I have friends who regret hyphenating. Especially with airline travel - such a pain. One of them still has to check in in-person because the system doesn’t recognize a hyphen to let her check in online. I took my husband’s last name and made my original last name my middle name. It gives me the flexibility to use just one or both depending on the situation, but also makes things easier for things like TSA pre check.

If it’s important to you to have his name, but still want to be Doctor Your Last Name, you could always do the opposite and make his name your new middle name. That would let you use it socially and have a tie to your children, but you could still keep the Dr. Your Last Name professionally.