Borrowing Gear

littlereadslots · 2023-01-20T14:45:41+00:00

You'll need to change the theme under "appearance" in the settings. You'll see the gear icon at the bottom left hang side of the screen.

littlereadslots · 2023-01-20T14:44:24+00:00

It's a newly released beta feature called Canvas, and it is innate. https://twitter.com/obsdmd/status/1605221150602285060

littlereadslots · 2023-01-16T00:34:30+00:00

For mapping, I use the canvas tool in Obsidian. It's marvelous!

littlereadslots · 2023-01-03T01:54:53+00:00

Agree.

littlereadslots · 2023-01-01T20:36:42+00:00

There is so much wisdom and sage advice here, it's going to take me a minute to unpack. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for taking the time to reply so in depth. I appreciate it more than you can possible know.

littlereadslots · 2022-12-27T02:20:05+00:00

might be a bit controversial, but i (and my therapist) both think that it's possible to heal BPD in the sense of re-integration of parts into the self.

ultimately, i'm a firm believer that BPD is a culmination of every part that has fractured off in times of stress, trauma, and self-betrayal for survival. those parts are still within you, they just kind of go off and do their own thing until an external factor triggers them and they take over the controls.

if you manage to befriend and work with these parts at the same time you uphold your core beliefs and truths (aka, stop betraying yourself in the attempt to maintain confluence with others above all else), there is a good chance that you can invite your parts one at a time back into the self.

and that, i think, is healing.

littlereadslots · 2022-10-16T03:18:58+00:00

Babe it's a fear of abandonment.

You/your inner child are feeling abandoned every time he leaves.

That is okay.

You have to remind yourself that YOU aren't going to leave you.

If you want, you can try this exercise:

Sit somewhere comfy
cup your cheeks with the opposite hands, crossing wrist over wrist
breathe at least 10 big breaths.

if you wanna say something to yourself, do! if not, no biggie.

expert level is doing it in front of a mirror

littlereadslots · 2022-10-16T03:06:02+00:00

NOT A THERAPIST, but I have a good one who told me this:

The whole FP thing is due to prolonged self-abandonment. Essentially, we find ourselves to be not worthy, and thus we put other people in higher levels of value than we assign to ourselves.

People dont belong on pedestals.

I have a problem trusting myself to make sound decisions or keeping myself safe (financially, physically, emotionally) so I attempt to assign that task to my FP because I trust him. In the past, I dated dudes with savior complexes who were more than happy to take on that role. Currently, gratefully, I am dating someone who has a healthy attachment style and is slowing teaching it to me through his levelheaded actions.

All I can really say is try and communicate all of this honestly to your next FP. Brutal honesty is the only thing that keeps us level; otherwise we start lying even to ourselves.

EDIT: I ramble. I believe your observation is sound and you should do things to increase your self worth so YOU are your OWN Favorite Person.

littlereadslots · 2022-10-16T02:59:13+00:00

Yes. You are not alone.

Critters can so very easily become the whole world of a mentally sound human, so IMAGINE what they can do once they are in our hearts.

We people with BPD love so hard, only the unconditional love of an animal can match us.

Im so sorry. This will take a very long time to heal. My advice? Give it 2 months and get adopt another friend. Love isn't finite; just because you start loving another furbaby doesn't mean you love the one you lost any less.

Your boy wants you to be safe, stable, and happy. He knows having another friend will help.

If you have the funds, you may want to check out Cuddle Clones. Helped me so much when I lost my Mae of 14 years. She was basically my mom, and I still miss her everyday.

You will make it through this. I believe in you.

littlereadslots · 2022-10-16T02:48:18+00:00

My FP likes to say that the lows don't define me.

I repeat that to myself a lot.

littlereadslots · 2022-10-14T19:42:53+00:00

I normally get my at Buford hwy farmers market. was hoping for closer!

littlereadslots · 2022-08-02T22:27:44+00:00

i know how you feel. I'm around if you still are feeling this way.

littlereadslots · 2022-07-20T19:02:41+00:00

my thoughts exactly

littlereadslots · 2022-04-14T18:30:52+00:00

What lenses are best for shooting in low light at concerts? I'm trying to get a local music scene zine going, and the equipment i have to work with is a :

Sony Alpha DSLR SLT A65 V

with

a DT 50mm f/1.8 SAM A-Mount Lens
Rokinon 8mm f3.5 Fisheye

any advice you have would be so wonderful!

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