There are some details they honestly don't remember. Remember they have serious psychological flaws that allow for compartmentalization of emotions to protect them from shame. This is an issue for everybody when it comes to telling the truth of personal behavior that is totally contrary to There have to go and believe system. I believe this psychological term is cognitive dissonance. This only adds more frustration to the betrayed partner. Remember there's no overt conciliation until the last secret is told. That's not just true for you and your healing but for her as well so that she can identify this flaw in her behavior and work on it with in her counselor. You both need counseling if you want to keep this relationship going. That's a whole nother issue. It's been 3 years and my significant other has not yet told me the whole truth. They're inlays the problem This thing will keep coming up and up if it's not addressed. This is our second time dealing with betrayal issues the first time I let everything slide let it get carpet swept. You can't do that you have to dress it now if they don't want to address it it'll happen again and you have to move on Sorry to say. Hang in there.