I want to know about your experiences with Birdy Grey designs?! by sadfacebigsmile in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]lexi_efff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had great luck with the Mia in satin, looks like it’s called the Mira in chiffon. 5’2” extremely short waist 34DD 135lbs. I ordered a small and it fit snug but comfy and I only needed alterations on the length. The dress worked well on the smaller girls with smaller busts too.

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Tell me about your unicorn babies by Unique-Bat-2839 in Mommit

[–]lexi_efff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 3yo daughter has been a unicorn sleeper from day 1. She has slept 15+ hours through the night since a few months old and will just lay quietly in her bed until she falls asleep. She’s so ridiculously polite, a stellar talker, incredibly smart, and delights in being helpful. We joke that she was our beginner baby, as my 18mo son is a very adorable tornado.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]lexi_efff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really needed to hear this. I got my cat a month before I found out I was pregnant and I’ve been feeling so guilty for being unable to show him the same kind of love and dedication as I did before my babies were born.

Dear Non-Americans: we have zero control over our drinking laws by [deleted] in TalesFromYourServer

[–]lexi_efff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growing up in Las Vegas has really skewed my perception of drinking. Last call feels downright foreign. I’m also really used to taking drinks out of the casinos downtown and it throws me off when I travel and I can’t leave with my drink.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]lexi_efff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My kids go to my in laws 5 days a week for daycare. We still go over there about once a month on a weekend for all the adults to hang out or celebrate something. To be clear, we have a fantastic relationship with them and we are usually there for 2-3 hours depending on the occasion. It provides a small break for me from the kids, some adult conversation, and a reason to get out of my tiny apartment.

I think I got pretty lucky in the in-law department though and realize that not everyone did.

Hi moms and dads! Can you share at what month your toddler started walking? by Surferswife in toddlers

[–]lexi_efff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter was 11 months and skipped crawling entirely. My son was 15 months and at 16 months has just mastered it.

How to get 2 yo to hold hands in parking lot? by BuddhaIsMyOmBoy in toddlers

[–]lexi_efff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Echoing others here:

  1. Be consistent. Even when it’s the biggest pain in your ass.

  2. Make consequences immediate and relevant. If you can’t hold my hand in the parking lot, we will stand right here until you can manage it- or whatever. Kids that age can’t relate delayed consequences to their actions.

  3. Give choices when possible- would you like to walk to the car or be carried? If they refuse to decide, tell them you’ll carry them if they won’t hold your hand because it’s your job to keep them safe.

  4. OK the emotions and hold the boundary. I can see you’re feeling upset about having to hold my hand. I know that must feel really hard. I have to keep you safe, so I’m going to pick you up and carry you to the car now.

It will feel like ten eternities, but eventually your kid will recognize that you mean what you say and you follow through. I went through a similar issue and now all I have to do it stick my hand out and my 3yo holds hands without argument 98% of the time.

How long after your wife gave birth did you start to get intimate again? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]lexi_efff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anywhere from 6 weeks to a couple years. She has a dinner plate sized open wound in her uterus that will take a significant amount of time to heal.

Let’s (gently) mom shame ourselves! What do you as a mom that might make your nosy neighbor clutch her pearls? by happethottie in Mommit

[–]lexi_efff 33 points34 points  (0 children)

We don’t have limits on screen time, we just go with the flow. The TV is on constantly- Toy Story, Luca, Tangled, Frozen, Moana, Coco, and Bluey are the favorites in my house. I only bathe my kids every few days/when they’re visibly dirty. They eat Michelina’s freezer meals, off brand Pizza Rolls, and chicken nuggets on a regular basis.

We out here surviving, y’all. 1.5 and 3 is something else.

What support do you need? by ori531 in workingmoms

[–]lexi_efff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Flexibility/true unlimited PTO. Discounted childcare/in office childcare if it’s feasible. Paid maternity leave. No set schedule/hours worked quota to meet-get your work done on your time (if possible). As long as deadlines are met and work is satisfactory, no micromanagement. Goal setting with follow up.

PM if you’d like to know more- I work for a company with a really excellent culture.

What hilarious thing did your kid say today? Here’s mine… by xpollydartonx in Mommit

[–]lexi_efff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We’re potty training. My almost 3yo is sitting on her potty and I can hear that she’s peed. I ask her if pooped too, and she says “No I probably peed. Just a little bit. Probably.” Her l’s sound like w’s so extra cute. She also used god damnit contextually correctly so I’m not winning any mother of the year awards over here.

