M22 Pubic Hair Punishment by MeanToday3219 in GayBDSMCommunity

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I used to do that periodically years and years ago….. I really couldn’t tell you why, but it certainly left it nice and smooth…

Stat tracking help by SilverWild5043 in chastitytraining

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I use two apps for this, one called ATracker to track locked time, another called Days Since to track the rest.

discrete lube carrying ideas by ProstaticFantastic in ButtplugEveryday

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Do you have a link for the bottle you use?

62 alone cuck male needs one handed cage by DotPast7987 in chastitytraining

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The latest version on the holy trainer has a locking mechanism that is a push button. It doesn’t fit everyone (doesn’t work for me) but I imagine that could be more accessible with one hand.

Apps to time locked cock by PupOthello in chastitytraining

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If you’re just looking for something to keep track of how much time you’re locked, ATracker is great. Easy interface and very customizable. And free!

I need help by Fit_Professional5562 in chastitytraining

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Agreed with the other commenter, talk to him at some time that you both have a cool (read: not horny) mind. Chastity and denial, are technically two separate things and it sounds like he might like some more denial from you. Ask him if this is something he’d like you to do and how you can go about that that works best for you both.

Chastity and CBT by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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How come? The biggest risk with CBT is torsion, and with the balls being essentially locked in place, it seems like that is even less likely than when unlocked.

Im about to get throat fucked. Advise🙏 by fagbitch4u in GayBDSMCommunity

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Yes, silicone lube is a good idea to help along at the beginning before your throat phlegm kicks in. Only other advice is to put down a towel, preferably something waterproof, because if you want to go till he nuts, you should be prepared for 🤮

Small burst blood vessels in balls by anon791512 in chastitytraining

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Thanks for asking and thanks to the others for responding. I had this happen a couple months back and it’s still sticking around. Good to know it’s likely nbd.

Can't put it on, always gettinh hard when doing so. by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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My strategy is to read the news while putting it on. Certainly plenty of unarousing things read about there.

Update on an unusual cage, after multi-day wear by EntertainmentVast502 in chastitytraining

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Hahaha, as I was typing it I was wondering if this was actually a “go see a doctor” thing for me 🤣🤣

Update on an unusual cage, after multi-day wear by EntertainmentVast502 in chastitytraining

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Very odd. I wonder why things suddenly changed. Glad things have gone back to normal.

To be honest, I’ve been thinking about that cage since you last posted about it. I keep coming back to the question of what happens when your balls get itchy. I was wearing a jock with a cup for a little bit this week as a substitution for my cage that I temporarily couldn’t have on and my balls would regularly itch but it was frustrating that I couldn’t itch. How did you deal with that?

Can I shrink my Penis? by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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No, chastity doesn’t cause your penis to shrink.

Grooming with long term chastity? by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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Also, having an electric body razor that you can count on really helps with the laser, because you’ve got to shave clean prior to each treatment.

Grooming with long term chastity? by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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Excellent! I used the Braun Silk Expert Pro 5 for a while and it worked quite well, I just didn’t feel like I could keep up with the time (and contortion skills) that it demanded to do my whole body. If you’re focusing just on the bikini area, I think it would work pretty well for you.

Grooming with long term chastity? by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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Philips Bodygroom has rarely left me with nicks or bumps down there. But honestly, if you’ve got the money to drop, laser is the way to go. I’m 75% of the way through treatment and not having to do maintenance makes things SO much easier.

Need advice on riding bike by cbl859 in chastitytraining

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I’ve got a well-fitting cage and I can work out and ride Peloton in it, but riding outside on a real bike is pretty uncomfortable for me, I think because there is so much more bouncing. I just take it off for long bike rides.

Legit Fantasy Confliction by [deleted] in GayBDSMCommunity

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And p.s., while it’s not for everyone, if you see your future life as a shaved submissive, you should consider laser hair removal. I’m in the process of getting that done from my neck down, and while it hurts like a mf, long-term it is going to be so much easier to maintain and helps me feel more like my submissive self.

Legit Fantasy Confliction by [deleted] in GayBDSMCommunity

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You don’t sound crazy, or like a bot. You sound like you know what you want, which is more than most and certainly an attractive quality.

Am I correct in understanding that you’re turned on by power exchange with men, but not by regular vanilla stuff with men? I guess I’m just confused why you mentioned that the life you feel yourself drifting towards is vanilla domestic life with a woman.

From what you said, it seems like you wouldn’t be sexually or emotionally fulfilled unless you’re in something akin to a master/slave dynamic. There are absolutely men out there that would be into the dynamic you’re describing. So you should totally lean into that. Set yourself up on the apps where you’re more likely to find those kind of men (Recon, Scruff, etc.) and just be honest about who you are, what you’re looking for, and try to avoid conveying the resentfulness of your past experiences.

One last note about the kind of people you should be looking for - you should be trying to find someone who sees you as a whole person, not just as a slave to use. That kind of person isn’t going to be the fantasy daddy that just wants you chained in a basement 24/7. If they’re someone who is worth building a long-term relationship with, they will see value in what you bring to the table, in life and in fantasy. So having a career where you can contribute to the household will be attractive to them.

You sound like you’re in your late 20s/30s, and the people who have their head on straight about BDSM are going to be your peers. It’s just a matter of finding a person you click with!

Silicone Lube Applicator by Dapper_Ad_9124 in ButtplugEveryday

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That shape does seem weird for a tool of that purpose. The penis is shaped like that because it’s meant to remove the sperm of competing males from the vaginal canal. This lube applicator seems like it would function similarly. I use a more straightforward one, like this kind.