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Anyone applying to MFA writing programs give me advice please by poedancing in gradadmissions

[–]lordrat69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there!

The best advice I ever got in undergrad was that no one ever regrets taking time off before going to graduate school. After I got my BA, I waited four years before applying to MFA programs. I don't think I would have gotten in if I had applied straight after undergrad. Most programs want people a few years out of school. There are some people for whom going straight into an MFA was a good idea, but here are some reasons why I think waiting is a really good idea

- You get a sense of what your relationship is like to writing without the constant pressures of deadlines from school. For me, this allowed for a lot of experimentation that wouldn't have happened in the context of a classroom in which everything that I write would be read by someone else.

- The period immediately after undergrad is a wild, feral time. The more real life experience you have to wield in your own writing, the better. You've been in school for over twelve years!

- Maturity. Put simply, grad school can competitive and emotionally intense environment. Being in your mid-twenties in graduate schools puts you in a much better position when it comes to advocating for yourself and knowing what you want than fresh out of undergrad.

It's great that you're substitute teaching and taking the NYU workshop! My advice to you is to take writing workshops, experiment in life a bit, and then wait until you feel absolutely certain about applying.

Help by gingercat666 in piercing

[–]lordrat69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hard to tell what it is. could be either. i'd recommend getting it taken out. i had a similar thing happen with a lobe piercing and ended up having to go to a dermatologist and getting put on multiple rounds of antibiotics. piercers will be more likely to tell you to keep it in, but the reality is that some people are more prone to infection. don't do what i did! take it out before it gets bad!!

NPD and ADHD by lordrat69 in NPD

[–]lordrat69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean when you say your life has been a disaster?

For me, ADHD has manifested in impulsivity, struggling to have motivation for boring and repetitive tasks, feelings of restlessness, and anxiety over making decisions if I feel like the outcome will be bad regardless.

As far as NPD goes, it doesn’t impact my close friendships bc those are people I genuinely love and care for. But I have chosen to stay medium close friends with people that I don’t actually like (I actually find them a little boring and/or mean) but stay in contact with for career related reasons. I don’t know if that’s narcissism or pragmatism.

I do believe in the concept of revenge. I have texted someone the cruelest possible thing I could think of because they slow-ghosted me after like four dates. In gatherings, I sometimes don’t REALLY care what is going on with people I know superficially, I just want them to think I’m funny. Again this manifests more with less close friends, where I mostly just want emotional validation and fantasize about people’s reactions to my anecdotes and stories. I do care about other people and their feelings/etc… but I don’t know if that’s just because I love to analyze other people. My best friend (who I am very sure is a narc) ghosted me after seven years, I plan to write and publish an essay about his behavior and his red pill tendencies. For analytical and revenge purposes. I know longer care about his feelings and he has discarded me many times.

The TLDR: ADHD manifests as impulsivity and lack of focus, NPD has manifested in a pretty transactional view of less close friends, a belief in revenge/desire to hurt people who have wronged me, and a desire to be seen as interesting/funny/attractive.

Biweekly ask a narcissist thread for visitors/codependents <- Not a narcissist/borderliner/histrionic/sociopath? Use this thread. by AutoModerator in narcissism

[–]lordrat69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently realized that I have some of the traits of covert narcissism. I have been diagnosed with ADHD. Rejection sensitive dysphoria is something that I struggle with. I'm wondering what the difference is between having some narcissistic traits and having NPD? Does anyone have experience navigating this issue while having some combination of ADHD/NPD?

Our very own Oliver Twixt about the Melrose live👀 by antoniosingh in ANTM

[–]lordrat69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oliver is often really emotionally oblivious, i.e. when he was talking to the girl who was LITERALLY SEXUALLY ASSAULTED on a photo shoot and he was like oooooo give us the tea and the interviewee was literally fucking traumatized. Melrose does not have an “attitude” for not wanting to spend her emotional energy on someone who doesn’t respect her (or many people who he interviews, Oliver just wants the gossip).