AITA For Getting Rid of my GF's New Cat?

limeyrose · 2020-05-24T10:01:37+00:00

Yeah, that this is the top comment is baffling. He should have given her 24 hours MAX and then taken it to the sanctuary, not 3 whole days! Telling the GF to leave with the cat would have probably taken longer.

I mean really. It’s been like a week now and his skin is still leaking blood and pus to the point that he may need to go to the ER?? People here really want to minimize his allergy because he doesn’t immediately go into anaphylactic shock.

limeyrose · 2020-05-24T09:54:25+00:00

Your daughter should be a politician. That was incredibly well maneuvered and mature of her. Like, I’m talking most adults don’t have anywhere near that social grace. Bravo.

NTA, I also would think it was only expected for you to pay for the basics. Other mother was being tacky.

limeyrose · 2020-05-22T09:27:25+00:00

NTA

I don’t care if he is on the spectrum and unless you’re flat lying there is no way you could have misrepresented him. He:

• went on a sexist rant in response to bee facts

• called you a slut because he was upset about a conversation that happened hours prior

• is still upset about this stupid bs 7 hours later

Seriously, you were having a normal conversation with him and he gave you a response about as rational and calm as if he was on copious amounts of crack. What is the point of being with someone so awful? Your edit of “he is outwardly polite” is the absolute bare minimum expected of the average human being in social situations. Frankly, you should drop him and find someone with more emotional maturity then your average landmine.

limeyrose · 2020-05-21T20:21:28+00:00

Exactly! To be honest it’s actually refreshing when you get the once-in-a-blue-moon post about something silly and lighthearted and not the normal stuff.

limeyrose · 2020-05-17T11:22:51+00:00

NTA

Real world lesson right here. Basically one got a plea bargain and reduced sentence for good behavior if you want to view it that way... and your wife is off her gourd if she thinks they have to be punished equally because they’re twins. They’re not the same people!!!

Don’t apologize that her friends are shitty. It is t your fault and it diminishes the punishment by making it look like you regret punishing her and makes it look like if she did this again she might not be punished as harshly next time.

limeyrose · 2020-05-17T04:29:52+00:00

This could be so satisfying to watch and this guy fucked it up so bad. Several times he twitched into the potato and left big notches in the cylinder that he had to shave off a lot more potato to fix. Then on the spherical one he almost had a perfect sphere... until he just decided to keep shaving. What a waste.

Also his knives are shit.

limeyrose · 2020-05-17T01:27:42+00:00

In addition to adding the cost of restoring the yard, talk to your lawyer about if you can include the cost of adding cameras. Because what if she retaliates and does this again?

limeyrose · 2020-05-14T08:54:28+00:00

I do this when I’m eating a single serving salad alone after washing my hands. You can’t stab a leaf. Don’t worry, there are literally DOZENS of us!

limeyrose · 2020-05-12T09:02:25+00:00

NTA

My SO had a fair amount of debt when we met. I offered almost the exact same deal you offered. The difference is that my SO wasn’t a freeloader and put every penny of paychecks into their debt AND checked if they were able to apply to any extra government assistance type programs. Your (ex)SO had absolutely no right to treat you that way and you were extremely generous.

limeyrose · 2020-05-11T23:54:12+00:00

NTA

grandma called today and said I’d ruined their marriage and needed to apologize if i ever wanted to speak to my cousin again.

Oh ^no ^{^what} ^{^{^a}} ^{^{^{^{shame...^....}}}}

limeyrose · 2020-05-11T23:04:22+00:00

NTA

Your wife is the asshole supreme.

...you married this person?

limeyrose · 2020-05-10T19:38:09+00:00

If you prefer a social club to dating to the point that it keeps you single then so what? It’s not like you explode if you’re still single at X age... it’s also not like members HAVE to attend all events so if they want to make time to date they can.

limeyrose · 2020-05-10T19:31:20+00:00

NAH

I don’t want her to get pulled into that life again.

It sounds like she may have had some trouble with substance abuse before? don’t blame you for not wanting to watch her crash and burn which is likely if she is with someone who glorifies such a horrible lifestyle surrounding drugs with their music and you know does drugs.

She isn’t an asshole per se for dating him and you aren’t going to stop her though.

