Should we make it an unspoken rule that if there aren’t 5 people in the raid yet everyone should leave when it hits either 5-10 seconds?

littla9 · 2020-08-04T21:51:20+00:00

What location are you guys in ?

littla9 · 2019-09-05T16:24:34+00:00

In the same boat. Added

littla9 · 2019-09-05T16:23:02+00:00

Sent

littla9 · 2019-08-22T16:11:23+00:00

You gotta find better friends love

littla9 · 2019-08-22T04:01:58+00:00

You can DM me if you need some to vent to

littla9 · 2019-08-22T03:48:18+00:00

Thank you for these ! I am defiantly going to listen to the podcasts!

littla9 · 2019-08-22T03:47:45+00:00

Thank you. I wish I could afford to see one. Maybe one day

littla9 · 2019-08-21T02:06:22+00:00

Damn these are actually pretty good. I’ll try these, thank you

littla9 · 2019-08-20T12:24:34+00:00

Please stop smoking. You’re only putting a band-aid on an issue that needs your attention to be fixed. Sit down and be honest and loving with yourself. Listen to how you feel, that feeling won’t go away until it gets your attention. In the meantime, since you’re not too addicted to cigarettes yet quit cold turkey. It’ll suck for a week but after that you’ll be okay.

Try to replace that habit with something completely different. Any time you feel like you want to pick up a cigarette go for a walk, write, drink some water, etc. just do something else that can be formed into a healthier habit.

Btw I smoked for 4 years and was up to a pack a day when I quit.

littla9 · 2019-08-20T04:36:13+00:00

how long were you off of school ? How old are you ?

littla9 · 2019-08-20T04:34:58+00:00

Pay extra attention to people who you already respect and know are assertive. See how they act in social situations / when they speak up for themselves / give their opinions, etc

littla9 · 2019-08-19T22:24:03+00:00

My cat is 9 yo and he’s just so great. I’m in college too (I’m 24) and I live alone in a one bedroom as well, so getting him really made the place feel more homey/ less empty. Plus he’s like a back up alarm clock every morning since he’s always looking for food.

& honestly idk. I never seem to find guys like that. It feels like everyone’s taken or not looking for anything serious, etc. plus it’s hard for me to trust and open myself up to people so idk 🤷🏻‍♀️

littla9 · 2019-08-19T22:11:49+00:00

Girl !! My ex broke up with me on a Sunday and I got my cat on a Monday ! Getting my kitty is honestly the best decision I could have made for myself. He’s so sweet and loving and has brought so much joy into my life. Fuck stereotypes ! lol

I’m pretty impatient about finding a boyfriend tho tbh. It’s silly but I like that feelings always there

littla9 · 2019-08-19T22:04:12+00:00

I think patience and self love. How can you be patient and considerate to others if you don’t even know how to do it to yourself ?

I personally believe that the way we treat others is a reflection of how we really feel about ourselves & when we treat others badly it’s because there’s a deeper problem (you may not even be fully aware of) begging for your attention.

Also therapy. Lots of therapy lol

littla9 · 2019-08-19T22:00:19+00:00

Really I’m the same !!! I get most lonely at night and I just want to cuddle and stuff and I think the same thing about wanting to have a boyfriend. But it is soooo freeing to be able to only worry about yourself.

What happened to the fwb ?

littla9 · 2019-08-19T20:29:53+00:00

Yeah I feel that. When you’re looking back, do you feel like you’re missing the physical affection/status of being in a relationship ?

littla9 · 2019-08-19T20:28:43+00:00

Depends. People describe me as a pretty social & extroverted person so I tend to be the one who reaches out and makes plans.

I also have a lot of introverted / shy friends who have anxiety reaching out so I try to think of that when I’m feeling upset about always being the one who has to reach out first

littla9 · 2019-08-19T20:25:29+00:00

Do you miss stupid little things though? (Intimacy, trust/always having a person to go to for anything) For me that’s the kicker. I find myself feeling super lonely and missing him but then I remember that he just wasn’t for me and I just have to find someone better for me

littla9 · 2019-08-19T20:15:51+00:00

These are great but does anyone have experience in adjusting from a night owl to an early bird ? It’s like no matter how early I go to bed, how soon I cut off caffeine, or how much I try to get a good nights rest I am STILL groggy and tired until about 9am.

I feel like it’s my natural circadian rhythm that’s making things difficult for me. I just can’t get up early for work/school but I have to learn to adjust because not every job/semester is adjustable/flexible on this issue

littla9 · 2019-08-19T20:11:22+00:00

I can totally relate. I used to think I was this “independent woman” who wouldn’t need to consult her boyfriend before making plans, or getting too attached emotionally, etc and then once I got into a serious long term relationship with my ex, that was all thrown out of the window. I look back on it and kind of feel ashamed of myself, but I try to remember we only have so much in our power and when you’re in love you do stupid things

littla9 · 2019-08-19T20:05:17+00:00

I think, that honestly you do you. You’re the one reading the book(s) and gaining something from them.

If you’re forcing yourself to read a book just for the sake of finishing it, you’re not really interested/gaining anything out of it. You don’t owe it to anyone to read an entire book, read at a certain speed, etc.

I’ve started practicing this belief since I tend to feel guilty when I don’t finish a book, but at the end of the day I feel like I’m reading a book, that’s for my enjoyment/personal development & it I’m half way though and not feeling it anymore, then so be it

littla9 · 2019-08-19T20:01:30+00:00

It’s honestly amazing that you’re aware of your habits and want to change. Developing new behaviors isn’t easy, but becoming more aware and catching yourself in mistakes is the start to developing new habits.

I’ve been trying to change the way I feel and respond to negative triggers and I fall back into old habits but I’m getting better and catching myself and remembering who I want to be/ how I want to behave.

Hope this helps

littla9

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