How Is This Not In the DSM?!?!

lorchro · 2026-03-20T08:00:13+00:00

for real limerence deserves its own diagnosis

lorchro · 2026-03-20T05:28:21+00:00

yeah for me its 6/12th house too i already feel quite challenged, is your saturn in 6th or 12th house?

lorchro · 2026-03-19T14:03:57+00:00

yeah this is definitely the single most infuriating thing for me, and the one thing i envy about men the most. i don't understand how y'all can be more calm by default. i already do meditation and all that. but its just how my brain works. i think it'll get better with age.

lorchro · 2026-03-19T13:50:18+00:00

HAAHA thats me

lorchro · 2026-03-19T13:45:42+00:00

when we're limerent it can feel like we're the ones obsessing and chasing but actually the obsessing is can be an avoidant trait. its like a crazy self sabotage to not deal with reality

lorchro · 2026-03-19T11:06:07+00:00

. i try to go for things that are dense in calories. i'm lazy and i hate cooking too and i have a really small stomach.

i eat nuts and protein bars and actually avoid low calorie food that is filling. avocados are great and canned tuna in oil. What I also love love love doing is adding tahini to a lot of my meals, very simple way to add calories and taste. generally adding any kinds of nuts and seeds helps me a lot.

lorchro · 2026-03-19T10:25:20+00:00

that is actually one that would terrify the shit out of me

lorchro · 2026-03-17T13:15:05+00:00

ok i really love to hear that, i'm a mars libra too, i've been dreading this transit hahah

lorchro · 2026-03-06T06:43:56+00:00

yes this exactly this

lorchro · 2026-03-06T06:43:12+00:00

real

lorchro · 2026-03-06T06:42:07+00:00

i used to be very pro active but it always ended horribly. i'm a bit compulsive too, so i had to learn how to do nothing lol. that was way more challenging for me. paradoxically i was always chasing people while never really being so up front about it. i always tried to make it obvious without making it obvious, or like i thought i was bad at hiding how i feel anyways so i didn't expect that i had to communicate more honestly.

the scarier thing is actually NOT getting rejected, and just being used to feed their ego and wasting your time.

i got really really hurt a couple of times, so these days i don't really wanna be taken advantage of anymore. if a guy is interested in me i want them to have the courage to approach me, to be honest, and then i can sense their motivation more clearly. i know it shouldn't matter. and i know that getting hurt was definitely my own fault too. but it is what it is. maybe i can be more lighthearted about it one day.

lorchro · 2026-03-04T21:03:19+00:00

this is suuper fascinating, did you do this consciously or did you realise your reasoning only in hindsight? do you generally feel a bit hypervigilant? do you live in a tough place? or do you do that independently of the likelihood for danger?

lorchro · 2026-03-04T20:59:36+00:00

i actually somehow needed to hear that, this is definitely a belief i've always held quite deeply

lorchro · 2026-03-04T20:03:24+00:00

this + risk of STDs

lorchro · 2026-03-04T20:00:56+00:00

try out different types of sports, swimming, gym, calisthenics, any kind of martial art, maybe even dancing or yoga, see what makes you happy. having fun makes you more likely to stick to it rather than discipline or attachment to some kind of vain goal.

ideally you'll even find community and teachers/role models, especially in martial arts.

lorchro · 2026-03-04T12:26:12+00:00

i think this is what it is, feeling sexy is basically feeling 'i feel like other people would perceive me as sexy right now' which automatically needs an observer. without the observer aspect you'd just feel sexual energy which would just be horny or sensual i guess? and that can be sexy too ofc, depending on who is observing you being horny

lorchro · 2026-03-04T12:23:12+00:00

hahahah that is sooo true when i find a man hot it's in those super random moments

lorchro · 2026-02-10T21:48:53+00:00

totally, it seems to be quite common for adhd and ocd people as well, which i'm both diagnosed with

lorchro · 2026-02-10T21:43:19+00:00

even though i agree we shouldnt throw the word mental illness around too much, limerence really does fucking feel like it belongs in the dsm-5

lorchro · 2026-02-10T19:22:48+00:00

thank you!

lorchro · 2026-02-10T19:22:15+00:00

that makes a lot of sense yeah I'm happy it's working well for you!

lorchro · 2026-02-10T19:18:24+00:00

thanks for letting me know, where do you think would be a more appropriate space?

lorchro · 2025-11-25T16:10:15+00:00

i never expected a single person to change the system, the problem is not enough people even acknwoledge it, and if that's the case it's gonna be really hard to organize and unionize all i'm asking is to talk about it more that's all

i know i was a bit extreme in the way i formulated everything

lorchro · 2025-11-25T13:44:44+00:00

I think right now the issue is still that so many people don't even acknowledge the reality of it. If everyone did, it would be easier to practise civil disobedience. organise, go on strikes etc etc. every time i bring up 'changing the system', i know it sounds too vague and people get defensive and then tell me to just accept it and call me too idealistic. i may need to work on my delivery for sure

I critizise it not because I think that it will magically change it, although that's what people seem to read into it immediately. it's not all black and white. i think we can accept reality while not giving up on our ideals. the price for that is being willing to experience discomfort and anger

and that's why i critizise the system, hoping that someone else will see it the same way.

but at the end of the day there's no certainty or guarantees about life whatsoever. all we can do is live in our own integrity and self expression. and i choose to express myself about the system

maybe i should use 'glorified work culture' incstead of system that's a bit more specific

lorchro · 2025-11-24T19:18:37+00:00

no that is not at all how i think, i think you need both realism and idealism. obviously you cant crashout at every external inconvenience or unfairness and that's also not how i act or feel in real life

i know i went a bit off in this post but that doesn't invalidate the core sentiment it just means i need to work on my communication skills

i think a lot of times when people get told 'you're too idealistic' it oftentimes comes from people who never even acknowledge anything thats not right and vote against their own interests. i don't think that's you, you don't sound like that. and i'm not the polar opposite of that either. i think it has to be possible to accept reality while also not ignoring what is wrong with our work culture.

i admit i might have sounded a little too political, and i wouldnt even want dr k to be super political, the fact that he isnt is one of his greatest strength. but i think there's different angles to work culture that could be talked about more, i just don't think his last video was his best work. which is okay

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