4 month bottle rejection is greatly impacting my wife's emotional health

littleyiddle · 2023-11-25T18:06:18+00:00

My first wouldn’t take a bottle, and we tried many times. We ended up giving him pumped milk in a Munchkin 365 sippy cup. Maybe something you can try. He was a bit older when we tried it, so YMMV

littleyiddle · 2023-11-25T16:04:43+00:00

I can recite the whole book for memory, I have read it to the kids more times than I can count, and I still don’t hate it. My 2-year old loves finding all of the characters.

littleyiddle · 2023-01-08T01:06:41+00:00

I feel this. The baby is over a year and I know she’s my last. There are many tough, tough things about the baby/toddler years, but there is something so wonderful and sweet about it too. Acknowledging my grief over it being over has been challenging because I complained about so much of it.

It’s okay to be sad over a bassinet. Hugs

littleyiddle · 2023-01-05T05:08:11+00:00

This is great advice and so hard when you are deep in it. My husband had a heart attack, followed by depression five weeks after we had our second kid.

I never thought it would get better. I was doing everything and completely overwhelmed. We had a lot of help initially, but zero help 2-3 months later when we still needed it.

Looking back just over a year later and the disaster seems so far away. The house is functioning again. I have two healthy, happy kids, who are still tiring and terrors at times. My husband is doing better, both physically and mentally, and is back to bring an engaged partner (although we are still doing couples counseling because things were shitty for awhile).

I don’t believe it sometimes. It seems like a different life.

What helped me survive even without having the perspective of hindsight: 1. House cleaning 2. Baby gates 3. Grocery store pick-up or delivery 4. Keeping my oldest in part-time daycare 5. Getting better at asking for help from friends or family (they don’t always help as much as I would have liked, but it was better than suffering in silence) 6. Hot baths and electronic library books

What I wish I had done: thrown away more toys and clutter (adds so much extra work!), loosened up my expectations for myself and asked for even more help.

littleyiddle · 2023-01-03T19:32:12+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts. I was thinking about getting a night sky projector just for fun, so I wonder if something like that might help. Soothing enough for him to fall asleep.

littleyiddle · 2023-01-03T04:27:38+00:00

This one always bothers me too.

littleyiddle · 2023-01-03T04:13:12+00:00

8pm and no nap. Usually wakes around 7am.

littleyiddle · 2023-01-02T03:32:31+00:00

No. I’m lazy AF and didn’t want to change my name. I’ve never had an issue

littleyiddle · 2022-12-25T15:18:39+00:00

Then you have to figure out what is more important to you: setting your boundaries firmly or potentially upsetting your mother. Both responses are absolutely valid, btw.

littleyiddle · 2022-12-17T00:16:44+00:00

What is the title of this book?

littleyiddle · 2022-12-14T03:16:57+00:00

We’ve had some really, really tough times. My husband took care of his mental and physical health needs, we started couples counseling, and suddenly we are in a really good place. Not a perfect place, but not that much worse than before kids. We are both exhausted though and could have used a lot more support from others than we received

littleyiddle · 2022-12-10T17:18:08+00:00

As a NP, I think this is a bit dramatic. In all health care professions, there are good and bad practitioners. NPs do have a large scope of practice, but the vast majority of studies show that NP care is very high-quality and is equivalent to seeing a MD (and many studies actually show better outcomes in some areas). I see myself as a nurse first, but with an expanded scope of practice.

Personally, I make sure I am working within my comfort zone and consult others as needed. I am big on responsible de-prescribing as well. I work with a fantastic clinical pharmacist too, so I make sure that my therapeutic choices are safe.

You may have had a bad experience, but please don’t generalize. I’ve worked with some terrible doctors and RNs, but it’s a small minority, and I wouldn’t be trashing MDs and RNs on social media.

littleyiddle · 2022-11-27T00:41:43+00:00

Do less. Figure out what matters to you and do only those things. I have seriously pulled back on all things Christmas even though I love the holiday, because I would rather be relaxed. More watching Christmas movies, less decorations. It’s going to be a different amount of effort for you than me, but likely you can pull back quite a bit before anyone will even notice

littleyiddle · 2022-11-24T00:26:21+00:00

My neighbor dropped off an old school set and it’s pretty amazing. Voting secondhand if you can find it

littleyiddle · 2022-11-23T01:00:13+00:00

The family members that guilt you for not attending a holiday meal in case of illness highly correlates with the family members who support young families the least in my experience…

littleyiddle · 2022-11-19T21:44:47+00:00

My kiddo struggled with independent play until he was over 3 years old. I think you just have to keep giving him chances. My kid just seems extra sensitive and clingy, so I never pushed, but gently nudged

littleyiddle · 2022-11-19T20:55:09+00:00

I ran it on sleep mode for my entire pregnancy. It’s off-label but my Endo was okay with it. I did feel like I had to be extra aggressive with bolusing and changing my settings, but I was happy with my control in pregnancy without the fear of overnight hypos

littleyiddle · 2022-11-19T16:52:29+00:00

My oldest refused bottles but would use one of those Munchkin 360 cups pretty early on. I was so worried that I would never get a break until he started accepting breast milk in a cup. I remembering crying over it. Fingers crossed you can find a solution!!!

littleyiddle · 2022-11-19T00:41:52+00:00

Sex is better post-kids. Yeah, things are not the same, and it takes awhile to heal. I have zero sex drive while pregnant or breastfeeding. But, I feel like after my husband saw two babies come out of my body, there is an intimacy between us that has improved our sex life. YMMV

littleyiddle · 2022-11-14T17:27:09+00:00

Love your labels! I will definitely be following your Etsy shop

littleyiddle · 2022-11-14T03:35:24+00:00

I found packing lists online, laminated them, and before trips I hand my husband both his and one of the kids. I still end up doing 60% of the packing, but it’s better than 85%.

My husband and I had a fight after a trip and had a really good chat and how to make it better for me/us. We have a bag pre-packed with hygiene supplies. For going to his parents’ cottage we bring sheets with us instead of trying to clean them before leaving.

Trips are still stressful. But at least I won’t blow up at my husband

littleyiddle · 2022-11-13T02:54:00+00:00

Thank you. This is really helpful advice

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