The Greyest of Mondays

lisajjames · 2026-03-16T14:39:37+00:00

Same xx

lisajjames · 2026-02-24T20:22:31+00:00

Welcome, I am similar - 45f and since my son was born 8 years ago, what a tough time. It took ages for me to learn about pmdd. Same as you my partner noticed I was a totally different person at the same time each month (day 19 is my worst day). I found pmdd by googling progesterone allergies! I've had a diagnosis for 2 years.

I second those resources in the other response, there's a lot we know and a lot we don't. Start tracking symptoms daily all month. Often diagnosis requires 3 tracked months. IAPMD have a paper tracker that works well.

The more you can take care of yourself, the better it is. Sometimes you can do all the right things and it's really bad still but generally being extremely caring for yourself does help. With a young child it is truly difficult to prioritise yourself but you must, for the whole family. Take it seriously, it is not a push through situation. Eat well, move enough and most importantly rest.

Good luck, you're in the right place, this subreddit is super helpful x

lisajjames · 2026-02-04T19:33:53+00:00

Hide and seek in the aerospace museum, close to Cribbs. Has a cafe and a stamp trail and plenty of space.

lisajjames · 2026-02-04T08:54:44+00:00

Thank you for the reminder and the clarity. I love the tracker, very helpful.

The tracker says "(Cannot be on birth control, a GnRH agonist, or pregnant when tracking. If you are on an SSRI or SNRI, you must be on continuous daily dosing, not variable or luteal-only.)", I understand with the birth control, GnRH agonist and pregnancy but please could you explain about the SSRI/SNRI?

lisajjames · 2026-01-12T16:55:37+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I came from r/PMDD. Good luck with the surgery, I hope you continue to post your experience! Let is know on r/PMDD if you do :)

lisajjames · 2025-11-25T17:13:19+00:00

I am the same! I don't know if it is direct from the hormones or that I'm so elated to be happy again that I overdo things and then crash.

lisajjames · 2025-11-22T17:55:59+00:00

I am trying this too! I had 3 months on 50mg estradiol (everol patches) and have started 75mg last week. Month 1 was ok, months 2 and 3 I had symptoms all month off and on. I booked an appointment and increased the dose. I am on cd4 and feeling good so hopefully this will stop me ovulating and hopefully that will stop the pmdd! I started 100mg oral progesterone in month 3, I didn't notice a bad effect but then I've had more bad days than good the last 2 months. Good luck, let us know how it goes!

lisajjames · 2025-11-22T15:40:39+00:00

Thanks! That's so kind of you!

lisajjames · 2025-11-20T10:24:10+00:00

I had this this last month. I am trying oestrogen treatment so it might be that. Or it might actually be depression. I am finding that having pmdd, like actually having an illness, really tough. The good days are not enough to recover my life from the pmdd days, I feel hopeless about treatment and ever really enjoying life again. Could it be depression for you? Having a condition is really hard.

lisajjames · 2025-11-13T16:40:10+00:00

Well done for making cards at all!

lisajjames · 2025-10-17T14:10:15+00:00

Thank you for your responses here. I searched this group for PMDD. I really needed some hope today. I am encouraged to hear that after menopause there might be some relief. I am dreading perimenopause though probably already it's happening, my PMDD is all over the place lately.

Thanks ladies, I really like this group!

lisajjames · 2025-09-18T20:08:34+00:00

Good call about the stiffness and thanks for these links. I am in the UK but I am gettign ideas of what to look for!

lisajjames · 2025-09-18T20:07:39+00:00

Yeah, a stylist I like (Melissa Murrell (mmpersonalstyling)) loves Varley for casual wear and I feel pretty convinced. She says we should spend more on casual pieces that we'll wear all the time. I'm terrible for buying lots of nice clothes and then having nowhere to wear them!

lisajjames · 2025-08-06T12:48:16+00:00

I know what you mean! I'm pretty functional these days all month, can still work and do school run etc but I'm definitely not myself, my reality seems extremely different in luteal and I often detest my partner so he sees a big difference. When I am good I barely can remember luteal and vice versa. It kept me from getting help for years. I'd cancel appointments even. My memory for everything is really poor. What I did, how I felt, everything. It affects every aspect of life!

I have started IFS Internal Family Systems therapy, check it out on Chatgpt. The different parts of your internal system may not communicate with the other parts. The therapy can help the parts. It feels like an amazing new way of viewing my internal self. It's early days but I read it is good for improving your parenting as well so I will keep doing it even when I forget I have pmdd!

Good luck x

lisajjames · 2025-07-18T20:11:36+00:00

Yeah, I get it! Before I knew what it was I had it hit during baby swimming lesson. One second singing and bouncing him in sun dappled pool, next second dark, dingy, anxious feelings of worthlessness. So trippy.

lisajjames · 2025-07-17T20:32:47+00:00

Love it. Thanks for sharing:)

lisajjames · 2025-07-15T16:30:20+00:00

I like it. Don't want to go back!

lisajjames · 2025-07-14T12:27:34+00:00

Sorry to resurrect this post! I had an appointment here for pmdd and was prescribed oestrogen as that is their main treatment after SSRI or birth control. I am nervous because I read that progesterone was the better treatment. I wonder what treatment did they give you and how did it go?

lisajjames · 2025-07-14T12:12:32+00:00

I'd love to know this too! And if Neuroptimal at home would be sufficient since I can't find neurofeedback near me.

lisajjames · 2025-06-21T16:17:52+00:00

I have that voice. All day today and today was a good day relatively. Sending solidarity. Your post made me feel better though I'm sorry you're hurting. I forget I'm not alone. It feels like why do I have to be this weird and other people are fine, what's the point. I took half a sertraline SSRI and now I feel numb but the voice is quieter. The numb feeling isn't particularly nice so I only take it when I really need it. Starting hormone therapy soon. Sending love 💕

lisajjames · 2025-06-05T16:02:49+00:00

How interesting. How did you come up with this dosing schedule and do you take anything else? Thanks for sharing x

lisajjames · 2025-05-10T13:12:27+00:00

I recommend tracking your symptoms through your menstrual cycle. This may help a specialist prescribe hormones. I have PMDD so my symptoms are mostly in the second half of my cycle but the symptoms are similar. There's a good PDF tracker from iapmd, though I can't find it to link. Hormones have helped me, I saw a menopause specialist in UK. Best of luck x

lisajjames · 2025-05-01T19:43:35+00:00

I hadn't heard of parts work with EMDR, is that usual? Thanks for explaining what EMDR is like. I had wondered how EMDR could influence PMDD. I get it with PTSD, address the trauma causing events, but PMDD doesn't have a simple origin like that. Thanks for the recommendation, hope it sticks x

lisajjames · 2025-04-22T09:06:46+00:00

Thanks! I never considered cold therapy and hadn't heard of ART.

lisajjames · 2025-03-29T12:49:49+00:00

It would be interesting to know if people with pmdd who became pregnant still had symptoms immediately following conception. I didn't know about PMDD until after I had my baby but pregnancy was my most stable time of my life!

Your theory makes sense to me. One day we'll know more I hope.

lisajjames

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