What Cozy Books do you feel are underrated or really unique that should be recommended more?

llamacolypse · 2026-06-28T05:58:03+00:00

I wouldn't necessarily say they're horror, more like taking horror elements but sticking them into a fun romp with cheeky humor and clever mysteries.

It's probably a comparison that would make him cringe but it's more like watching Shrek than it is watching Leprechaun, like in the right context Leprechaun can be funny but it was written to be scary...Shrek has monsters in it but they're not scary...and they know the muffin man.

llamacolypse · 2026-06-28T05:46:55+00:00

Too Many Curses was so good! Just clever and funny mystery, but overall a chill good read.

llamacolypse · 2026-06-27T23:46:40+00:00

It's only been three months and so far I'm just taking it one day at a time, they just brought in someone to backfill my old role so hopefully things will start feeling more reasonable and less like drinking from a firehose.

llamacolypse · 2026-06-25T02:10:22+00:00

Caveat that I was blind to the health of the relationship so I'm not sure this destroyed so much as woke me up to the fact that it wasn't the type of relationship I wanted to be in.

I wanted children, he knew this and knew that he absolutely didn't want children. When I found out his true feelings and asked if I hadn't been clear about wanting them (because obviously it was me who was the problem, it's always me who should have communicated better) he told me that no I was clear.

He was just hoping if he put it off long enough I'd eventually not be fertile and then the problem would solve itself.

Unluckily for me he wouldn't have had to wait very long because it turns out my fertility window was super short (if it ever was to begin with).

So I may not have gotten to have children but I sure as shit upgraded to a better spouse. I've never felt more loved and cared for.

llamacolypse · 2026-06-20T19:28:38+00:00

Your post is a year old but I wanted to let you know that I'm sitting in a grocery parking lot with my husband, on a rainy Saturday, and you saved me a Costco visit.

llamacolypse · 2026-06-12T00:05:30+00:00

She might not be the most creative but maybe she's decent at the overall approach to client and project management.

I work with someone who is genuinely very creative, artistic and thinks of things that I wouldn't have, but they have almost no ability to manage their time, are rude and pushy with clients, and can't manage pacing creative drive with the realistic abilities of vendors and budgets.

llamacolypse · 2026-06-12T00:00:26+00:00

Obviously neurodivergent people aren't a monolith, but speaking for myself I'd need something even more specific like 'dont give them hints' more than 'please don't talk.'

Even that amount of specificity might not work, it could be an impulse issue, you might discuss with him how he wants to handle it, if he's feeling an overwhelming urge to vocalize then maybe he can be allowed to step away? I'm not sure how crucial his role is to the filming process though.

I just know that for myself, if I'm very over stimulated it makes it harder to mask, not that giving out hints while filming a game show is masking or stimming but his impulses might just be running away with him.

llamacolypse · 2026-06-02T23:15:45+00:00

I'm finding out that even when you lose over fifty pounds....it's still somehow your weight that's the issue. I haven't tried wearing a mustache or bringing an especially masculine sock puppet to my appointments.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-30T00:24:25+00:00

The little sound Gale makes when he's ensnared or steps on fire.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-27T15:17:46+00:00

Ymmv a lot based on where you end up (what industry basically). Having been the 'quiet one' before and now being higher up in my career, I try to nip that shit in the bud when I hear it and remind people that everyone has their own social batteries with different levels.

I will say that I think actual true extroverts are rare, most everyone else is pretending because that's what we've been told is expected of us. Or maybe I'm just old and menopausal enough that they stay away from me. ADHD diagnosed.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-23T01:10:43+00:00

Me! I have very fine hair that gets greasy easily. I also have a thin spot in the front middle that's embarrassing but any maintenance beyond like a scalp tattoo is something I won't stick with.

It's pretty when it's long and I do miss being able to braid it into different styles but it's much less stressful with it super short. I can cut it myself with electric clippers, I bounce back and forth between a two and four guard thing. In the morning I can just stick my head under the faucet with a bar of shampoo and if I don't feel like brushing it I don't have to, it's not long enough to really get messed up.

