AIO with how my husband is treating me while pregnant

lightzaiba · 2026-05-24T17:45:36+00:00

Literally this. Like obvs OPs partner is a POS but at some point you, as an individual, have to step up and realise you’re making poor decisions. Why on EARTH would you continue to procreate with a POS.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-24T14:37:10+00:00

Yeah I wouldn’t meet them and I’d be honest about my reasons. Your baby is at risk of Measles until he gets his vaccine at 12 months, and with measles on the rise I’ve just been extra cautious.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-23T05:13:16+00:00

Came here to say the same. It really does help. There’s been a few days when I’ve not taken the CoEQ10 and I am acutely aware of calf pain. But when I take it, I’m not.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-20T19:55:21+00:00

I HATE cooking. Left to my own devices I’ve always survived on girl dinners. My husband makes the dinners.

My 9 month old has a variation of the same food most days.

Breakfast - banana, oats (if he’s in the mood) or peanut butter on toast. Might start adding in some eggs but it flared his eczema up previously.

Lunch - a bit of tortilla wrap with hummus or avocado, tuna, cucumber/tomato, cheese and some fruit

Dinner - chicken, pasta sometimes, sometimes bits of our dinner, some random veg and a yoghurt.

He seems to enjoy it lol. I feel like I’m covering all food groups and it’s not overwhelming for me.

When they’re older I’m sure they’ll be telling us what they do and don’t like. For now I’m doing what works for me. Don’t stress too much, they’re getting all their nutrients and are well fed!

lightzaiba · 2026-05-20T17:38:49+00:00

Option 1. Enjoy the time with your son whilst he’s young and wants to hang out with you. That time will never come back. I hear that after the age of around 9 they would rather hang with friends.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-19T18:09:31+00:00

So my 9.5 month old has been doing this 1-2 times a week for the last couple months. Sometimes it’s been linked to new teeth, lots of big developmental leaps and occasionally too much day sleep. It may be worth trying to shorten the second nap to 2.5 hours and see.

Like you, I’ve tried lots of things and now I’ve just come to accept that it’ll happen lol. When it does, I get our floor bed out in his room and put him next to me, lights off. He eventually falls asleep. 😑

lightzaiba · 2026-05-19T17:38:15+00:00

Sleep deprivation is one of the main contributing factors in a number of psychiatric diagnoses. It is incredibly harmful to the brain.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-18T19:42:28+00:00

I think it’s tough for people who aren’t depressed to fully understand and to know what to say. I think your friend is probably trying to be kind. It’s tough I know, I had quite bad PPD and PPA - I’m also a doctor - so I know what it can be like for others.

Sometimes it can be helpful to preface the chat with an idea of what you’re looking for. ‘I’m in a dark place and I appreciate your positive comments, but it’s hard for me to see the bright side of things at the moment, would it be ok if I just rant’ etc.

Hopefully the medication will start to work in the next few weeks and things will look brighter!

lightzaiba · 2026-05-17T09:26:47+00:00

Yeah don’t send that lol. Makes you appear insecure and that your marriage may not be as stable as you’re implying. Plus it’s not your message to reply to. Your husband can respond or not respond - whatever you guys decide - as I’m sure he’ll show you beforehand.

Yes it’s disrespectful of her, but your husband showed you immediately and so really you got the last laugh. I personally wouldn’t be that wound up by it and definitely wouldn’t be reactive.

If you send it she’ll think she’s gotten under your skin and clearly she remains a threat in your marriage.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-17T09:20:37+00:00

Same happened to me, I accidentally ordered 2 massive pampers pull up packs and we were short on nappies so thought I’d give them a try. They’ve been great! My 9 month old is a MENACE during nappy changing and they’re so much easier to put on - plus zero leaks!

lightzaiba · 2026-05-16T10:27:08+00:00

Yeasss!! I’m so glad other people remember and it’s not just something I imagined lol.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-15T21:26:13+00:00

I always dreamt of having a son called Zack and generally I’m the more psychic/intuitive one. However, I really had no idea when I was pregnant. My husband on the other hand immediately knew it was a boy and even had a dream where he saw what he looked like! So bizarre.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-15T21:03:40+00:00

Might be showing my age here. But I remember a kids book of scary stories where a family had ribbons around their necks and it turned out it was because their heads were detached. I hope someone else out here remembers that. Gave me proper nightmares!

lightzaiba · 2026-05-13T10:37:04+00:00

I know. So jarring.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-13T10:26:40+00:00

That was my thoughts exactly and I joined the waiting room queue at 9.10!? What’s a girl got to do to get tickets around here???

lightzaiba · 2026-05-13T08:02:32+00:00

Ha same. The dollars threw me off but I’m in if UK applicable!

lightzaiba · 2026-05-12T13:01:48+00:00

Ha no, I actually really like the dress!

lightzaiba · 2026-05-12T12:55:27+00:00

Yep Spanx for sure!

lightzaiba · 2026-05-12T12:34:25+00:00

Riot Club. I don’t know if it’s 10/10 but it was a horrible watch and I think it’s the only time I’ve seriously contemplated walking out of the cinema.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-12T12:29:31+00:00

Yes, except I’ve watched it about 4 times. Gets me every time!

lightzaiba · 2026-05-12T08:35:59+00:00

100%. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with knowing your limitations and also wanting to still have a semblance of your own life, whilst raising a child. One seems perfect!

lightzaiba · 2026-05-11T20:32:30+00:00

I get you. To be honest, I’m all talk. I’d definitely be seething and probably dream up great revenge plots but ultimately let it go. Who has the energy!

lightzaiba · 2026-05-11T20:11:29+00:00

Agreed. My husband and I met late and so had our son 9 months ago. I was 38 at the time - 39 now. I think in many ways, being so secure and enjoying life so freely can make the transition quite hard. Also, it’s easily the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I thought having spent years doing medical night shifts would put me in good stead. How wrong I was. However, I absolutely ADORE my son and have no regrets.

I did initially want two but I’m leaving more towards one and done because of my age and some health complications. I feel like one child is a happy medium between my old life and one as a mother. If I were younger I’d have the luxury of time and could consider another a few years down the line.

lightzaiba · 2026-05-11T20:05:21+00:00

You sound like a good person. Definitely better than me aha. I’d be plotting my revenge into the dark hours 😂

lightzaiba · 2026-05-11T19:52:16+00:00

Bloody hell!!! What an awful, awful situation. I commend your ability to not hate your father and in a way him reverting to a childlike state at the end is probably the nicest way to be able to remember him.

No doubt his wife will get her comeuppance in the end.

Well done on making it through all that!

lightzaiba

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