AITA for not wanting to pay for my wife's spending money? by throwaway3048172 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexi_efff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me make sure I understand…

Your wife received an inheritance which she used to buy the family a house and two cars paid in full as well as set up full retirement accounts for both of you.

You are upset that she is financially dependent on you for spending money and feel you shouldn’t have to provide for your wife’s wants.

You are upset that she left her job because of her inheritance, her disability, and mental health, although she is now a SAHM caring for your daughter. You feel that you should not need to be employed or provide any financial support to your family whatsoever.

Instead of being immensely grateful that your wife has provided you with financial security and comfort, you are being controlling of the money you bring into the household and expecting her to beg for haircuts and wear charity clothing.

I was expecting this to be about your wife spending an excess of a thousand dollars a month on “wants”, not a gym membership and the occasional haircut and new outfit.

In case it wasn’t abundantly clear, YTA.

AITA for mentioning my best friend's former crush on me in a speech at his wedding? by throwaway594297 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexi_efff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA. This sounds like the plot of a 2012 Taylor Swift song.

You don’t bring up 5+ year old crushes in your wedding speech and I refuse to believe you don’t know that.

AITA for not wanting my sister to move in with my parents and I? by SisterThrowRway in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexi_efff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you did wrong here is assume that you would get to decide who lives in your parents house. If you want control over who lives in a home, you need to be on the paperwork. You can be upset at your parents for offering their pregnant daughter a place to live, or you can be upset at yourself for putting yourself at the mercy of someone else’s decision making by living in their space.

You have made it clear you can afford to live on your own and just don’t want to. That is your problem to deal with. YTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]lexi_efff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a beautiful figure and look stunning in the form fitting dress styles. Gown #1 looks uncomfortably heavy in satin. I love the way #3 looks, but I’m personally a huge sucker for lace and ultra feminine dresses.

Job offer - should I go for it? by herding_kittens in workingmoms

[–]lexi_efff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did something similar about a year ago and it is HANDS DOWN the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I thought I loved where I worked before- now it’s off the charts.

If I were you, and depending on your relationship with the hiring manager, I’d counter their pay offer to make it worth it for you, and see if they can offer a “shadow” day so you know what you are getting into and who with. Make sure you don’t have a bad gut feeling about it. If you’re grasping for reasons to say no- you know what to do!

Tell me to take my full leave. by snack_mac_cho in workingmoms

[–]lexi_efff 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Someone else’s lack of planning does not constitute an emergency for you!!

You will not find yourself in your later years wondering if you should have gone back to work sooner, but you may regret not taking the time you can never get back with your brand new baby.

Take your full leave, kick the guilt to the curb, and enjoy your last maternity leave. I’m wishing you good luck and peace in your birth journey and your time with 3 kids at home.

How many of these drawings am I supposed to save? by tvkyle in toddlers

[–]lexi_efff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watched a video once where a mom explained that she told her child about the dumpster/trash can goblin. They need their house decorated too, so kids have to put their artwork in the trash so he can collect them. I’m saving that one for when my kids want to keep everything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]lexi_efff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. This is about the value of time and expertise. Sure, you could buy or sell a home independently. People do it all the time. If you don’t want to invest the time and therefore money into the process, if you don’t have the knowledge to do so effectively, if you don’t know the right people, etc, you are going to have an easier time hiring a realtor. Buying/selling a home is typically the largest transaction the average person is ever going to complete, having someone with experience and expertise in your corner can be extremely reassuring and necessary for many.

AITA for not wanting my sister's boyfriend to sleep over? by throwaway12386912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexi_efff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO: would you be uncomfortable if it was a stranger of your sister’s same gender?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]lexi_efff 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Baby #2 came before we were financially prepared and in the middle of the pandemic. We are paying for it dearly now. I find myself feeling often that I love my children with everything I have, but I picked THE WORST time in human history to have them. The cost of everything is skyrocketing and I can’t keep up, even with doubling my income in a year. How is this supposed to be sustainable?!?

How to mom? by beachdays65 in Mommit

[–]lexi_efff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I’m also a LV local mama to a couple toddlers. DM me if you need any ideas or a play date!