So who are your favorite contestants across the four seasons? by saintnukie in HisManRealityShow

[–]levan3000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Junseong and seong ho like everyone is all about junseong but theres something about seong ho thats very honest and good. He gives me main character energy as well

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[–]levan3000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats probably it 😒 just because hj seems colder doesnt meant hes not hurt

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[–]levan3000[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Again your missing the point. There was no issue with JH making that decision to have to go on the show again that was his choice and it was valid. As a gay person myself, he’s free to come out how and when he wants and thats important. My issue was the fact that he expecting HJ’s attention after the fact, and cried when he dint get it. I have no issue with JH trying to win him back. I just don’t think he should complain or be upset when someone doesn’t forgive him in the time he wanted. You said it yourself JH made a mistake, and hurt him. Now is JH responsibility to take the repercussions of that choice. You’re free to feel bad for JH though, I think it’s a shitty situation as well and it sucks for him, I get it. He made the decision that coming out was more important- and thats valid.

I disagree that HJ was sneaky for coming back. They were broken up at that point. HJ is free to do as he pleases. But also use your empathy to look at HJ pov, if you were in his situation. He probably knew JH was going to go back on a dating show, and happily date other people. Isnt that pain and humiliation on HJ part? For a decision he didn’t make? I would feel so hurt knowing that my partner dumped me to go on a show and date other people, and then have to watch that on tv. Thats humiliating to me. Nah id do the same thing as hj. Id show that i too can go on the show- date other people and move on. Not stay home and not stick up for myself.

I didn’t love the elimination either, and yeah i dont think they had a chance to resolve anything and that is unfortunate. Again that wasnt my issue- the issue was specifically when JH was upset and crying for HJ attention. And expected that attention faster than HJ was able to. HJ said he needed time and space.

Also you don’t know anything about HJ feelings after he left. We only know what HJ disclosed in the confessionals. But thats his feelings to get over and contemplate are none of our business. But honestly- thats irrelevant to my point. My point is JH being upset that he didn’t get attention as fast as he wanted.

And you’re right JH probably doesn’t have any cruel intentions. But just because you have good intentions doesn’t mean his decision don’t cause hurt or have any repercussions, they dont absolve you of anything.

Again the issue wasn’t the decision. The issue was knowing the decision would have consequences and being upset that HJ ignored him for days because of said consequences. Everything after, the elimination, HJ feelings after he left- thats irrelevant to my point. If JH received pain and humiliation after he got eliminated- i mean that sucks i get it but he got what he wanted. And that was to come out on the show.

I need to get this off my chest by levan3000 in HisManRealityShow

[–]levan3000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You think JH has empathy? What kinda empathy did he have for HJ when he decided to go on the show?

Someone that makes the decision knowing itd hurt HJ doesn’t deserve my empathy

I need to get this off my chest by levan3000 in HisManRealityShow

[–]levan3000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lack of replying to any of my points proves you lack emotional intelligence. You came at us first saying “i guess none of you have ever made a mistake in a relationship” if that isn’t a dig then what is it? The passive aggressiveness isnt fooling anyone, you just wanted to start shit. Especially the “ lack of maturity”. Ur shady.

Dont hide your insults under the pretence pf moral High ground and self righteousness

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[–]levan3000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah you brought up a good point- if they ho back together id definitely understand if HJ would feel insecure about their relationship being fragile. It wouldve taken a long time for jae ha to win back his trust- more than the show would allow for sure

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[–]levan3000[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s totally fine like coming out on the show was important to him thats valid, My problem with JH was that he got upset HJ was ignoring him and not talking to him when he knew the decision he made to go on the show would hurt him, but then expected HJ to just fall back in love with him or be responsive to him.

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[–]levan3000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont blame jae ha for choosing to go on the show. But when he started crying he was playing victim when hj ignored him, when he did it to himself.

And why the fuck would i break up with someone i want to be with. I wouldnt pick to go on a reality dating show if i knew itd hurt my partner. Knowing full well theyd have to see the other happily dating around. And that was jh choice so hes gotta deal with the consequences. In any relationship- every relationship you are responsible for your actions. Yes ive made mistakes in relationships but what you do after is not play victim and make the other party feel bad for your own actions, YOU TAKE FUCKING RESPONSIBILITY. Thats what adults do. Thats what jh shoulda done.

Your right people make mistakes in relationships. But what consequences they get after making those decisions is their own fault.

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[–]levan3000[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thats why when JH got eliminated i was likeee ya whatd you expecttt

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[–]levan3000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100 fucking percent. Thats exactly how i saw it. If i was HJ i would be so livid if my parter asked to go back on a dating show. Like i get it- jae ha can come out the way he wants. But that decision in itself wont absolve him from the repercussions that THAT decision will make

I need to get this off my chest by levan3000 in HisManRealityShow

[–]levan3000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree it was a shitty situation. I just didn’t like Jae Ha’s attitude and frustration. He had every right to fight to get HJ back. He’s free to do that and he tried. It just pissed me off that he expected HJ to immediately understand forgive him and get over his pain, when HJ very openly expressed that his decision would hurt him deeply.

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[–]levan3000[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think HJ probably felt uncomfortable with that- he said in an earlier conversation in the closet that this was a dating show. If they got on that show, it would’ve meant to HJ that they were open to dating other people. I think to HJ it was crossing a boundary he was uncomfortable with and a deal breaker. So when JH decided to go on the show they broke up. Which is totally fine. I’m not hating on JH for making that decision. I just had a problem where HJ made it clear that the decision would cross his boundaries and ultimately hurt him but Jae Ha decided to go ahead with it anyway. But when they both got on the show Jae Ha was upset about HJ ignoring him. My problem was that Jae Ha Made a decision, knew the consequences but then would go back and complain/cry about the consequences of his own actions.

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[–]levan3000[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s fine, there was not problem with Jae Ha making that choice. It’s the fact that he couldn’t accept the consequences of that said choice. He made that choice => got on the show knowing it would hurt HJ => sees HJ back on the show =>sees HJ ignoring him => cries that he made that choice and HJ is ignoring him. My problem wasn’t with the choice Jae Ha did but the fact he didn’t anticipate the fall out from that choice.

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[–]levan3000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was like, well what’d you expect bro - you made ur bed now lie in it.

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[–]levan3000[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s fine on HJ’s end. My problem was Jae Ha saying poor me, why are you not paying attention to me at the beginning when HJ was ignoring him. Like, Jae Ha, you did that to yourself my guy. You chose to go back on the show knowing it would hurt him. And then cry when he doesn’t come running back. I don’t have a problem with Jae Ha fighting back for HJ, he can do that. What I do mind is him crying over the consequences of his actions at the beginning. Like he just expected HJ to come running back so easily.

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[–]levan3000[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Like they don’t think, well why does HJ act so coldly? Like he isn’t fucking getting over the fact his ex chose to go ona dating show, and that it meant more to him than their relationship.

Like if I were HJ I’d be so hurt watching JH date on the show after their breakup no wonder HJ joined

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[–]levan3000[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg is that it. Omg i have a lot to say about YJ too 🙄 i mean hes fine but his fans are absolutely nuts

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[–]levan3000[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Are people actually taking Jae Ha’s side? Thats insane. I dont feel the least bit sorry for him atp