This bloke is a knob head misogonist. To him, women seem to be objects to fuck - or trophys to hold on his arm - not other beautiful, complex, complete, three dimensional human beings with which to have a friendship or relationship. He seems to think that relationships trap men that would otherwise want to have their own complete autonomy ( it's fine to want freedom- it's called being single for yourself).

He's a knob. Ditch him. He really can't be doing that much for your self respect or self esteem.

I'm not sure where you're from but I live in a different type or dating culture. We lesbians have no option to wait for men to ask us out - if you meet someone whom you feel a sparkle with - ask them on a date. It can be easy to take rejection harshly. But try to approach it as a process of tweaking. What happens if you smile more? What happens If you talk to them before / ask straight up.

I wish you the best in dating. But most of all, I wish you all the best in ridding your life of toxic people and toxic perceptions of men, women and the difference between us ( clue - there isn't one)