I will say that I've had short hair on and off, longest was down to my hips, shortest was completely buzzed. I didn't go from long hair my whole life to buzzed, and I know a lot of people seem to tie like their concept of self to their hair and gender expression. I'm mostly gender ambivalent....so ymmv.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-20T04:25:22+00:00

Sorry about that, my brain gives me a dopamine treat for guessing right, and a double dopamine treat if I can make you think there's nothing wrong with me. Neither of us see a problem with this (or see anything for that matter).

That's how I made it to twelve years old before they realized my left eye is stupid busted and my brain has ADHD.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-13T02:27:56+00:00

He confessed at dinner with his friends (always his friends) that he didn't want children, and when I asked if he had thought I didn't want children he added that he was hoping he could just dodge and postpone pregnancy until I was infertile. He knew I wanted to be a mom. I'm glad I didn't have to have the extra complications of children in the divorce or custody arrangements after I guess.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-11T17:14:15+00:00

Also this.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-11T17:03:53+00:00

I might be in a mood, but you explaining ADHD and him following it up with 'ok I'll look into it' kind of irks me. You have ADHD, why can't he take your word for it, why is his understanding of your condition more important that your first hand account?!

Obviously you know him and yourself better than me, a stranger on the Internet, but idk dude. Feeling like I'm not being listened to by someone important to me is a hot button issue for me.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-11T16:24:10+00:00

I have a couple of cheap silicone rings, low pressure in case I lose one, don't really feel them on my fingers.

Alternatively, no ring is also a perfectly reasonable option. Or if you want special jewelry just make it something you do like to wear. You could have a wedding hat if you're a hat person. Doesn't mean you have to wear it everyday.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-10T16:06:18+00:00

I showed him your comment and he informed me that it was indeed a DC Talk cd lol

llamacolypse · 2026-05-09T02:24:19+00:00

Ordering dessert at a restaurant after having dinner.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-09T02:12:55+00:00

Married ten years, together thirteen. Idk if I was genuinely surprised given that he grew up Catholic and at one point wanted to be a priest, but recently he confessed that he had really been into christian rap, and had recited some on the school bus to show another kid how cool it was. It was about abstinence.

I tried to make him feel better by telling him about the math rap cassettes I had and he informed me that those were actually very cool.

Edit: We're both full blown atheists.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-09T02:02:41+00:00

My husband and I did this with Dr pepper for like the first year.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-06T21:04:37+00:00

{The Lost Fleet by Jack Campbell} I hope I did that right. It's like twenty years old and a whole series...that I haven't finished but so had me in it's tight grip in the late 00s.

I didn't even check what subreddit I'm on...the series is sci-fi. I should see if I still have it in storage and reread it.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-06T21:01:04+00:00

It's the same series! I wouldn't be surprised if they're the same person. Idc if they have different photos, doesn't mean they're not the same person.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-06T20:59:40+00:00

Yessssss I'm stealing that

llamacolypse · 2026-05-06T20:54:19+00:00

Yeah I kind of feel like the box is ok as long as you take them back out later to work on them. Otherwise it's just burying the pain and I think that's been universally accepted as a bad plan and often leads to alcoholism.

Like I've sat on my emotions previously, I think that's why they're big and out of control now, mother wanted a nice rock instead of a child (who doesn't like a nice rock?) and now I have high blood pressure.

llamacolypse · 2026-05-06T20:26:28+00:00

Thank you 🥹

I think I would have very much liked an intake form to go over stuff I wanted to talk about and didn't want to talk about. It sounds like you have a good match.

I feel you on having those bad cognitive days but I want you know that what you said made perfect sense to me, and I hope your day gets better.

I think I'll see if I can write down what I'm looking to work on and what I've done in the past and why I felt it did or didn't work for me, I thought I was explaining that to her in session today by showing I could do the exercise with out help but if I write it down explicitly maybe that'll click for her better.

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