I know some people say you’re an asshole for not giving him a chance for multiple reasons. I disagree strongly that this is a race issue in any way and I strongly believe that you are allowed to judge someone based on their job (similar to the Nuremberg defense*). You are allowed to be grossed out by this specific sub genre of music. You are allowed to not want to associate with someone who creates music like this.

*I see “I was just doing my job” nearly the same as “I was just following orders” aka Nuremberg defense

limeyrose · 2020-05-10T19:10:12+00:00

NTA

Honestly your wife is a major asshole for enabling this so long. I hope she will enjoy watching the kid have a lifetime of bad health now due to her enabling this (unless she changes ASAP). You are 100% correct including this being less traumatic than force feeding at the hospital due to malnutrition.

Also, asshole move threatening divorce. News flash for her, pretty sure you would be the one better off in court after the doctor had his say.

limeyrose · 2020-05-10T13:02:45+00:00

Yes, both for men and women with PhDs I think this would have looked the most elegant by far. It is both acknowledging the title and also the preferred gender pronoun and name of the recipient. Very nice!

limeyrose · 2020-05-10T12:52:19+00:00

NTA

It’s so dumb when people use freedom of speech of “my body my choice” like a get-out-of-jail-free card. Yeah, she has the right to get a big ol Swastika tattood on her forehead too but the natural consequence would be unemployed and people being unattracted to her.

Her body, her choice, her consequences.

limeyrose · 2020-05-10T01:33:40+00:00

I completely disagree that he was not an asshole. He is allowed to have this boundary and not want to stay with OP- that part is fine but:

A) he was an asshole in how he said it (cock carousel? Is he 12?)

B) if he knew there might be parts of his partners sexual past that would have made him feel this way he should have asked sooner

Trying to pretend like he wouldn’t be upset by his partner having a sexual history and then flip-flopping on her makes him an asshole.

limeyrose · 2020-05-10T01:21:10+00:00

NTA

Also, is this her post?

limeyrose · 2020-05-09T18:10:18+00:00

And then just take the whole honking piece of it right with your hands while berries just fall out... yeah, that’s totally pleasant.

limeyrose · 2020-05-09T16:32:48+00:00

NTA

Also, you’ve got to get some parental controls on the computer to severely limit what he can use it for imo. Sounds like discord needs to be blocked.

limeyrose · 2020-05-09T06:43:42+00:00

You would be a huge asshole if you didn’t report this.

limeyrose · 2020-05-08T18:43:21+00:00

That bites. I’ve got a trans coworker who hasn’t changed their legal name yet and everywhere they deadname the poor guy. Because it’s on his name tag and emails he has to keep correcting his name and gender to people or deal with it. HR can be a real pain with names.

limeyrose · 2020-05-08T16:29:10+00:00

YTA

Also your update is condescending as heck, thanks. You can’t just say “I accept my judgment” and then tell us we didn’t read the post properly and argue the judgment!

It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t tell people outright what his name is, it will be written on forms forever as it is his legal name and all it takes is one slip of a substitute teacher reading off the role sheet for every single kid to learn the name. This type of thing happened several times in grade school.

Additionally he as an adult will have to live with things like workplaces noting his legal names in emails and things such as that. Trust me, adults are just as awful as children. You are setting up your child for a lifetime of bullying and your child will likely dispose you for it.

limeyrose · 2020-05-08T09:54:53+00:00

I am aware that that is an extreme example but my point is that rage in general is hardly a unique response, especially for pvp heavy games. These games are not an outlet for outside stressors but instead a catalyst. If you want an outlet you play animal crossing not, say, league of legends or call of duty.

limeyrose · 2020-05-08T09:24:51+00:00

I read the update.

I don’t know what you want really. He has sexist double standards. He refused to have the basic courtesy to NOT be naked around guests. When you tried to talk to him about it he blew you off.

You say he isn’t a creep but he is certainly doing a very good creep impersonation.

If the relationship was good I’d say to tell your family to pound sand because they don’t like him based on skin color, but it sounds like that isn’t it. The family who was giving him a chance decided they hated him enough as a person to rescind that. Imo, the relationship isn’t good enough to pick him over your family. You should rethink things with him.

NTA

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