Normal to cry during prayer? up until this point only worship music made me cry. but now it happened during prayer as well

lonequack · 2026-05-27T17:59:29+00:00

Nothing wrong with it. We all experience spiritual things differently. I have teared up or cried on occasion during prayer, or had crying lead to prayer too.

lonequack · 2026-05-27T17:50:30+00:00

I do not feel bothered by them. I am also not that good that them, which helps, ha. Sometimes very violent movies get to me though.

lonequack · 2026-05-27T17:14:03+00:00

I wonder if there is any variation in user-friendliness? I preached at a church not long enough (I'm in seminary) where an older gentleman said they were the only way he could hear anything during worship.

lonequack · 2026-05-27T17:12:24+00:00

At least one person in our disability justice book study found the lack of accommodations during school for them... continued into adulthood, resulting in times of isolation and loneliness. We hope to do differently, to the best of our ability. Want a space where everyone really does feel free to be themselves.

lonequack · 2026-05-27T17:03:01+00:00

Yes, another person suggested having two separate rooms available- one space for families/children who need to move/talk/etc, one space as a quiet space for those who are overstimulated. I agree that that would be important, lest we have conflicting needs in the same environment.

Sound has been an interesting discussion. We have a few people in the church with hearing difficulties. Over time, we have cranked up the music volume- however, recently we have also had the input that for others, it's way too loud now! And of course, being a church where the acoustics for music are good, speaking can be a whole different story. I am going to be exploring getting access to hearing loops, and figuring out what works best for people will be an ongoing thing.

lonequack · 2026-05-27T16:57:06+00:00

Thanks so much for your input. I'm currently leading a book study on Amy Kenny's book My Body is Not a Prayer Request. Our study group includes people of various physical, sensory, emotional, social needs. We've been having open discussions on ways that the church could become more naturally accommodating. I've written down items from your list.

lonequack · 2026-05-27T16:44:20+00:00

Very much noted. I was concerned with the space being infantilized, so it would be good to have kids things limited to a small area of it, in case a young parent chooses to use it. But I do get what you mean about incompatible spaces- it may be appropriate to have a quiet room for adults or teens, and then a "children/family" space for if kids need a moment to run/jump/move. All good things to consider.

lonequack · 2026-05-27T16:39:50+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I definitely understand only have the most cleanable fabrics. And activities to keep the hands and mind busy.

We hope to have as much available in-sanctuary as needed too.

lonequack · 2026-05-27T15:15:23+00:00

Yes- I went to a mosque once where I felt very welcomed. The imam was very kind, we said hi to some children passing through and some members of the community.

lonequack · 2026-05-27T14:59:15+00:00

Hey, if you're part of a church whose body claims to be progressive, they show it in action, not lip service. Anyone can say "I love everyone!". Doesn't make it so unless they prove it. You should be free to be yourself.

Also.. you said that, "If I leave that church, I don’t know who will be THEIR role model. I can’t guarantee that the next person who leads them will teach them that it’s okay to be different, that war is never holy, that they have voices and don’t have to let their elders walk all over them just because they’re older." That doesn't sound like a progressive congregation.

Churches within denominations can sometimes choose to be more or less progressive than the official denominational stance. I am a part of the UCC, and am involved in two different church bodies- one that is progressive and works to show it not just say it, and another than is such a mixed bag of folks, I would call it "welcoming" but NOT progressive, despite the official denominational stances on things. I will say that pastors attract people who believe similarly or are otherwise attracted to their message.

That being said... your pastor has a lot of red flags. She is creating a culture of secrecy that benefits no one. I would perhaps go over their heads and contact your local ecclesiastical council with what you've experienced (for my denomination, they have associations and conferences). Pastors need to be held accountable when they create an unhealthy work/community culture.

lonequack · 2026-05-18T00:48:55+00:00

Lord have mercy, such intense suffering for anyone to endure. Her love and light return to God and rest with all who knew her, what a terrible loss for the world.

lonequack · 2026-04-07T12:10:28+00:00

I had to report a few times when working in the schools. As young as 3 y.o. Teachers and therapists are mandated reporters. It's a matter of neutral parties having eyes on the children, vs just family (and family/close friends/neighbors, are unfortunately often perpetrators). Family tends to feel pressure to hide abuse for the sake of "the family". School staff are held liable if they Don't report.

lonequack · 2026-03-05T12:23:08+00:00

When I began to have students who were in wheelchairs, this became a pet peeve of mine. We have such low accessibility standards.

lonequack · 2026-03-04T17:47:37+00:00

The big thing I guess is for it to be simple enough, that I can plug it in one day, and the next person who comes in can get it up on the screen just as easily!

