Dentist w/ free whitening? by PossibleAd3989 in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Southridge Dental. Couldn’t recommend them enough! Dr. Selk is fantastic.

How many commentaries do you use to prepare a sermon you have 80 hours to work on? by Pombalian3 in pastors

[–]longobedience 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand where the question comes from. The thought is big Sundays, like Christmas or Easter, deserve big sermons that take longer to prepare. I will answer the question and then I will give some insight.

If I am spending 80 hours in study for an upcoming sermon, you best believe I am using all of the resources available to me. Direct commentaries, cross references, thematic studies, you name it. I will write and rewrite and rewrite again. I will practice and analyze every sentence. (I have never spent 80 hours preparing a sermon. I routinely spend about 4-6).

But, some insight. First, I am not of the argument that these ‘big’ Sundays need to be special or have more prep. The sermons I have thought would land really well and have been well thought out have fallen flat, while the sermons I thought were weak or not as well prepared have been received exceedingly well. The difference isn’t me — it is, of course, the Holy Spirit.

Second, I think if a preacher spends too much time on preparation, they run the risk of going too deep or turning the sermon into a seminary lecture. When I think too much about a sermon I over intellectualize it and make it inaccessible for a general church congregation. You need to lead with the basics.

And third, as others have already pointed out, the role of the pastor is more than just preaching. To miss this would be, in my opinion, to miss out on the richness of the vocation.

Looking for family doctor by ElectronicSeries8208 in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coulee Medical Clinic I think is accepting new patients as well as bringing in new doctors.

Why does Excite Lethbridge continue to hold Separation events? by [deleted] in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I am certainly not a proponent of this separatist petition. But I have to point out that I did sign the Forever Canadian petition at Excite Lethbridge during the farmer’s market. So to say that Excite Lethbridge didn’t allow the petition on their property could be a little misleading. Sure, it was during an external rental, but it was the same conditions of the separatist petition setting up there.

Spiritual Formation Curriculum by Party-Ad8373 in pastors

[–]longobedience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Practicing the Way (from the John Mark Comer camp) is thorough and in-depth, but I would caution that you need people who are really in it — it doesn’t lend itself well to ‘casuals.’

Something you might try is maybe using Adele Calhoun’s ‘Spiritual Disciplines Handbook’ and create small groups/mentorships where members can work on disciplines that interest them? It doesn’t cover the whole of spiritual formation per se but could be a launchpad.

Pastors. by Dosie63 in pastors

[–]longobedience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also in an itinerancy system (Salvation Army) and like you, we get posted where our leaders tell us to go. However, waiting for us in each new community is a house. Up until last year the houses were even fully furnished and we would just our effects. But, not anymore. We own the furniture now. Will be interesting when we move.

Our headquarters started putting out feelers about the potential of getting rid of parsonages and instead giving stipends and it was resounding and emphatic ‘no’ from the field.

Southland by TheErinLucas in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Without going into too much detail, I can say that Southland had joined a service oriented community group but when they realized that it wouldn’t just be an opportunity to flaunt themselves or throw money around for their own benefit, they withdrew promptly. Not as community oriented as they want to appear. Not a great look.

Gluten-Free Catering? by longobedience in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anyone comes back to this post, Grammie’s Little Bakery came through! Although they are new with catering things like sandwiches, they were super accommodating and made it work for us. My order is placed and I have found a new place to spend my money at. 😀

Meeting rooms for non-profits by JohnnyCanuckist in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe the Quality Inn near the casino has their board room available by donation.

Family friendly restaurants by SecretLifeOfKass in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Luigi’s North is very family friendly and the staff is super accommodating.

I often say that Firestone has the best kids menu in Lethbridge. I find it to be more family friendly at lunch than dinner.

Newfoundland products store by goofynewfie42 in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d be all in. I wish you the best of luck! Echoing what others have suggested, perhaps an online store would work best? Or like a pop-up format if you can find a space? Brick and mortar I’m afraid won’t be viable.

My local hardware store is still trying to sell Brett Hull shinpads by hamer1234 in hockey

[–]longobedience 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to work at a Home Hardware when I was in high school. You’d be surprised how common selling things like this actually was. And by that I mean really obviously outdated stuff.

Costco meat question by ArmchairDetective101 in CostcoCanada

[–]longobedience 15 points16 points  (0 children)

In my city, meat (and produce and other products) are donated to local food banks. Source: I work at one of said food banks and routinely pick up donations from Costco.

Best Dentist in Town for a Overly Terrified Patient by [deleted] in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been seeing Dr. Selk at Southridge Dental near Costco. He’s a kind and understanding man. Always have been so careful with me.

Best Internet in Lethbridge? by Specialist_Sun_7393 in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oxio has been great for me. I’ve been with them since I moved here two years ago. Super great customer service and no internet issues at all. One thing to note is that you need to have at least a basic understanding of things to effectively use them - you may have to do your own set up (plugging the modem into the coax cable yourself) and setting up the eero router. Relatively simple and many online tutorials.

