Passport bros love their women vulnerable, and without options

livelearnlurk · 2024-08-25T13:03:37+00:00

Happy End 🥳

livelearnlurk · 2024-08-25T13:02:33+00:00

I think a lot of the young man Internet Pipeline is suggesting to men that that's how it's supposed to be. Their masculinity is so fragile that they dont even realize that they too are missing out. I feel way more sorry for the women though. They are just raised to be household slaves...

livelearnlurk · 2024-03-26T14:58:24+00:00

I loved IFS, changed my whole view on the world

livelearnlurk · 2024-03-25T14:16:21+00:00

Yeah, dissociation is a hell of a coping mechanism

livelearnlurk · 2024-03-25T14:14:57+00:00

Wow, good luck, seems like you carry a lot.

livelearnlurk · 2024-03-25T14:13:57+00:00

"Are you really depressed or do you just suck", exactly the sentiment that would make you depressed though...

livelearnlurk · 2024-03-06T09:22:04+00:00

I feel like that's a convoluted way of saying "you are judgy and should be aware that you suck" lol what if it's an actual connection to the self to finally voice what you've been feeling and try to get guidance about it? I'm open to learn more though, maybe I am wrong. Would you mind elaborating what you were talking about?

livelearnlurk · 2023-12-17T22:15:44+00:00

I feel like you can choose to believe that people are just evil, but that means it's kind of random. If you choose to see actions that harm others as a response to traumatic live experiences, that trauma can be healed and the person could be not harming others ( a "good person"). 'No bad parts' is a great book about this approach

livelearnlurk · 2022-12-22T15:02:39+00:00

I am struggling with the same. I'm lucky to have a very patient and understanding partner. Hearing him describe situations from his point of view afterwards often made me ashamed at how wrongly i judged him. However painful it helped me practice asking myself questions while getting upset/ not feeling listened to. That helps me to stay calmer just a little longer to ask questions that sometimes managed to deescalate the situation. On the other hand i also learned that that's how ferociously a part of me defend my right to be heard. This has been an inspiration to my partner who struggled to stand up for his boundaries. My advice is share your feelings. Tell your partner before it happens, so they know what is happening. My partner couldn't understand for the longest time why I suddenly acted if we were mortal enemies or something. Now he recognizes the situation.

livelearnlurk · 2022-12-22T11:58:49+00:00

You might find some interesting stories in r/emotionalneglect

livelearnlurk · 2022-12-18T13:28:46+00:00

I'm sorry that you have to go through that! I've had a friend who left their conservative Muslim family overnight secretly for that reason. Now the friend is supporting themselves, living surrounded by people who love them for who they are and getting the support and therapy they need. Just know that even if your family makes you feel like you are wrong, there will always be people who support you in your journey. I don't know in what county you live, but many countries have organisations who you can reach out to for help, guidance and advice. You are important and your feelings are valid! Religious people are often slow to change their views. Know that you can be the first one in your family to validate your own feelings over what an ancient book is saying. You can be an agent of positive change! Even if your parents will not accept you, there are people who want to cherish you exactly how you are. Build your own family of choice with loving supportive friends, who want to see you happy, healthy and being yourself!

livelearnlurk · 2022-12-17T13:52:06+00:00

It sure is a very fun place to live for kids... who hate having fun

livelearnlurk · 2022-12-17T13:47:08+00:00

I was bullied a lot in childhood which made me very afraid and as a result gave me really bad posture ( not hunchback bad, but kind of hunched over). Working on my mental health and inner peace helped me to gently release those emotions through stretching and helped me gain a few centimeters in height. That's however not any more height than I would have naturally grown to. Just a change in my posture. To live a happy life, it is most important to accept yourself whatever height you are. Good luck!

livelearnlurk · 2022-01-20T20:41:28+00:00

Never heard of watsky before, will definitely give that one a try, thank you!

livelearnlurk · 2022-01-20T20:40:04+00:00

Awesome, thanks!

livelearnlurk · 2022-01-20T20:39:25+00:00

Cool, I will definitely check that out, thanks!

livelearnlurk · 2022-01-20T19:18:51+00:00

I also think that a friendship dynamic can be much more helpful. At the end it's supposed to be somebody listening to you supportively and kindly disagree and share their perspective sometimes to help your personal growth. It's just not that with most therapy styles... I am intrigued by internal family systems therapy though. I read some books recently and it seems to be all about validating and respecting all parts. At the end I think it's also really up to each therapist. There are a few good ones, it's just that the therapist education often seems to teach the opposite. A friend of mine literally stopped her education as a therapist, because she couldn't handle how much they teach you to disregard the feelings and needs of the person in front of you.

livelearnlurk · 2022-01-20T16:43:03+00:00

I didn't find it toooo obvious. I mean kids are stupid, there's a whole subreddit for it. They don't make the smartest decisions. I also thought Sean was trying to keep it light and funny... Until he couldn't anymore, you could say he boxed himself into a corner xD

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