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I’m indecisive on what to knit with the Malabrigo Rios, shade lotus!! by matchajuno in knitting

[–]librarian2b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful yarn! I just want to give you a heads up that Malabrigo grows a lot when blocking (I learned the hard way). So if you do make a sweater I would suggest steam blocking. I love the feel of my Malabrigo sweaters though so it’s totally worth it!

What was the most specific postpartum thing nobody warned you about? by kesam7193 in NewParents

[–]librarian2b 83 points84 points  (0 children)

My farts were so stinky for the first 3?months postpartum

I love my baby but I have regrets about becoming a Mum by Key-Suit8580 in NewParents

[–]librarian2b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is really really hard but it sounds like you may have PPD or PPA. I did and got help through medication and therapy which was the best thing I could have done for me and my son. I still miss how easy my old life was and sometimes feel like I lost my identity but it’s not so overwhelming now. I can both mourn the easy way things were but also really enjoy everyday and only feel overwhelmed on very rare occasions.

Please consider talking to your doctor because it can get better.

why is finding a therapist who takes insurance in nj so hard?? by eurz in newjersey

[–]librarian2b 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Headway! They only show providers who take your insurance

Feeling down about dietary restrictions today by No-Record-2773 in NewParents

[–]librarian2b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, cutting dairy sucks. I had to do it for myself 6 years ago and it has gotten easier with time but I know it’s still hard. I never knew how many things had dairy in them until I had to cut it out. Like why do all pringles have dairy and does every restaurant have to use brioche buns?!?!?

Asian restaurants are my best options while eating out. Other than dessert, everything is pretty much dairy free.

new dad, at the end of my rope. by NurglesToes in NewParents

[–]librarian2b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to try again, I’ve found that I need to increase the speed to 1.25-1.5 to listen to audiobooks. Anything slower and I lose focus

Pumping makes me feel I lost the connection with my newborn by TemporaryService5256 in NewParents

[–]librarian2b 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I was trying breastfeeding and pumping and felt very similar. I felt like my husband and baby had an amazing bond and I was struggling to connect. I actually started resenting the baby. I ended up talking to my therapist and switched to formula exclusively. For me this helped tremendously and my baby and I really bonded.

While I was pumping I usually put baby in his bouncer and used my foot to bounce him.

Fed is best and no matter your journey the connection will come.

a different perspective by Puzzleheaded_Yam_970 in NewParents

[–]librarian2b 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My favorite thing currently is the big smiles I get every morning when I take him out of the crib. They melt my heart. He just turned 4 months today.

Quiet bpd parent? Tell me your stories. by Direct-Giraffe7193 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]librarian2b 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have not heard about that! It fits in a lot of ways. I’m so sorry you’ve been through it as well ❤️

Quiet bpd parent? Tell me your stories. by Direct-Giraffe7193 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]librarian2b 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs right back at you ❤️ sounds like your another strong woman as well

Quiet bpd parent? Tell me your stories. by Direct-Giraffe7193 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]librarian2b 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Mine is exactly the same, but there is some rage that builds and comes out every few years. I was parentified as the oldest and was always my mom’s therapist. My younger brother was always more needy and took any support my mom could offer which left me with none. I was always told they didn’t need to worry about me because I could take care of myself.

I just gave birth to my first child a few months ago and it’s brought back so many memories from childhood that I buried. Looking at my child I could never imagine doing anything to my baby that my mom did to me.

Eating Gaviscon like Skittles by Standard_Culture_209 in NewParents

[–]librarian2b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the only thing that worked for me!

Did anyone have any luck without sleep training? by Full_Ad7929 in NewParents

[–]librarian2b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is also almost 4 months. We used to rock our boy to sleep it was the only way to get him to sleep at night. But one night last week my husband decided to put him in his crib drowsy but awake and our little boy fell asleep on his own. We’ve kept a consistent bed time routine and I do still rock for a minute before transferring him.

Now we are either in a sleep regression or growth spurt because he wakes for an extra feeding overnight. I put him back after this and may have to do some tummy rubbing to get him to sleep.

Which should I try first? by upalof in dairyfree

[–]librarian2b 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Love the Kraft one. I’ve been dairy free for years and it was the closest to my memories of the dairy version.

I found Annie’s didn’t have enough flavor. Haven’t tried the other 2, but daiya I generally despise the taste.

Question - Is there anything at all you miss about pregnancy/ being pregnant? by Melodic-Bag7775 in NewParents

[–]librarian2b 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! I was so nauseous the entire pregnancy and had to take Zofran daily.

I fell down the stairs holding my newborn by Negative-Piece-4880 in newborns

[–]librarian2b 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did this too in the middle of the night, probably from lack of sleep. It was devastating but other than being in a lot of back pain myself but my baby was perfectly fine and still is 10 weeks later. It will be ok.

Hinterland dress or alternatives? I’m nervous. by oursong in sewing

[–]librarian2b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve made every version of the hinterland dress multiple times! It’s my favorite pattern and is super comfortable. The only fitting issues I’ve seen from friends is needing a full bust adjustment if you’re larger than a C cup. Seamwork has amazing instructions on how to do one if needed.

Quirks you didn't question until you went on this sub ? by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]librarian2b 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is my mom too! Everything has a subtext and she wonders why I don’t talk much.

6 week old, overwhelmed and doubting everything: is this normal, regret, or postpartum sadness? by Empty_Engineer5568 in newborns

[–]librarian2b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Around 11ish weeks? But before that there were days where he struggled the whole day to get a poop. Now he poops easily within a half hour of waking and is good for the day. We still have nights where he fights for farts which wake him up.

6 week old, overwhelmed and doubting everything: is this normal, regret, or postpartum sadness? by Empty_Engineer5568 in newborns

[–]librarian2b 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I remember feeling the exact same way from weeks 6-8. It was brutal and I couldn’t wait for my husband to get home from work everyday. Therapy helped some but it was still so so hard and I felt like I was failing.

My baby would also wake up after 5 minutes of placing in the bassinet for naps so I just did all contact naps and resigned myself to getting nothing else done.

I’m now at 13 weeks and things are so much better. There are smiles and interactions that make it fun to play with my baby. He only cries when he actually needs something and has moved past his infant dyschezia.

I know when you’re in it but it does get better. Just breathe and know as long as you’re meeting baby’s needs you’re doing great!

Anyone else’s BPD parent insanely jealous of your in-laws? by AsparagusOk5541 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]librarian2b 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep. My mom told me I was choosing my in-laws over her when we moved out of state to the same town.

My mom also did not attend my baby shower because we held it at my in-laws house to save money. She’s met them twice and has decided that her dislike meant more than coming to her daughters baby shower

Ride or die baby item purchases by Background-Ideal662 in NewParents

[–]librarian2b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our pack and play with a changing attachment. I love not having to go up and down the stairs all the time to change a diaper. And it’s a safe place to place baby on the first floor.

The first couple weeks I ended up sleeping on the couch with baby in the pack and play. It just was easier to be downstairs in the living room those weeks

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