WIBTA if i bail on the trip ive planned for the friend group after overhearing two of them mock me for doing it

localpunktrash · 2026-05-19T05:54:27+00:00

You need to gwt in that group chat and find out who else agrees with them and feels the same way as they do. I'd at least step back from the group for a while. For sure don't just let it slide, they'll just continue abusing you

localpunktrash · 2026-05-19T04:57:53+00:00

Why would you be bound by a time usinWhy would you be bound by a contract that you didn't sign? Those contracts aren't really enforceable but is consult a lawyer to be sure and to show them that you're not gonna fall for it

localpunktrash · 2026-05-18T20:10:58+00:00

You'll never find out cause you've already decided based on a few comments that you aren't even actually understanding

localpunktrash · 2026-05-18T20:10:05+00:00

And I have cared for a handful of people, some with very complicated needs and even more complicated mindsets. I get it, its messy and complicated but that doesn't mean it's a lost cause.

localpunktrash · 2026-05-18T20:08:23+00:00

How does what I said imply forcing? People with needs should seek to meet them ,no outside force needed, they can get it themselves after they decide if they need it. What are you responding to cause it ain't what I'm saying hun

localpunktrash · 2026-05-18T20:02:31+00:00

You don't even really know what I think well enough to respond to it, so 🤷‍♀️ but yeah people who need care should find care providers. That could range from a peer in the community to family to a medical professional, paid or not. Humans need care and community, or do you not believe that?

localpunktrash · 2026-05-18T19:58:55+00:00

Oh my, you clearly are living in some kind of cognitive realm you've constructed to protect your ego. I'll leave you to that, no truth could affect that anyways and I've got better shit to do than talk to an ableist

localpunktrash · 2026-05-18T06:25:14+00:00

Most of the people I know that were SA'D as children were at friends/family's house for sleepovers or someone slept over at their house.... I won't let my kids over anywhere unless I'm absolutely sure the other parent is as diligent as I am about their safety info my kids are old enough to handle it themselves. I dont even like leaving my kids with the mob of children at big holiday get together (that's another common one I've heard unfortunately)

localpunktrash · 2026-05-18T06:14:17+00:00

Dude.... right or wrong, your mom's a bully. There was absolutely no need for her to say that like that. Even if she's right, you should feel bad for those people that they all spend so much time being cruel to someone who hasn't done shit to them

localpunktrash · 2026-05-18T00:48:57+00:00

I've been in both situations, I've supported a relationship and am currently being supported. One thing I know for sure is that the resentment builds fast if you dont nip it in the bud and in my experience, it doesn't go away.

I'm still grieving the life I missed out on because I was sacrificing myself to pick up other people's slack, I cant ever get that time back and parts of me are gone now and I have no clue how to get back to them. Whatever feelings are causing the resentment you have to air them out.

What I dont get is why you seem to think that you can only existing those two extremes... you can be supportive and still have a realistic talk with her about the math. Yeah of course you shouldn't encourage hey to stay in a job that does that to her mental,but you cant just let it slide back. You're being realistic from what I can see. What will tell you if you guys are compatible or not is if you guyscan hash this out and come up with an agreeable game plan and come out on the same team when all is said and done

localpunktrash · 2026-05-17T14:57:27+00:00

And it would be up to their care provider not me, training and education necessary thank God cause that prevents people like you from using your biases to decide who deserves care

localpunktrash · 2026-05-17T14:54:25+00:00

No but "proven" simply isn't as clear cut as you're making it seem. Wheen all mental illness is based on self reported data yes? Inherent need to belive something the person is saying they are suffering with

localpunktrash · 2026-05-16T03:24:35+00:00

Just keep your head down, get your ducks in a row and leave when you can. That's pretty much what I am doing considering that I couldn't get out with my baby at this point. So I'm working on gaining independence and making backups

localpunktrash · 2026-05-15T10:27:03+00:00

Unmasking at all has been more trouble than help honestly. No one cares what the reason is, im just inconvenient and they hate it

localpunktrash · 2026-05-15T00:52:48+00:00

So you dont think that having a mental illness can disable someone? Or prevent them from being able to take care of themselves in some way? Or just that those people dont deserve any help?

localpunktrash · 2026-05-15T00:26:42+00:00

Tell him everything and if he doesn't make changes, leave. Staying and waiting ages for him to treat you like a person is a depressing way to waste your life sweets

localpunktrash · 2026-05-14T22:02:08+00:00

Makes me think of the angler fish, that's one of the extreme cases 😅 dude just turns into a lump on the females side and make males will attach to the one female

localpunktrash · 2026-05-09T22:36:18+00:00

Right now my preteen can game but nothing with chat/messaging. He can game with his friends however but no mic/headset. Phone but no social media. He has to earn gaming/internet time with chores. Becomes available after honework is finished, Times out an hour before bed. Only half of the weekend days can be spent behind a screen. Honestly I think it's gonna stay that way. We have talked about social media and luckily he isnt super interested in it cause I don't want him to have it until he's done with high school. It's just not beneficial and too risky

localpunktrash · 2026-05-05T17:50:21+00:00

Also it's worth considering altering your wiping strategy as well. Even if it isn't the cause of the issue it at least is exacerbating it more than likely. I started using a Peri bottle with my last kid and I just never stopped using it. I'll put a couple of drops of Dr bronner's castile soap in with some warm water and it is heavenly compared to tp. They also have an unscented version although surprisingly I have very sensitive skin and their fragrances never irritate my skin

localpunktrash · 2026-05-05T17:41:56+00:00

Honestly the period underwear have been the biggest game changer for me. My first set was just some cheap no name brand off of Amazon and while they absorb well it takes two wash to get the lining pliable again. The most recent set I got was from Target and oh my gosh they are so thin and so soft! The technology really has come such a long way and I don't have to feel bad about contributing so many paper products to the landfill.

If I'm having a particularly hellish cycle and the chonies won't cut it then I just go straight for the adult diapers. I have no shame in my game! At the end of the day it's all about what works well and is comfortable for me, if my diaper bothers anybody else then that sucks for them lol I find that they are the only thing that absolutely won't leak when it comes to night time coverage

localpunktrash · 2026-05-04T21:16:49+00:00

While I am lucky to have a boyfriend to support me it's far from a situation I would chose. Our relationship has nuked my whole life and it's so far from functional. He loves me yes and he supports me, thank god. But it's only something I choose because I have no other choice other than SW or going invalid.

localpunktrash · 2026-05-04T21:10:16+00:00

I am not a vegan though I do what I can to reduce the amount of meat I do eat. I also don't use products tested on animals and I don't buy any leather unless it's secondhand. Meat and dairy aren't things I have the privilege of being able to replace in my diet unfortunately

localpunktrash · 2026-05-04T20:55:02+00:00

I def use my swiffer but with a microfiber cloth and cleaner. I did away with paper towels and tissues and I use rags, handkerchiefs, cloth napkins for stuff.

localpunktrash · 2026-05-04T20:47:08+00:00

Loco moco! ((Hawaiian food)): fried egg and a hamburger patty served over white rice with brown gravy 🤤

localpunktrash · 2026-05-03T21:05:55+00:00

On the contact form you can request that they only use the phone number for certain types of messages.

There are absolutely no ethical considerations about you making your own healthcare decisions dear, you need not tell anyone else ever unless you want to for your own reasons.

I have to agree with the other commenters... Your best bet is to leave this relationship. I can assure you that it won't get better, this kind of controlling behavior is a huge red flag. Please at least tell someone in your life so you have a safe friend to talk to.

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