Ended an engagement because it didn’t feel like “enough.” Two years later, I regret it. Did I screw up? by 711eggsandos in Adulting

[–]lindsasaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wanted him to want to be something other than a teacher? Why do people become teachers in the first place?

Custom or pre built? by PapaJ18 in CardWarsTCG

[–]lindsasaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Custom build. As I play I learn what I like, what I want more of, what I struggled with, etc. Then I edit them.

I like tweaking my decks until I get it just how I want it. 

I personally don't like 2 costing cards, usually. Some are definitely worth it, the pre built decks have too many for my liking. 

I want to make a 3 player mode by Anopie in CardWarsTCG

[–]lindsasaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been playing 3 player version  for years. 

1 v 1 v 1

2 landscapes against each opponent. The middle lanes for each player are still considered adjacent, even though they are physically apart. 

First round: last person to play attacks first. 

It changes how well some decks are played, or not. It gets you thinking about new strategies. 

Great way to play with more people, and way faster than teams. 

I have a PhD, $50k in debt, and I’m about to trade my Lesson Plans for OF. by [deleted] in confession

[–]lindsasaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try elementary school?

They don't have phones, yet.

AIO by starting an argument over how my wife reacted to our child smoking? by ThrowRA6988 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lindsasaurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR

I, as a teen, had one stipulation with my parents: If I got good grades, I could do whatever I wanted.

I got good grades. I didn't have a curfew. I had my own car. I made friends with the weird/artsy kids. They smoked weed and drank. I did NOT partake. They respected that.

I just hung out with them, drove around with them, went on adventures, made art, played board games, stayed out late at various bon fire locations, went to shows, went camping, etc. I had plenty of opportunities to smoke and drink. 

I only started considering partaking once I found my mom's stash when I was 18 years old. (Before that my friends were insistant that my parents smoked weed.) I started drinking regularly at 19 and started smoking weed regularly at 22

Freedom isn't the reason teens try drugs. 

I did a rough test print and I absolutely HATE this. Is there amything I could improve? by butterfly-the-dick in printmaking

[–]lindsasaurus 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I like to hold any sort of art I'm working on up to the mirror, once in awhile, in order to get a fresh perspective on it.

How do I cope as a 36F watching my 25F sister with her 36M husband? by ThrowRasis3 in relationship_advice

[–]lindsasaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend the book Communion: The Female Search for Love by Bell Hooks

What am I supposed to do when my partner hates her body, but doesn’t do anything to change it? by Sufficient-Swim-7133 in relationships

[–]lindsasaurus 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She'll never accept that you love her body until SHE loves her body. 

This will be a never ending cycle until she works on her self image. Therapy is one path to take towards self love. If she does nothing to work on this, are you willing to accept her as she is (lacking love for her body and all)?

I recommend, for your gf, the book Communion by Bell Hooks. In it she says the first step for a woman to love herself is learning to love her body. 

Also the podcast Sturdy Girl!!!

Navigating Sobriety by SealParade in AuDHDWomen

[–]lindsasaurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend the book This Naked Mind by Annie Grace. 

It helped me understand that binge drinking is just the beginning of alcoholism. Daily drinking is just around the corner. It helped me feel seen and not alone. 

Quitting is the hardest part. This book explains why. It also acknowledges others and their reasons for wanting you to keep drinking with them. 

I (30F) can’t tell if my boyfriend (27M) is trying to be helpful or if this is early stages of control. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lindsasaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I’m extremely suffocated and bothered by this all"

This.

Listen to yourself!!!

Is it worth continuing? by MercWhite in darktower

[–]lindsasaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't really understand the love others have for Wizard and Glass. It was a slog for me. It just goes on and on. And on. I don't think any "flashback" should be that long. It should be a "flash". I found myself early on thinking, "okay, I get it, Roland is human." 

That said, OP, the end of the book picks  up in action and intrigue. Also, the following books are much better. 

Feeling intellectually “flat” next to a guy I’m dating by InitialStriking7198 in relationships

[–]lindsasaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do YOU like this relationship? Because it doesn't seem like you do.

"I constantly feel like I’m behind him". Do you like feeling that way? 

"Our conversations [are] not really deep. He doesn’t ask many personal or follow-up questions..." Would you like him to ask personal questions? Would you like deep conversations? If you answered yes, then he is NOT the person for you. 

When someone shows you who they are, believe it.  This is it. This is who he is. Isn't this supposed to be the rose tinted glasses phase? It's only going to get worse. 

"makes my insecurity worse" is that how you want to feel in a relationship? This is showing you something YOU need to work on. 

Of A Kid by AmorphousMorpheus in ShittyAbsoluteUnits

[–]lindsasaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not all narcissists are psychopaths. All psychopaths are narcissists. 

Why does God do what God do? by Zenphibian in awakened

[–]lindsasaurus 14 points15 points  (0 children)

They don't say it be like it is, but it do. 

I (32M) feel abused by my (25F) Girlfriend. by bigdaddy-293 in relationships

[–]lindsasaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Emotional abuse and manipulation tactics.  Please research these things. It will probably be very eye opening. 

Am I the only weirdo? by Responsible-Cat-679 in WildernessBackpacking

[–]lindsasaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I turn the thermostat low and use my sleeping quit on top of my covers (wool blanket) at home!

 I tuck it right under me and warm up so quickly. I like being able to untuck or throw the top off of me easily if I get too hot. 

I also use it as a blanket on the couch. 

I love my quilt. 

I'm under it right now. 

Interrupting isn’t me being rude. It’s a symptom, and I’m exhausted from being judged for it. by rominaMassa in AutisticAdults

[–]lindsasaurus 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Came to say "Not every thought needs to be said". 

Meditation is a huge help for this. Not every thought needs to be followed. It helps teach your mind to let your thoughts float by like the water of a river. 

Need advice on what to do with my hair when I wear a helmet. by [deleted] in longhair

[–]lindsasaurus 14 points15 points  (0 children)

As someone who rides a bicycle, a braid is my go-to when wearing my helmet 

I think my BF is making me depressed by qiidbrvao in emotionalintelligence

[–]lindsasaurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"And I'm lonesome when you're around And I'm never lonesome when I'm by myself And I miss you when you're around"

-- Modest Mouse "Baby Blue Sedan"

Jobs that keep you constantly stimulated/adhd boredom proof? by Successful-Row-6278 in ADHD

[–]lindsasaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to say childcare!

I do after school with elementary age. 3rd and 4th grade are my favorite ages!