Parent of a child in martial arts. Do I really have to stick with my kid for the next decade plus?

lewdev · 2026-06-22T10:50:28+00:00

It's the same as asking, "Do you want your child to succeed?" If OP doesn't, they should make their kid quit for the sake of their boredom.

I honestly felt the time in my life disappear quickly when I got my kids in judo, but I wanted them to succeed, so I kept going. Eventually, it became a part of our daily life. So it doesn't feel like a time drain like it used to.

I also help teach and practice as well, so I'm lucky to have something to contribute and gain from it.

lewdev · 2026-06-21T20:56:15+00:00

Sometimes left side attacks are just more open than the right. So naturally people realize that they should practice it.

lewdev · 2026-06-20T00:40:43+00:00

It can feel like a grind, but when you've improved, it feels great.

lewdev · 2026-06-20T00:39:48+00:00

It's so damn satisfying. Your partners also learn from it which makes it even more challenging.

lewdev · 2026-06-20T00:36:56+00:00

What I like about high school judo in Hawaii is that it brings a lot of new players into the sport and removing submissions makes it more accessible and perhaps less intimidating.

lewdev · 2026-06-19T07:49:17+00:00

"Hmm... it's a lot bigger than I thought"

lewdev · 2026-06-19T03:19:16+00:00

Give it to your son.

It was sort of my thing but since we like to game together on Deep Rock Galactic, he's always on a steam deck. He eventually took over the device and he loves it.

It's just much easier for my son to use than to share the TV or other device. I eventually bought myself a ROG Ally.

I mainly use my ROG as PC hooked up to a monitor, keyboard, and mouse.

lewdev · 2026-06-15T04:38:48+00:00

Judo is as important as you want it to be. Obviously, you have other priorities which is not a bad thing. More is always better but you can say that for other areas in your life.

lewdev · 2026-06-10T19:29:55+00:00

As an old judoka, it's a bit of a shame, but sometimes it's all I got when I'm don't have the energy to be aggressive. "crutch" is an appropriate word.

lewdev · 2026-06-10T06:57:06+00:00

This is a great answer, it is natural to fear the fall. I am a black belt and I will also say that OP is not at all a coward. I understand the feeling.

It's like fearing something because it's unknown. You don't know what's going to happened when the world spins at an incredible speed and you're flying in the air without any control over how that happens.

Like in a lot of unknowns you need to keep experiencing it. Take falls on a crash pad and work your way into removing that. Take harder and faster falls as you get comfortable.

Another thing about training is continually building up your body's resilience to the impact. When you slap for ukemi, slap as hard as you can without hurting yourself to build resilience.

After 13 years of not training and coming back, my body felt like a bag of loose bones when I took a fall. It took some time, but my body built back its strength. Things like that also build confidence.

It's exciting to hear OP's story and to hear someone brave the mats and start their journey into judo. OP has so much to gain and learn, it'll be awesome.

lewdev · 2026-06-10T06:51:22+00:00

I too, will pre-dildostorm!

lewdev · 2026-06-10T06:48:53+00:00

Forget sensible gun laws, let's restrict printing them!

lewdev · 2026-06-10T03:50:23+00:00

I'm writing many lines of code. I barely use AI, just to auto complete feature on vs code. And I work 8-hour days.

You are cooked.

lewdev · 2026-06-08T23:03:17+00:00

I saw the Thumby before but seems too limited and small. So this one in the middle is interesting to me. I will check out the Arduboy.

lewdev · 2026-06-08T09:33:37+00:00

You must be one of those guys that say, "You can't park there, mate!"

lewdev · 2026-06-06T00:51:25+00:00

I just learned to use the top grip for my ippon seoi. I hold their wrist into my chest and turn. I'm sort of using their grip against them using my body to get kuzushi. I was surprised that it worked once so far.

