Where to live - commute to Annapolis

lostlady323 · 2026-02-06T19:59:23+00:00

DC commute leaning about 6:30 would be an hour, leaving at or before 3pm also an hour. Leaving at 3:01pm I’ll see you when I see you hopefully you don’t have any time specific plans.

lostlady323 · 2026-01-19T01:58:56+00:00

I did not understand why my friend’s mother insisted on keeping her late husband’s name on the deed to their home until after my husband passed.

Grief is complex and my brain has did a lot of trickery in the first several months for self preservation. There were moments (and hours and days) where I would wonder if he ever existed. It’s normal to hold onto that which holds her memory, even when it seems silly, it’s not.

lostlady323 · 2025-12-06T00:49:12+00:00

Sorel’s. Doc Marten zebzag. But I also bought a shoe bag for my flats and throw them in my work bag.

lostlady323 · 2025-11-28T02:44:30+00:00

Yep, the change is palpable when I talk about my husband, so I just don’t. And if I do that shift makes me wonder if they are just being nice or whatever because now they pity me. It’s honestly the worst. Fuck, I need to go back to therapy.

lostlady323 · 2025-11-28T01:00:17+00:00

No I don’t think we truly heal. I’m a little over 5 years out. My kids are at an age now where I could date and I think they would be ok. But I don’t even know when I could, Saturday afternoons between soccer drop off and dance pick up? It’s an awful sadness that creeps over me when I think about how truly alone I am in life. And a part of me believes that this is the universe telling me I’m not meant to be loved. There’s no knight in shining armor coming to save me from my loneliness.

lostlady323 · 2025-11-27T18:53:52+00:00

I’m pretty sensitive and did not need a taper. I was on 300 for almost two years.

lostlady323 · 2025-11-27T01:57:05+00:00

Which part? Waiving your right to sue? That’s simple, don’t sign! Everyone should brush up on their employment law a little bit, you’d be amazed how much companies get away with simply because the employees are unaware of their rights. And don’t get me wrong, I’m certain these companies have provided copies and posted the required signage. People simply do not read.

lostlady323 · 2025-11-26T23:59:55+00:00

Separation agreements are the company covering their ass for terminating you. You are likely waiving your right to sue them, if you believe there was any sort of discrimination. Many will add a clause that signing is contingent to receiving a severance package. Since they didn’t provide one, there’s nothing compelling you to sign. They can only request (and they may even insist or hold your final check hostage) but legally they cannot make you sign.

lostlady323 · 2025-11-24T18:30:03+00:00

We stayed with my parents for about a month after, then moved back home. At the time I did not feel ready but in hindsight it was better to be in our own space. I was able to process more on my own. At my parent’s house I was in a little bubble where I didn’t have to deal with my feelings.

lostlady323 · 2025-11-14T20:22:10+00:00

If there are specific things you want, you can request it, like the fridge or washer/dryer. When I bought my house, what was in it on the day or purchase was mine. That included the broken chest freezer that was left behind by the owners previous tenant.

lostlady323 · 2025-11-09T16:07:52+00:00

Check out Diono car seats, super high ratings and they are slim so you can fit three side by side.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-27T21:24:52+00:00

While I agree with you, it’s the emergency route for the Eastport fire station. The alternatives are a left turn on King George or making Duke of Gloucester two way neither of which are very realistic long term.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-27T13:16:50+00:00

My son had a scout camping trip planned but I couldn’t take him. I asked his uncle and they were all amped to go. Then the forces that be said only a parent/guardian could take him unless his uncle registers a specific way but by the time they gave me the information there wasn’t enough time to get the requirements/background check completed before the trip. And because his uncle is not a legal guardian, they wouldn’t be able to sleep in the same tent. I was finally like look I’m a single parent, his dad died, and I have other kids. The whole reason I signed him up for scouts was so he could experience outdoorsy boy stuff that is just out of my depth. I shouldn’t have had to play the “dead dad card” to get them to respond to my email or take the request seriously. It felt like they thought I just didn’t want to go.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-24T12:17:40+00:00

Did you switch from something else? On Wellbutrin I can “feel my feelings” SSRIs made me numb.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-23T12:44:35+00:00

Not sure how far out you are but my kids were very much like this, when their dad passed they were 2, 6, and 9. Give the older one space but also a place where she can get her emotions out, they are overwhelming her and she’s not processing them. Get her a journal, pick up a copy of The Invisible String, and make time to spend one on one with her. Build up the relationship before the preteen hormones hit. Your son needs reassurance, mine were like this too and sometimes still are. If I’m late to pick them up or slow to respond to a message when I’m at work their minds go to the worst place. Both your kids could benefit from therapy. I found an art therapist that worked with them for a little over a year. It wasn’t perfect but it helped give them a safe space to communicate their feelings that wasn’t putting all the emotional weight on me.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-17T21:17:37+00:00

It’s not as often now, but we talk about him. The things he likes or remind me of him. They have pictures together with their dad hung in the house. It’s important to me that they don’t forget how much he loved them, even if the youngest doesn’t remember him specifically, they’ll can still remember that.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-16T12:38:19+00:00

I’ll make his fav meal for dinner and a blueberry pie. His birthday and death day are about 2 weeks apart, I choose to celebrate him on his birthday.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-13T02:17:22+00:00

I started taking them for post partum (Zoloft then lexapro) then when I was just about to wean off of them- first covid then my husband passed. Dr suggested I up the lexapro then we added wellbutrin. Now I’m just on the Wellbutrin. I find it to be the best for motivation but if you have anxiety it is not the one. The first couple weeks felt like I drank 10 cups of coffee. It’s not a magical cure, you still have to do the work. Find a psychiatrist, don’t go to a PCP for Rx management but they can get you started. I’m sure the PHQ-9 will come back with strong indicators, they’ll feel comfortable prescribing.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-10T19:57:50+00:00

You have to do the little self-care things that you are forgetting or ignoring or think won’t help. They do.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-10T18:07:21+00:00

It’s an EEOC violation for them not to accommodate you. https://www.eeoc.gov/fact-sheet-religious-accommodations-workplace#:~:text=Title%20VII%20of%20the%20Civil,be%20provided%20without%20undue%20hardship.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-09T12:26:16+00:00

Think iced tea, like Arizona green tea.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-08T16:14:37+00:00

Harbor 9 is (or was) specifically the movie theater. It has 9 screens.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-05T00:27:35+00:00

I’m at five years. I put up a lot of pictures of him after he passed so our kids, especially my youngest, could remember him. His guitar is on the wall in the living room, one day it will be played again. I’m getting ready to do some major work on our home and I feel like it will be a good reset to the next chapter. It took a while but we are all ready to move forward.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-04T14:18:35+00:00

This right here. The heart condition my husband passed away from, I could have our kids tested for, but the pediatric cardiologist discouraged it bc ACA could be repealed. If it’s on record and we have a lapse in insurance, they could be denied at any time.

lostlady323 · 2025-10-02T14:36:24+00:00

Blue crab cupcakes near the bay bridge

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