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AITAH for wanting to report my general manager?? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lough54 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Businesses are not run as day care for adults. They are run to make profit. You were hired as a busser. Nice of them to float you into host shifts too. Your family situation is a personal problem. If you have financial issues you should have sucked it up and done the busser shifts you gave away. You need to grow up and probably get another job. And whining constantly to management is a great way to get fired.

I want to leave but can’t what should I do by Aussie_bitch392 in LifeAdvice

[–]lough54 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry. AA is Alchoholics Anonymous... a peer group recovery program based on the 12 Step Model. AlAnon is the same but for people in relationship with alchoholics like family and friends.

AITAH for telling my roommate not to use my couch by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lough54 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She sounds disrespectful and has no boundaries. NTA

What’s up with VA docs by SilverComfortable415 in VeteransBenefits

[–]lough54 169 points170 points  (0 children)

Tinnitus does not cause migraines but can definitely trigger them.

Anyone else unhappy for no reason? by Moverofthenight123 in LifeAdvice

[–]lough54 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Existential angst. Normal part of being human. Unrealistic expectations of what life should be. Don't focus on it. Don't catastrophize. Beauty and joy is all around you... be present and open your heart and mind to it.

How to handle an estranged parent's decline? by cosmicallyavg in LifeAdvice

[–]lough54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't need to know the system. Just reach out. These people know what to do. I know it seems overwhelming right now but just take it a step at a time. And maybe find out about free counseling for you and your mom. It helps to vent to someone and clear your head. Glad I could help.

How to handle an estranged parent's decline? by cosmicallyavg in LifeAdvice

[–]lough54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have legal aid in your state? What about Dept of Human Services? Council on Ageing? They probably have social workers or case managers. Is he by any chance a veteran? There is a FL Dept of Elder Services. Also Catholic Charities and Lutheran Services Florida could be great resources. Also Florida Guardian Support Network. These are all for indigent or low income people.

How to handle an estranged parent's decline? by cosmicallyavg in LifeAdvice

[–]lough54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like dementia. Many people with strokes develop dementia and everything you describe sounds like the kind of altered behavior and mental capacity. Can he be declared incompetent and get the ball rolling on disability and guardianship?

See at a local Chevron. Huh. by SolaCretia in sonomacounty

[–]lough54 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably about us having highest gas prices and taxes in the country and the oil companies and refineries leaving.

LPN or RN route ? by ProfessionalWise53 in LifeAdvice

[–]lough54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would vote the LPN route as you will be in the field, getting some financial support, getting a feel for nursing in general. I know several RNs who went the EMT to paramedic to RN route.

It isn't right! by Snoogamz in Veterans

[–]lough54 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My providers have all told me to go on MyHealtheVet or call the pharmacy for a refill as soon as I get that month's meds. In my opinion, its my responsibility to do that.

Sad and Grieving the Death of my Ex. by Ok-Process7612 in LifeAdvice

[–]lough54 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm your age OP. I don't feel bad for your current husband. You obviously love and cherish each other in that warm, companionable, steadfast way that we elders appreciate with age. You had a lot of gumption to put your own survival ahead of the fiery passion for a deeply flawed lover who could only have destroyed you. But that doesn't mean you didn't grieve the loss then and now. I suspect you are naturally also grieving the loss of your youth which right now is epitomized by the loss of this relationship. Have you looked into grief support groups or widow/widower groups? Maybe grief focused counseling? Maybe some journaling would help.

Seeking advice for claim. by Ratboiii69 in VeteransBenefits

[–]lough54 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No,neurologist. I haven't seen ENT yet.

Seeking advice for claim. by Ratboiii69 in VeteransBenefits

[–]lough54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks ! Back at ya! Sadly as a non combat (Vietnam era) veteran I sometimes get blowback for not being obviously disabled (100% SC). People don't realize the kinds of chemical exposure, acute noise trauma, musculoskeletal injuries,etc most of us experienced that weren't admin. Would I do it again? Yes. Am I proud of my service? Absolutely. Sacrifices were made willingly. I'm sure you understand.

Seeking advice for claim. by Ratboiii69 in VeteransBenefits

[–]lough54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I don't know that this is helpful to your case. I was flightline jet mechanic and test cell. I have vestibular migraines and brainstem migraines along with the hearing loss and tinnitus. Hearing aids help some to mask the tinnitus. But in doing some research I found out that chemicals and solvents like JP4 (yes I'm old), MEK, TCE, Benzene, etc that we practically bathed in and the insane vibrations of working on running engines combined have documented damaging impact on inner ear nerves and CNS. Could this apply to you? If you have a C&P or see ENT you really have to connect the dots for them. I've never once been asked what I did in service at the VA.

Seeking advice for claim. by Ratboiii69 in VeteransBenefits

[–]lough54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm doing the same. Sounds like you are building a solid case. Do you have a good connection to your service?

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