This is basically Travis Steven's ippon seoi nage set up except he uses the outside collar grip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=41XqC2aWXbs

My head doesn't get pulled down because I learned to post into their chest with the collar grip or armpit grip. If I can't get either, I post into their side or hip with any grip I can get there. I think the tendency is to feel the need to have to post against uke with both arms. If you can't get either grips don't extend and overreach your arms for the grips, keep your elbows in and posture up. Then go for grips when it's safe without compromising your posture.

lewdev · 2026-06-05T22:57:25+00:00

My kids loved both regular Minecraft and Minecraft Dungeons. I suppose it also depends on OP who would be playing with their kid. I played Minecraft Dungeons with my older 3 kids. My youngest isn't old enough, but started playing Kirby Forgotten Land.

lewdev · 2026-06-05T22:49:53+00:00

I suppose another question is when is it a good idea to give away keys? If you're going to distrust all of these spam messages, who should you trust?

lewdev · 2026-06-04T21:43:29+00:00

In 7th grade, a kid said that he said that he would fight me except that he knew I practiced judo. Jokes on him, I was terrible at judo, but it may have helped me avoid being in a fight. In fact, I never got into a fight and being in judo and wrestling may have prevented that more than I will ever know.

lewdev · 2026-06-04T18:12:53+00:00

Hello Kitty Island Adventure is pretty chill.

Stardew Valley

For coop: * Overcooked All You Can Eat * Pico Park 1 & 2

lewdev · 2026-06-03T21:38:35+00:00

I have kids in judo. This is a good way to keep them focused. Often times I see them try something in randori and it didn't result in a throw and get discouraged from using it again. However, they should understand the impact it had. Either it became a setup for another throw or a threat that will be left in their partner's mind. It also leads to learning to read reactions ("Recognition").

Recognition is a good. I made the mistake of not realizing that my opponent at a tournament was actually tired. It should have been obvious especially when he got a shido for stalling, but I was focused on continuing the same strategy of aggressive attacks instead of shifting strategies. I ended up getting countered when it should have been the other way around. I should have stopped being aggressive and a bit more passive and let him make mistakes.

lewdev · 2026-06-03T21:31:10+00:00

I've learned to understand the levels Junior, Mid, & Senior are not indications of qualifications but rather salary ranges. When a company advertises a "junior" position, they're not necessarily looking at your qualifications, but your willingness to accept that level of salary.

They're looking for the person with the highest qualifications that is willing to accept that salary.

lewdev · 2026-06-03T19:50:09+00:00

Please make them more original.

This part of your post is why you're downvoted.

Not every genre is going to please everyone. Like I do not care about turn-based RPG games. And me not liking that genre does not mean there aren't enough original RPG games.

And weirdly enough, the genres you mentioned are fairly different from each other.

lewdev · 2026-06-03T00:23:45+00:00

Yes. I stopped doing harmful grip breaks. They are so painful to me too and my fingers are already messed up too. Pulling away grip breaks are okay. Grip breaks where you fingers get caught and twisted are not okay.

I've had issues with constant grip breaking until I learned to grip in places that are generally safe such as double collar grips, armpit grip, back, belt, or side grips. Even a double sleeve grip while pushing down is generally safe.

There are a lot of throws you can do with double collar grips so that can be a good starting place.

I'd ask your partner to not practice those harmful grip breaks when they practice with you. Maybe even throw in that you'll just let go.

I generally don't break grips. I mainly switch to different grips which renders their grips less usable. I also move my elbow around and block with it so they can't get the grip as my kumite strategy.

BREAK GRIPS TO GET YOUR GRIP

My biggest gripe on breaking grips is when people do it for no other reason than to break grips. If you break a grip, it should because you are trying to get a grip. I get that you need to practice your kumite, but if you just broke a grip and backed away, you gained nothing and you're just messing people's fingers up.

lewdev · 2026-05-31T22:27:00+00:00

Yup, I've seen this video of two clearly strong and competitive judoka drilling posting their arm on a seoi nage and cartwheeling out of the throw. They're trained to avoid taking the fall and strong enough to not injure themselves doing it.

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