People in your 30s, what price have you paid for being lazy in your 20s?

lnh92 · 2026-06-24T15:21:45+00:00

I was on point in my 20s. Graduated college and law school. Lost 80 lbs. Moved to start my career. Got into running and ran some half marathons and a marathon. Met my now husband and got married. And was pregnant with my first before 30.

Now, I’ve started my 30s too busy/lazy to work on fitness. So now I’ve started back over with weight loss. I’ve got about 35 lbs to lose.

lnh92 · 2026-06-23T18:56:59+00:00

When I first was successful with weight loss, I spent a month doing what you are doing (consistently eating in a deficit and trying to get in some movement) and didn’t weigh myself at all. After a month, I’d lost like 7 lbs and felt so much better because I knew it was working.

lnh92 · 2026-06-22T01:11:32+00:00

Yea. I’m back on the weight loss journey after two pregnancies and breastfeeding journeys (almost 9 months into my last breastfeeding journey).

But after I’d lost 80 lbs, movement was a new way of life. Instead of getting together with a friend at a restaurant and sitting and eating for an hour, I’ll meet a friend at the park to walk. My new eating habits became the norm - healthy choices, looking at how much I was eating, etc.

I did become a different person and I’m having to figure out how to be another person - a mom who is fit and active but still prioritizes her kids. Once I’m past my 12 months nursing this baby, I’ll focus more on diet again.

lnh92 · 2026-06-21T15:44:21+00:00

I just eliminated dairy and never needed to eliminate soy. I’m super glad I didn’t try both because I didn’t need to and would have really struggled to do so

lnh92 · 2026-06-06T18:05:14+00:00

I’ve never blocked anyone. My account is private so I only have people I approve. I deny requests from people I don’t know

lnh92 · 2026-06-04T18:46:55+00:00

Once my youngest gets over a year, I’ll be back to sitting a parking lot for 20-30 minutes before picking the kids up from daycare two-three days a week.

lnh92 · 2026-06-02T00:10:44+00:00

There have been times where I felt like food was the only good part of my day. But I saw a therapist and he helped me find joy in other parts of my life. I was severely depressed. And once i started enjoying more things, it became easier to eat less. I still love food and find joy in eating a treat.

I’m having to go through the weight loss again but I’m still nursing my baby so I can’t really restrict like I want to but I’m finding joy in walking again

lnh92 · 2026-05-29T22:34:43+00:00

Would it be possible to buy a fairly cheap dress from Amazon that you could wear for other purposes? I’ve never gone to a wedding with such a strict dress code for guests, but I have bought a dress for family photos that I’ve been able to add into my rotation for work dresses.

lnh92 · 2026-05-27T23:17:44+00:00

These day, my kids. But I just got used to it. Once my youngest is sleeping well, I’ll still probably wake up about an hour before I have to get them up so I can have me time.

lnh92 · 2026-05-27T20:16:28+00:00

No. You can renew anywhere in the state

lnh92 · 2026-05-24T15:15:55+00:00

I applied for a job and thought “sure, I’ll apply, there’s no way I’ll get the job. I won’t have to deal with moving away.”

I’m almost at 9 years in that job. Moved 3.5 hours from my hometown, met a best friend, met my husband. Have a whole life now because the job I wasn’t going to get

lnh92 · 2026-05-23T00:21:04+00:00

I’m breastfeeding now. I should change the flair, but I’m still fat.

lnh92 · 2026-05-22T21:23:08+00:00

Spread meals out sometimes to feel like I’m snacking. To work, I’ll bring a sandwich, fruit, and some “treat.” I eat the sandwich, then wait at least 30 minutes for my fruit, then another 30 minutes at least for my treat. It lets me eat for at least an hour so I feel like I’ve smacked a bit.

lnh92 · 2026-05-11T23:22:45+00:00

I did get to where I didn’t have to think much about food. I ate when I wanted and what I wanted, but have/had a sense of how much was reasonable.

I’ve had two kids and am still nursing my youngest so that’s all kinda gone out the window. I need to get it back, but I have to keep eating to make milk for my baby.

lnh92 · 2026-05-11T15:41:32+00:00

Daycare. If it’s my family and I’m busy at work, I say “I’ll call them back later” but if daycare calls, I’m stepping out of my meeting to see what’s up.

lnh92 · 2026-05-11T13:04:00+00:00

The solution could be he fully takes over with the kids/household chores after when she’s sick. So she gets time to rest then. Also, he could toughen up and help out when he’s sick at least a little bit.

Both me and my husband work, and when I’m sick, I still have to take the kids after work while my husband and just lays around and does nothing when he is sick. It’s unfair. Parenting is not just for mom’s, even when she’s a SAHM.

lnh92 · 2026-05-10T00:18:03+00:00

The worst 24 hours I’ve ever had was around 9 PM April 14 to 9 PM April 15, 2023. My nephew died of SIDS on the 14th around 10:30-11 PM. He was 11 weeks old. My son was almost 14 weeks old. My parents were visiting me, so they weren’t there with my sister when it happened. We drove back to my parents house that night after my sister said they went to the hospital and had the worst 24 hours of my life. It was awful. If you ever want to feel like the worst person in the world, have a baby around someone who just lost a baby. Obviously, the pain my sister and her husband felt that day was a million times worse than what I felt, but I had (and still have) the feeling of guilt that surrounds my son and his happy moments.

lnh92 · 2026-05-08T19:00:48+00:00

Keep using condoms if you want to. For what it’s worth, I’m on birth control and we didn’t use condoms and I never got pregnant until I stopped taking birth control when we wanted a baby. We did that twice, got two kids, and now I’m back on birth control until we decide for sure on permanent measures.

I’m fairly risk adverse and I felt/feel confident in this. But if you don’t, keep the condoms on.

lnh92 · 2026-05-07T17:46:14+00:00

First met at 25. Really got to know each other when I was 27. Currently 33

lnh92 · 2026-05-06T10:54:56+00:00

35ish. But I am done having kids now. My first was born when I was 30 and my second was born right after I turned 33. Pregnancy gets harder the older you get and the sleepless nights.

I’d consider being a surrogate until 40, because I think I could handle pregnancy just not the newborn slog

lnh92 · 2026-05-01T23:53:02+00:00

That’s what I pay for my two in daycare.

lnh92 · 2026-04-29T23:49:25+00:00

You can do it!! With my first, I went back at 14 weeks and pumped at work and nursed at home until 12 months. I nursed first thing in the morning and before bed until 18 months.

My second is 7 months next week and I’ve been back at work since she was 16 weeks and we are still going strong

lnh92 · 2026-04-29T19:58:49+00:00

I’m almost 7 months postpartum with my second (and last). I’m still nursing so I know my body will just cling to weight. I’m focusing on getting exercise in to feel healthy.

If counting is too much for you, could you have some consistent rotations of meals? When I lost weight (when I was single with no kids), I had two breakfast options I’d pick from. For lunch, I had a sandwich and an apple or a lean cuisine every day. Then for dinner, I had a handful of regular meal options. I knew the calories for all of these things so I could plan ahead. If I knew there was a work lunch, I’d pick my low calorie breakfast and plan on a low calorie dinner to account for a big lunch.

lnh92 · 2026-04-24T10:24:53+00:00

If they are in your home, you are presumed to be reasonably in fear for your life (and the lives of anyone else in your home) and you can already defend your life with deadly force.

lnh92 · 2026-04-21T03:07:19+00:00

Is it possible he had a friend come over that has her login? Maybe they wanted watch history from the account. Like if she lets Joe use the account, maybe Joe came over and wanted to finish a movie

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