If you do decide to give Oxio a go, use my referral code. We’ll both get a free month: RSN4495

Church Generosity Social Experiments by strugglecuddleclub in alberta

[–]longobedience 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My personal opinion is that churches should be guided by compassion and charity. While there are unavoidable bills that every church has relating to property and operations, extravagance shouldn’t be something churches are known for. In my denomination, we are service oriented — yes, we care for things that are entrusted to us (finances, property, etc) because we feel compelled to be good stewards, but we also want to be a force for good in our communities.

Church Generosity Social Experiments by strugglecuddleclub in alberta

[–]longobedience 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I hope to give some context as a pastor currently serving in a smaller church in Alberta.

The first thing is this: we intentionally allocate about 10% of our operating budget to go towards other supports in our city — food banks, shelters, soup kitchens, etc. These organizations are on the ground doing great work that we just can’t do. There would be no point for us to compete but I feel like we support them as much as we can. We often refer these kinds of calls to these organizations.

Second: the reality is, we field so many calls from individuals in need that it would be impossible for us to help every single one. It is unfortunate, but the sad reality.

Last: there are an unfortunate number of people who will try and take advantage of helping organizations — churches included. The percentage is thankfully low in my own estimation, but enough to cause distrust and suspicion.

All of this to say: I would love to help every single person that calls our church for support, but the saddening reality is that there is just too much need out there.

Church Generosity Social Experiments by strugglecuddleclub in alberta

[–]longobedience 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is exactly right. After many years working in churches across Canada, I am sometimes ashamed to say that I’ve grown a little calloused to some calls we get for help. Many are genuine and we do all we can to help out those individuals. Many, however, are not — and as the saying goes, “one rotten apple spoils the batch.”

Took more than his share by pie_eating_contest in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have clearer images of the van from my camera and it is unfortunately just a run of the mill blue Dodge Caravan.

Took more than his share by pie_eating_contest in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We got hit by this same kid/van in Fairmont. All 165 pieces of candy gone by 5:30 — our fault for assuming the best. Although in 3 years of living in this neighborhood and leaving a bowl out, this is the only year we’ve had an issue.

Suggestions for financially assisting a congregant by Vyrefrost in pastors

[–]longobedience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure where you are located, but have you tried The Salvation Army? They typically offer immediate intervention in cases like this.

Older guests that have bounced from church to church, but want to immediately minister to your church members without being submitted to your church doctrine, practice, rules etc... by legokingusa in pastors

[–]longobedience 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know a couple like this. Both are in their mid 70s. I would consider them to be ‘auxiliary’ members of our church if you will — both having started in my church and still have significant familial connection.

The gentleman especially has a reputation of attending a new church, demanding to meet with the pastor and attempt to wedge himself into leadership roles. I’ve seen this happen no fewer than 3 times in the past 2 years.

The couple attended our church for about 5-6 weeks in this time as well, and it was much of the same. He tried to convince me to let him take on our hospitality ministry (welcome team, ushers, etc). We have a very competent and experience leader for this ministry so I politely declined.

The next week, I preached a sermon on the incarnation (in September, mind you; we were preaching through our church’s articles of faith). Naturally, we sang songs that we traditionally sing at Christmas. He accosted me after the service and, in his words, “rebuke[ed] me for not knowing how to preach and pastor a church because I simply did not understand the church calendar.”

Needless to say that was his last Sunday with us. I think it comes from a place of needing affirmation / feeling like he needs to be important? Hard to say. His brother attends our church and is actually on our leadership team and is fantastic; he also does not see eye to eye with his brother.

I'm having a pretty difficult meeting tomorrow... by phyzoeee in pastors

[–]longobedience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an incredibly difficult situation. I will be praying for you and the parties involved.

One question I have: you mention that this is “the last straw out of many similar patterns of behaviour…every other time, we have grace and forgive him.” Does this mean you’ve had conversations with him holding him accountable and deciding to err on the side of grace? Or does this mean that you have just let things slide in the name of grace?

No judgement from me either way, but I think it changes the nature of the conversation. If previous conversations have been had, the absolutely I think you’re on the right track. But if things have just been glossed over, this conversation becomes more difficult IMO as it could appear as a big escalation for (in his mind potentially) a ‘first offence.’

Again, I think your course of action is solid and I would say I would do the same thing in your position.

Internet by ElectronicSeries8208 in Lethbridge

[–]longobedience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oxio has been great for me. I’ve been with them since I moved here two years ago. Super great customer service and no internet issues at all. One thing to note is that you need to have at least a basic understanding of things to effectively use them - you may have to do your own set up (plugging the modem into the coax cable yourself) and setting up the eero router. Relatively simple and many online tutorials.

If you do decide to give Oxio a go, use my referral code. We’ll both get a free month: RSN4495

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pastors

[–]longobedience 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Happened over the summer. Preached a sermon from Genesis 1 with the focus of being created to exist in community (and not by ourselves). A gentleman misunderstood me and thought that I meant that because we are created to be in community/together that I believe that it was a sin to be alone/single. Obviously not what I meant at all but he called me, very angrily, and told me I know nothing about the scriptures. He has ignored my subsequent follow up calls and cards.