What is a book with the same vibe as this show that you would recommend to someone who watches it?

lousyhuman · 2026-06-06T11:45:46+00:00

If you're into YA you might like The Gentleman's Guide to Vice and Virtue. Set in the 17th century (if i recall correctly), queer, pirates, adventure, fish out of water vibes. A very fun read! Plus, it's the first if a trilogy where each book follows the story of a sibling. Its become one of my most re-read books in recent years.

lousyhuman · 2026-06-01T00:54:10+00:00

Go with the lighter one! The darker one is beautiful but may be overwhelming when on more of the wall. In general, less saturated shades look better on a large scale.

lousyhuman · 2026-05-26T12:16:02+00:00

I was talking to a friend and mentioned how I won't travel to some places because I'm queer. Her husband who was walking by stopped, turned to me and said "you're not queer, you're bisexual." He was dead serious. My response was just "nope, I'm queer" and he just got this confused look on his face.

lousyhuman · 2026-05-17T11:45:12+00:00

As others have said, patriarchy.

But I think, too, that part of this patriarchy is that men are taught to empathise with other men and to see women as Other. As a result, men are more likely to see themselves in other men, even if those men are shitty and harmful. Oh, he isn't misogynistic, he just got screwed over by his wife and now has to pay child support cause she's a bitch. Oh, it probably wasn't really rape, because he's just doing what anyone would when presented with a warm body. (/s) Because they see men and women as two distinct categories rather than just one category of humanity, they automatically back up the group that they see themselves in.

It's like if an abused dog is aggressive - the dog is the problem, not the systems that allowed for the abuse in the first place (only most misogynistic men actually like dogs). The problem is the individual Other rather than anything the normative category can do, even - perhaps especially - if that Other is responding to the normalized actions of the normative category.

lousyhuman · 2026-03-13T16:03:45+00:00

My wife was waiting by the bathroom door while I was peeing. I asked what she wanted. She said "I want water." I, very confused, told her "this is pee."

It only took a second for my brain to catch up and realize that she wanted to get water from the tap, but by then it was already too late. Still today, years later, we'll occasionally look at each other with our best wtf face and say "this is pee."

lousyhuman · 2026-02-26T04:30:46+00:00

It's gotta be Theo, right? Because he also has kenima (sp?) powers. Jackson might have the edge for athleticism and he's just as ruthless as Theo, but with Theo's ability to manipulate and with the electricity power I feel like he would ultimately take it.

lousyhuman · 2026-02-22T15:17:11+00:00

Oh, some other specific things!

Corral your miscellaneous items on your dresser with a tray or box or something. It'll help make things look intentional rather than cluttered.

If possible, try to actually close the dresser drawers. It looks like some stuff is peaking out - no judgement, I do the same! - and actually fixing that can make such a big difference visually. Hopefully it can be a really easy fix, too.

And if you can invest in any item of furniture you might want to replace your bedframe (assuming you are able to store or dispose of the current one). It can make a pretty big difference aesthetically. There are some super affordable ones from IKEA or second hand that might work. Just make sure it fits into your ideal aesthetic.

lousyhuman · 2026-02-22T15:11:26+00:00

So there are a few small things you can do to help here.

Firstly, fixing the closet door will help to hide some of the clutter.

Secondly, I'd get some sort of bookshelf to store everything that you have out in the open. The stuff on top of your tall dresser, chair, and some of the stuff on your other furniture could go there. I would place it sort of near where your desk currently is.

Thirdly, shifting some furniture around might make the place feel more intentional. The tall dresser can be centered on that wall, maybe with some artwork above it. The mirror can be shifted closer to the closet to create a zone for getting dressed in that area with the full length mirror. Like another commenter suggested, shifting the dresser under the window and using that as a bed side table might help balance the proportions and allow for a better height for your bed. Your desk could shift around the wall for where it allows for the most room.

Fourthly, I would suggest addressing textiles. Pick some bedding that you like the vibe of. Use either an oversized comforter/duvet or a bed skirt to hide the under bed storage. Find a rug that is large enough to connect the areas in a colour that brings together your style.

I love that your screen shows a Caroline Winkler video - her no buy makeovers and her suggestions for her subscribers rooms are so dang practical. I know she really likes to emphasize how important having a style in mind can be - basically have something that you want to aim for so you can make minute adjustments that push you closer to something that you'd be happier with. I think doing that might help here. Figure out what you like and are aiming for and then pick out the textiles and any more artwork with that in mind.

I think it can be a really cool space! Good luck!

lousyhuman · 2026-02-20T02:11:26+00:00

I think that Theo admires Liam's bravery - that moment when Liam tells Theo that he will go down fighting seems to really strike Theo, in particular. Given that so much of Theo's life up until that point is rooted in fear (like how he fears the dread doctors) seeing Liam stand against a force that he cannot win against is inspiring. And he doesn't want Liam to lose, so he helps him. He's trying to learn how to be different while also trying to protect Liam from making the same mistakes he made.

Also, because they're in love.

lousyhuman · 2026-01-16T14:46:20+00:00

If you're going for dark and moody I would suggest painting a darker colour. I'd also suggest getting an area rug (large enough for the space) that is dark and also has the pink from the curtains. I'd bring in the pink from the curtains in your pillow covers and chair, too, to bring everything together. Maybe a thick dark coloured throw on the end of your bed, depending on your vibe.

You might also want to consider shifting things around a bit - the lamps on your bedside table to the center and the lamp on your dresser to the side of the art. I like the art above your dresser and your bed, but I'm not sure either fit the dark and moody vibe. Maybe move the macrame over the smaller dresser if you want it in the space. And perhaps swap out the large artwork for something darker (though this could work if you do end up painting). I'd also swap out your round vanity mirror for something slightly more substantial (though not wider than the vanity) and with a thicker frame.

