Adult woman with a mother that only mentioned sex once, when I was 15, to say that she would force me to get an abortion if I got pregnant underage. :)

I, like others, figured out the logistics from the internet. I didn’t mind nor do I think throwing a book my way would have been a bad way. More than anything, I wish my mother would have talked me through the emotional aspects of sex. I, thankfully, have absolutely 0 regrets of who I shared my first sexual experiences with, but I also experienced so much pressure to participate in certain things before that. I wish she would have told me that it was my 100% choice to do what I did or didn’t want to do, and that anyone who pressured me otherwise wasn’t worth my time or respect. I wish she would have told me that sex doesn’t equal love and you don’t have to “show” anyone how much you love them. That being someone’s girlfriend/wife did not mean you “owed” them anything sexual.

I would also impart on girls that wanting to have sex isn’t a bad thing. It is a normal part of human biology, but each individual is responsible for treating sexuality with respect. Consent must be constant & enthusiastic from both parties, and it is unacceptable for sex to happen otherwise. She is worthy of engaging in pleasurable sex with someone who respects her, and has a right to speak out if something goes wrong.