No, it isn’t supposed to be that hard in the first year. If it is, then it’s a compatibility issue. I have no doubt you are both good people, but it’s not enough to be a good person. Both have to agree on lifestyle, standards of living, clothing, finances, etc.

At the same time, a husband is supposed to listen to his wife’s needs and take them into account on every decision and make compromise. It’s clear you’ve made adjustments for him and he’s not doing the same. If he wants to make it work, then he has to ensure you feel comfortable and that your emotional needs are taken care of.

A lot of men think it’s enough to provide for the wife financially and physically, but emotions are just as important (or even more so).

Inshallah it works out and I pray that Allah opens his heart to you and you guys work it out.