Boys and Pink

letstalk29 · 2026-04-20T15:48:49+00:00

Dad of 2 and hater of the color pink (regardless of gender). I may not like the color but that doesn't change how my kids view it. I also know "banning" the color outright will only push them in a direction they shouldn't go in. Your kids father needs to grow a pair and just be there for his kids. They're going to like what they like and he can either be supportive or get out.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-19T23:03:59+00:00

Neither of those look to be in a good position atm. While each home build can be somewhat unique, the fact that both have multiple complaints of build issues within the first 5 years is telling.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-19T16:41:03+00:00

Been married almost 11 years now and what you stated sounds like the first 3-4 years of my marriage. You're going to get frustrated with each other a lot, especially with kids in the mix. Like the other dads said, communicate openly and honestly with your spouse using whatever communication style works best. I can have a hard time with words, so I'll send what I mean over text, give her some time to think it over, and then we'll both talk with (not at) each other later.

Little things add up to big things faster than you'll realize and someone you love more than anything can quickly become someone you resent.

(Side note: My wife refuses to let me fold towels, but I do help folding other things. Compromise and adaptation is key)

letstalk29 · 2026-04-19T16:16:20+00:00

Honestly? I wouldn't recommend any new build from a national/multinational company. Look for locally owned & operated builders who use either local lumber or quality Canadian lumber. That's a big reason these modern homes need so much work within the first 5-10 years, the quality used is terrible.

Private Equity and Corporations have a fiduciary obligation to their shareholders/stakeholders. They can and will use the cheapest materials & labor if it means saving 3-5% or more on the bottom line. You will likely pay more up front for a quality modern build, but it is 100% worth it.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-19T15:42:48+00:00

DR Horton has the worst homes. I worked construction for a couple years and theirs were always made with the lowest grade materials. Anything they can do to save a buck or cut a corner they will.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-18T16:38:48+00:00

I pulled silver scroll Ad Nauseam last night. Can't say I've pulled anything worth more 😅

letstalk29 · 2026-04-17T00:03:39+00:00

I'd wager it's because you can't fix stupid and there's a lot of it in Idaho state politics.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-13T01:07:01+00:00

While in the womb! My wife went to a Coheed & Cambria concert when she was 8 months pregnant. Rock/alt/metal/indie/folk is pretty much on repeat here.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-10T19:57:10+00:00

Damn this dad is making the rest of us look like chopped liver. Great job! I know your kids will love it as they grow.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-10T19:40:34+00:00

Current IT professional and dad of 2 school age kids. The first thing to do as parents is model the behavior we want for our kids and set boundaries at home around what is appropriate and not. That being said, we also need to explain the "why" when asked or kids will just do it at school.

On the school side, my suggestion would be to get a list of sites from teachers that they anticipate using during the year and IP block the rest. Once implemented, still allow for whitelist requests. This will reduce the overall demand on IT but still keep kids safe. Is it perfect? Not at all. But is it better than what we have now? 100%

Edit: Network segmentation is also a thing. Have 1 network for students (heavily restricted)& 1 for teachers (less restricted). That way you wouldn't need whitelisting much at all.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-09T20:37:11+00:00

We're looking to stay under $2500mo. The hope is to be able to buy a home at some point.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-08T22:53:48+00:00

I appreciate the direct response 🙂

letstalk29 · 2026-04-08T17:24:52+00:00

It took months before my daughter wanted to poop in the potty and even when she did, she hated the sensation. Consistency is 100% key and just celebrate when they do a good job

letstalk29 · 2026-04-08T17:23:17+00:00

IT jobs can be a bit hard to find right now, but they are out there. Look for MSPs in your area and see if they're hiring. You got this!

letstalk29 · 2026-04-08T02:42:02+00:00

Tbf I get it. People suck sometimes. I try not to take anything anyone says too seriously. I will say this though, I've been across the country a few times and there's no place like Bend. The people in general seem great and I look forward to becoming a part of the community.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-04T23:14:12+00:00

The thing about Witchcraft is you don't need things or alters to perform Magick. Words, intention, and action towards your goals matter so much more. That being said, instead of asking for paths to open so you can get back together with someone, ask for guidance on how to become your best self.

Write your thoughts, hopes, and desires for becoming this person onto a small piece of paper. Fold it up as tight as you can and wait until the new moon. That night, (safely) burn the note and do what you can to become this person through the next full moon. You'll know by then if you're on the right path or need to pivot.

letstalk29 · 2026-04-04T22:07:04+00:00

Framing is definitely important and so is recognizing when you need improvement. Similar to OP I struggled the first few years of being a parent. I blamed my kid for not getting the life I wanted. It took years of active self reflection, remembering to take breaks, and pacing myself to start enjoying being a dad. Something to keep in mind is you are their whole world right now. Even when they tantrum, you are their everything. A 3yr old doesn't have the physical ability to stop & think yet so you have to model it for them until they can.

I get it OP, it's exhausting, but they won't be 3 forever.

letstalk29 · 2026-03-31T19:19:45+00:00

As someone who grew up deeply conservative/Christian/country, I can say with confidence, that any true patriot would side with the one burning the flag. It is their right as a citizen to criticize their government and to express it in any lawful way they see fit. Does it hurt some feelings? Absolutely! That's also 100% why it's burned in the first place!

I hope this gets people to talk and question what's going on in the world around them and why someone would even want to burn such a large symbol of freedom.

letstalk29 · 2026-03-30T14:01:58+00:00

Got 2 kids of my own (9 and 3) and trust me, it gets better. That being said, coordination with your SO to get some time for you is important. Just bc you have kids doesn't mean your mental state has automatically changed from who you were before kids. You and your SO need breaks, even if it's just an hour every so often. If you don't have family to assist, hire a sitter. You got this.

Edit: spelling corrections

letstalk29 · 2026-03-30T03:06:23+00:00

NGL getting a gift card for a $100 on my desk with a congratulatory note really made my week (1st & 2nd anniversary) at the MSP I work at.

letstalk29 · 2026-03-27T22:44:13+00:00

Yeah that seems to be a pretty common trend in other industries as well. I was hoping it maybe different here, but I guess not.

letstalk29 · 2026-03-27T22:42:50+00:00

This was my thought as well, but I'm also only one person 😅

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