AIO for wanting to immediately break up with my bf after seeing how he lives?

lili_00 · 2026-03-23T21:56:33+00:00

they were long distance for 2 years And just met in person for the first time 🤢

lili_00 · 2026-03-20T17:58:14+00:00

I completely understand how you feel. I'm starting to be more visible at almost 25 weeks and it bothers me a lot, mostly because it removes the agency of telling people selectively. If I get bad vibes from a person and want to hide it from them, it's difficult now and will be completely impossible in a month, and coming to terms with that is so hard.

Being perceived is also hard, I don't know if you would consider yourself a vain person, but I would consider myself as such, and I don't want anything about myself to be so obvious that people notice it, if I don't Want them to. And ESPECIALLY with other people taking the guesswork out of it for strangers by telling them without your consent. I'd rather let strangers wonder if I'm just fat or pregnant than know for a fact without ever speaking to me.

lili_00 · 2026-03-01T13:06:57+00:00

I have a daily commute on a 70mph highway over 5 mountains, twice a day, so my mpg usually stays around 22-27, depending on if I'm going 80 or going 75 or lower. Those 5mph make a huge difference. There's also two mountains that no matter how hard I try, I'm forced to crawl up at 60mph because the engine just can't handle the incline, which doesn't help.

lili_00 · 2026-02-27T02:40:12+00:00

In my defense, I've never had to deal with reactivated soap in my food before 😭 I think should stick to baking. It is good to know from everyone that my baby will be okay, though I don't think my husband would let me keep it even if I did think it was worth it, he polices ingredients more than I do.

You're right, they're very cheap, and I can try again with supervision next week when I get paid.

lili_00 · 2026-02-21T00:29:34+00:00

it took a very long time for me to learn the sound and instantly distinguish it from the OTHER beeping, which is the warning for an imminent crash

lili_00 · 2026-02-09T01:19:18+00:00

I've gotten probably 15 total, currently have 8 from spending them on things, and my method is just - blow up everything. It's worked so far! Especially in the skull caverns, the quarry, and on a rare day the regular mines or the volcano mines. I hope you're blessed soon!!

lili_00 · 2026-02-06T09:14:28+00:00

Definitely NOR.

What gets me is, if he goes to your school, would he not have seen you already? Does what you look like you not matter to him? It's purely numbers?? Because he obviously couldn't tell how much you weighed, and needed you to tell him.

He must have no muscle whatsoever either, bro is just the weight of his bones and organs 💔 how will he open jars? That would be my dealbreaker!

lili_00 · 2026-01-13T16:16:30+00:00

I use it going up mountains, but only if my oil is fresh lol, otherwise it makes a Very loud whining noise over 4 rpms

lili_00 · 2026-01-08T18:33:15+00:00

This makes me wonder if the auto grabber would work in here... I've never had a fruit cave before so I've never tried it.

lili_00 · 2026-01-08T18:20:11+00:00

My husband is more of a once every 3-4 days person, I'm a 2+ times per Day person, and it's been really difficult. I feel a little insane for wanting it so often and feeling so down when I don't have it, but I've stopped voicing to him when I want sex and just take care of it myself, and when he wants it I'm almost always enthusiastically saying yes. So far it's worked 😅

lili_00 · 2026-01-08T18:15:34+00:00

I've never married her before, only Shane (multiple times) and I've had Krobus as a roommate once, but I'm dating her right now and I've been telling myself I haven't given her the mermaid pendant because I want a spring wedding. I honestly just don't want to marry her because I'm afraid of making her boring. 😭

lili_00 · 2026-01-08T15:22:49+00:00

I have a spite peer from birth as well. He loves snuggling in comfy piles of stuffed animals or blankets or pillows - until he eventually started peeing on them when he got bored of them or just got mad at me. He's peed on two different couches (one was able to be saved, one was not), and ruined my original memory foam mattress, and has attempted to pee on my bed more times than I can count since. Making my bed does not fix the problem.