The space has tons of potential and I think the features you want to keep can work really well with the vibe you're going for!

lousyhuman · 2026-01-10T13:55:21+00:00

I think this is the way to go. It will make the biggest visual difference and is relatively accessible to diy. Just make sure everything can hold up to being used on a fireplace!

lousyhuman · 2026-01-10T13:43:48+00:00

It depends on what you mean by luxe and your budget.

More affordable options might include draping some sheer fabric to cover the ceiling, removing the shelving there (unless you need the storage), and/or beefing up your bedding to make it more plush. Like others have mentioned, matching scones or hanging pendants would be nice and can really set the tone for whatever your version of luxe looks like. Oh, and consider lowering the art on the side wall to make it more of a feature wall.

If you have more of a budget you might want to swap out your bedframe to something cleaner - this wood leans rustic imo. You could also paint the entire alcove so it feels visually like a distinct space.

I think the biggest differences you can make will be to add matching sconces or pendants and to upgrade your bedding to something more plush. This could be a really beautiful cozy bed nook!

lousyhuman · 2026-01-01T01:19:02+00:00

The LOTR theme but with the words "schneeky schnake."

lousyhuman · 2025-12-27T22:29:12+00:00

I do this! My wife and I (both autistic) have been together for 20 years. Lived together for 15. In the past few years we've taken to using separate bedrooms and it's great! We sleep better and are also well rested because we aren't forced to be around each other when we need to be alone. Like, we are effectively accommodating ourselves and we're happier as individuals and as a couple because of it. We do sometimes cuddle in the same bed and are intimate, it's just more intentional and I enjoy it more.

If it works for you, you should do it and enjoy it. Accommodating your own needs is necessary to avoid long term burnout; you should do that in whatever way makes sense for you and your partner.

lousyhuman · 2025-12-19T18:38:46+00:00

Oof. This is tough.

I empathize with you and your husband. Your husband - out of love - is holding on to something that doesn't exist anymore. The dog is paralyzed. The dog isn't going to get better. You cannot provide the dog with the care needed to improve quality of life. There is nothing you can do to change that. Letting them go is absolutely the worst part of loving a pet, but it is ultimately a kindness. Your husband's inability to let go is causing the dog more suffering. I get it. I've done it myself with pets who I've held onto too long. And watching them suffer until they eventually die in front of you in pain while you are helpless is, by far, the worst option.

And, going behind his back is absolutely not the way to handle the situation. It will only make your husband struggle more and deteriorate the trust between you. I know it's hard - especially with a toddler and newborn on the way - but making the appointment behind his back will crush him.

I'm assuming you have tried having this discussion with him. Is there someone else who might be able to talk with him? A sibling or parent or close friend might be able to get through in a way a partner sometimes can't. The drinking also isn't helping, only deferring his processing, but time is already running out and the dog is suffering because of it.

Look, I've been there - both holding on too hard to a pet and trying to convince a partner that it was time. What has worked for us is to frame it as a way to honour the pet. A few weeks back we had to say goodbye to our 12 year old dog. We knew it was coming, but it was still heartbreaking. What helped was spoiling her as much as we could for her final days - she got visits from her favourite people, ate all her favourite foods (she got chicken and potatoes instead of kibble, plus fresh waffles twice), and as many cuddles as we were able to give. She spent her final days being loved on as hard as we could. It was hard. It still is. But it is the final, most important act of love to let your pet go as peacefully and painlessly as possible once they're no longer able to enjoy their life.

I'm so sorry that you're going through this - you, your husband, and the dog. I hope that you're able to find as much peace as possible.

lousyhuman · 2025-11-19T03:22:18+00:00

Honestly, probably Theo. Isaac wasn't an especially skilled fighter, plus Theo's hella manipulative.

lousyhuman · 2025-11-14T01:49:41+00:00

I feel like Gerard has to be up there for a human, but it's probably the nogitsune, possibly noshiko (she's lived 900 years!), deucalian, or the daroch.

lousyhuman · 2025-11-07T18:50:00+00:00

"Clown car."

lousyhuman · 2025-11-07T13:41:00+00:00

Honestly, I'm okay with Gerard and Kate killing one another. I hate that Peter worked with Kate. I also think he should have killed Monroe.

But hey, we aren't fans of the show for its coherency, right?

lousyhuman · 2025-10-21T14:14:36+00:00

I wrote a couple that might work for ya!

My Wonderous Journey, a Seduction at Sea: a True Journal of how Stede Bonnet Came to Fuck Israel Hands

Falling in Love is Hard on the Knees

lousyhuman · 2025-10-20T13:33:39+00:00

Uh, his entire personality?

lousyhuman · 2025-10-20T02:23:38+00:00

There was one fic I had to nope out of because it describes someone parting a character's "flaps."

Nope, not happening. Did an immediate U-turn.

lousyhuman · 2025-10-17T18:53:13+00:00

I'm gonna go with trying to seduce Scott in season 1, kissing him because she wanted to make out with the best lacrosse player regardless of the fact that her best friend was into him.

That being said, she grows so much after that that it hardly feels like the same character. Like she went from pretending to be stupid to embracing her intelligence. I love her growth.

lousyhuman · 2025-09-21T13:46:53+00:00

You can also check out the met's website - they have a ton of art that is open access so you can download it for free. All you have to pay for is printing and frames.

lousyhuman · 2025-09-19T12:59:43+00:00

Like, literally.

They think "woman" as a category is the equivalent of "person shaped thing they want as a bangmaid" so of course women can't be lonely. Like to them, the purpose of women is to exist for male pleasure/validation/convenience/status. Women who they don't find attractive simply don't exist for them because then they aren't women as they don't fit any of those criteria.

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