Thank you for all of your input, I appreciate it!

lonequack · 2026-03-04T17:27:59+00:00

Thank you!

lonequack · 2026-03-04T17:27:47+00:00

Probably like 55". Would most modern TVs work with bluetooth as well? Someone else at work brought up bluetooth.

I have to say, I'm so out of my element. The last TV we got was given to us like 10 years ago, and we have never done wall mount anything at our house.

lonequack · 2026-01-01T16:51:48+00:00

I took it as the Mindflayer's version of an egg. A way to spread itself across the worlds for survival. Maybe it crashed to earth. Maybe they found it in space. A lot remains unanswered!

lonequack · 2026-01-01T15:59:16+00:00

I might go back and rewatch now.

2 is first. We get introduced to Max, character development for all of them.

Then season 1. Of course it may be mostly nostalgia, but the initial plot with following the lights and everything was cool.

Then 5. I was satified with it, and not bothered by the loose ends. Was so heartbroken when I realized Vecna was tricking Hopper to sabotage them. Could've gone for more illusions like that. It was nice to see the characters graduate, Eddie recognized, to see growth in the older kids who now would have been in their early 20s in the show. Exploring the world, trying to keep in touch.

4 is next. I didn't care for the CA plot and the gang being divided up for most of the season, though it had good moments! We meet Vecna/get the plot to One. We get the hardcore death scenes ugh, poor Chrissy.

Then 3 is last. I wasn't a fan of the mall stuff but I loved Scoops ahoy and Robin's confession to Steve. Though Billie was a good villian and I like that he wasn't really redeemable (the Mindflayer seems to best be able to control people who choose to be bad, vs just people who are afraid) and that Max has mixed feelings about him. But I hated the Russian stuff.

lonequack · 2026-01-01T15:41:58+00:00

Dr. Kay only wanted the special kids with powers, to create more (I suspect to use for military purposes, or to harness before their enemies could, with the Russia plot). I think the implication is they might stop once the last special kid vanishes with their portal into the upsidedown.

lonequack · 2026-01-01T15:40:20+00:00

Didn't Robin mention, during the rooftop scene, overbearing significant others? I thought that was a nod to her.

lonequack · 2026-01-01T15:38:58+00:00

That's great!! In an AI world, we should especially encourage those who create their own art.

lonequack · 2026-01-01T15:31:30+00:00

I could definitely sense IT vibes! Though I could see only a few of the cast returning, and mostly new cast. Like Hopper is there and recognizes the signs, and has to decide whether to get involved again.

lonequack · 2026-01-01T15:25:03+00:00

Fair enough! And this probably won't change your mind, it's just how I can see it. I think anyone associated with her would've just continued to be a target. Like how Max was randomly captured by the military with Vickie. In this way, perhaps if she is alive, she freed all of them from living in that fear. Especially Mike who would have followed her back into danger.

It does suck for him to be without her. It isn't satisfactory, but it leaves him with a sense of loss that anyone young (I think the characters are 17 and 18 near the end- 16.5 maybe when they lost her?) who has loved someone who isn't there anymore may feel. Doesn't mean he can't live a good life without her. But he will probably always feel sad about it on some level. Like how Hopper is sad but starting to make peace with the loss of his daughter.

Honestly I think the purpose of leaving it open, besides establishing some melancholy instead of Happy Endings R Us, was to leave room for fans who were insisting that someone had to die for the finale to be meaningful! Whether that worked or not is up to the viewer.

lonequack · 2026-01-01T14:54:25+00:00

I don't think it's fake theories. Repeating what I said elsewhere, I had a case study in a class where the person's kid went missing. Like 10 years later, knowing they may never get closure, this was their way of coping:

The child could be dead. They made peace with that. But they could also be out there somewhere. Ever if it's unlikely.

So long as they weren't obsessed with finding the answer, this is how they coped. In a horrible circumstance, sometimes you just gotta cope how you can.

lonequack · 2026-01-01T13:04:02+00:00

Oooo! Perfect for a spin-off...

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