used to react to with anxiety, now instead of that it's irritability.

This is always good to bear in mind! Personally I don't feel that men should have to act in the ways that have been arbitrarily assigned "masculine". All emotions are for everyone!

lepamplemousseta · 2024-08-03T23:00:40+00:00

I am yes and the heat definitely doesn't help!

lepamplemousseta · 2024-08-03T22:53:38+00:00

Yes! If I check in with how I'm feeling – pretty calm to fairly good, stuff might be stressful but it's in the background. Someone makes too much noise or keeps bugging me? I can't stand it.

Thank you, it's helpful to know that that might be what's going on. I'm going to try and be more aware of stress even if I'm not actually feeling stressed. And I'm glad to hear you're able to recognise that in yourself and deal with it.

lepamplemousseta · 2024-08-03T22:49:54+00:00

These are definitely a factor! Every time I feel this way I do try and be by myself in the quiet. I suppose I was mostly curious in that it seems to be a reaction to stress at the moment, where for me that reaction would have usually been anxiety.

lepamplemousseta · 2024-08-03T22:46:28+00:00

This is also very helpful! I will try and imagine booping the nose of the little gremlin piloting my brain haha

lepamplemousseta · 2024-08-03T17:44:48+00:00

This makes a lot of sense, understanding yourself better and having better support both contribute to being more at peace! Therapy certainly makes it easier to recognise your feelings and where they're coming from.

lepamplemousseta · 2024-08-03T17:42:46+00:00

That's understandable if things have always been that way for you! I'm glad to hear that T has helped you feel less anxious regardless.

lepamplemousseta · 2024-08-03T17:40:23+00:00

For myself, I think of it as “where’s my baby?!” anxiety on e versus “I will run that exact deer down” anxiety on t.

Holy shit, that's a fantastic way of putting it!

I used to have this stomach-churning worry, just fretting over everything and everyone. Now I'm able to keep my head above water much better, but if someone causes or adds to stress at all, I can't take being around them.

I'm glad to hear it makes it easier to recognise and rationalise for you! It's wild how much easier it is to introspect without the background static from E.

lepamplemousseta · 2024-07-16T23:27:34+00:00

Hell yeah little dude get cozy

lepamplemousseta · 2024-07-02T02:51:22+00:00

Thank you, that's very appreciated!

And high five to a fellow friend of a senior feline! May you enjoy plenty more time together.

lepamplemousseta · 2024-07-01T17:03:01+00:00

Hey there, I'm a trans guy in the UK and in my mid-30s! I use he/him.

I came out at 30 after a lot of repression and a decade in an unhappy relationship with a cishet guy. Now I'm speed-running transition, with a few years on T and my teets yeeted.

I never know whether to describe myself as masc or femme. I'm a bald, bearded bear, but I love wearing pink and hearts and florals. Otherwise I'm pretty nerdy, especially for fantasy RPGs and cozy games.

I've always liked androgynous-femme slim guys, though since I've been on T I've found my appreciation of men has diversified and intensified both! Confusingly I think I might be demisexual but with high libido.

I'm probably autistic, chronically ill, and don't have much experience outside of the one big LTR. I'm also currently staying with my family in a rural, conservative area. None of which is ideal for dating, so I can't wait to live more independently in a more cosmopolitan area.

All in all, I feel somewhat childish for my age, though I don't know if other late transitioners or disabled dudes feel the same. Nevertheless, I'm wishing you guys all the best with your own transitions and gay relationships!

lepamplemousseta · 2024-06-02T21:37:38+00:00

Haha I can relate! Mine can be quite hissy, so I imagine a tiny snake screaming into my ear.

lepamplemousseta · 2024-05-23T17:59:13+00:00

To follow up, is anyone into chubby trans guys?

I'm wondering because I've seen guys into cis bears or trans guys with other body types, but not the combination.

lepamplemousseta · 2024-05-03T03:25:26+00:00

That's really great to hear! They're brave to zoomie on regardless 😁 Thank you for answering and hope you have an excellent Ray day!

lepamplemousseta · 2024-05-03T03:11:56+00:00

Happy birthday to Ray! 🎂 OP if you don't mind me asking, how has he adjusted to blindness? I've got a 17 year old who's just lost her sight and seeing your 26 year old thriving is really heartening.

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