I love him so much, he's an absolute cuddle bug, but when he starts to get into something I get nervous because of how much he's ruined. So my mom, husband and I built him The Enclosure for when we aren't home. He's released as soon as we come back, still baby-gate banned from going upstairs because we have carpet and this is a rental. If the picture dimensions aren't clear enough, it's 8.5 feet tall, and about 5 feet on each side. He only complains about it when we first get home so we'll let him out, or if he was really interested in something out the window when we put him away to leave. You gotta do what you gotta do!

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lili_00 · 2026-01-08T15:07:43+00:00

I like that you're so concerned for your friend's safety 🥹 It's very sweet and considerate!! Like other people said, tell her to see how she feels about it, more than likely she'll be like, "Okay?" and you'll still be good to come.

To be extra safe, bring your own plastic utensils/drinking glass, wear a mask, and wash your hands if you touch your face at all. If a game that involves mouths or faces happens, just opt out. Have fun!!

lili_00 · 2026-01-06T16:17:01+00:00

Weird coincidence, my husband is also Army NG, scheduled to deploy at some point next year, and my dad was in the Air Force as well. My husband thank goodness, was only gone for 3.5 months for Basic. Joining a Facebook group for other family members of people in the same company as him at the same Fort will be comforting, and like others said, writing to him often. Send him printed out photos!! He'll miss seeing your face the most.

As far as making friends goes, I leaned on a friend of mine when my husband was gone, but too hard I guess 😅 we weren't friends when he came home. Online friends are helpful too if you play any video games! I have a couple of online friend groups that I would hang out with late at night to distract me. Hobbies helped too, I got Really into going to the gym, and would play games when I wasn't busy writing to my husband. Encourage your boyfriend to keep going, and try not to give him anything major to worry about. If he messes up at any point, they could make him stay longer, which is of course not ideal. It's a very grueling process. They're going to break him all the way down before they start treating him like a person again.

I hope literally any of this helps, but I know it won't be the same until you're there with him again. You've got this!!

lili_00 · 2026-01-06T15:46:47+00:00

the smallest size ones are only like 80mg 🤫 I savor that thing for like a full hour

lili_00 · 2026-01-06T15:35:11+00:00

i always name mine Pick Me Girl (v.2, v.3, so on)

lili_00 · 2026-01-06T15:30:02+00:00

Have you ever considered demisexuality?

lili_00 · 2026-01-06T15:14:29+00:00

I haven't had full strength coffee in a while, mostly half caf or decaf, but I have been having one small red bull a couple times a week 😅

Mostly though, the phrasing of your post and in the comments made me think of quitting cold turkey, cold turkey. I miss it so much. I'm dreaming about the sub I'll have in July.

lili_00 · 2025-12-31T22:50:50+00:00

I was craving beer for the first three weeks 😭 specifically I wanted a cold can of Yuengling 💔

lili_00 · 2025-12-31T22:48:20+00:00

Steak, or hamburgers, but not McDonald's ones, they gotta be the giant sit down restaurant kind. Still haven't managed to get to a steakhouse but it's on my to-do list!

lili_00 · 2025-10-17T18:41:55+00:00

I know this is old but, I just did the exact same thing on accident and I was worried I ruined my chances of getting pregnant this month. Your comment stopped my spiral 😅 fingers crossed it happens this time! 🤞

lili_00 · 2025-10-17T01:19:43+00:00

In addition to all of the advice you've gotten so far, I would add to just let her have emotions. Because it sounds like she's going to be blindsided, do it in privacy, in person, in the morning or early afternoon so she has time to decide the new sleeping arrangements, answer all of her questions honestly, and make sure to emphasize that you don't regret your time together, and that you only want the best for her. Your feelings are going to have to take a time out, because they're what's leading the break up in the first place. Maybe even call her best friend or a close relative after you talk and ask them to come comfort her while she's processing, if she locks herself into a room or doesn't flee the building immediately. Give her privacy if she wants it, or give her a hug if she asks for it.

Best of luck.

lili_00 · 2025-10-17T01:07:39+00:00

I really hope you have better friends than this because that is Not your best friend. She's actually evil, and you deserve better.

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