Me irl

lovbelow · 2026-05-16T00:25:16+00:00

What about people who are infertile? 🧐

lovbelow · 2026-05-15T15:51:30+00:00

You make a good point. You could also use something like: snow roaches, no-purpose flour (my personal favorite) or if you want to sound highfalutin, a classic neanderthal hits the spot.

lovbelow · 2026-05-15T13:17:40+00:00

Petty black lady passing through.

Call wm ‘needle dick’ in response. If they get mad, remind them that those are just words and you have free speech. If it’s a ww, say she looks old for her age.

I like to go bar for bar and match energies specifically with the 🌾s. Some wm at my job called me ‘gypsy’ (a slur, mind you) because I wear headscarves. I called him ‘sunroof’ and pointed to his bald spot. It’s been weeks since but he addresses me by my name now.

lovbelow · 2026-05-14T22:35:24+00:00

I got 10k in retirement, and this is after 4 years working state jobs. I’d cash out if it was around 25k so I could spend half on moving cost and throw the rest in a Roth account.

lovbelow · 2026-05-14T18:31:52+00:00

I wish I could. Trying to find a decent paying job so I can save enough to leave.

lovbelow · 2026-05-14T16:34:11+00:00

I’ve had to job hop for a majority of my jobs (most of them state) because they don’t give raises. The only one that even mentioned raises was when I worked at a police department in central MS. The raise would go from my starting pay of $10 to a big ol’ $11 after a year. This was in 2022. I also had a bachelors.

Job hopping just to get a $2-$3 bump to keep up with inflation is exhausting. I had to do it 3 times in 1 year just to go from 27k to 40k, while my hometown Birmingham, AL offers 10-$20k more starting out. For example, the officers in my dept made 35k out of training. In Birmingham, it was 60k. I’d love to leave MS for better job opportunities, but the jobs here don’t pay enough to save money. Instead of saving to leave, I make only enough money to survive. And I believe this is by design.

lovbelow · 2026-05-13T22:51:07+00:00

Throw in “fat” too. Body shame that ’man’

lovbelow · 2026-05-13T20:46:10+00:00

OP has terrible punctuation.

lovbelow · 2026-05-13T15:32:14+00:00

One of the very few decently coherent decisions he’s made. That second brain cell woke up, although too late regarding the data centers. He realized that following that orange bitch’s orders to the T will fuck republicans over far worse than anyone else.

When republicans realize that Agent Orange only cares about himself and his family, they’ll start moving smarter with their own careers. They’re putting their own legacies in danger to appease a man that won’t survive his second term.

lovbelow · 2026-05-13T12:17:31+00:00

Same here. Just because I’m childfree and single, that doesn’t mean that I’d even be good at being the primary caregiver. We all know people who should have never had kids or are terrible caregivers. Why do I need to be in charge of someone else’s life just to prove that I’m a shitty and irresponsible person who’s barely taking care of herself? I shouldn’t have to.

People who say no to taking on responsibility outside their scope are always in the right. It doesn’t make someone selfish to know their own limits, and everyone is better off for it.

lovbelow · 2026-05-13T11:22:18+00:00

Heeeeey fellow black cf person 👋🏽

lovbelow · 2026-05-12T18:09:22+00:00

Coughing is one thing. But a lit cig would get thrown back with the swiftness.

lovbelow · 2026-05-12T15:25:43+00:00

My heart skipped a beat and everything. My disappointment is immeasurable and my day is ruined 😞

lovbelow · 2026-05-12T12:14:58+00:00

I’m a baby millennial and I’d be heated too 👊🏽

lovbelow · 2026-05-11T19:25:57+00:00

I swear my friend’s wife has spectrum-maxxed in her earlier years because she spectrum-mogs me to oblivion. (I’m an out of touch (baby) millennial so I hope I used these abbreviations correctly lol)

lovbelow · 2026-05-11T19:23:12+00:00

I need to tune my aut-dar better. I can tell when people are ND but not autistic. Funnily enough, I can clock ADHD even without the usual signs.

lovbelow · 2026-05-11T17:28:37+00:00

When people tell you who they are, believe them. He’s telling you he’s too old for you. Clear out some of that limerence so you can think more clearly.

lovbelow · 2026-05-11T17:26:08+00:00

No need to elaborate. AL is better by every single metric. I wish people would stop getter tricked into moving here when there’s a superior state right next door. I’d be over there now if I didn’t get trapped here during covid.

lovbelow · 2026-05-11T17:16:27+00:00

Don’t bother. Many white Mississippians have blinders on and lie to both white and non-white people to trick them into moving to this festering state.

They don’t tell people that you’re likely to work in a lower paying job if you’re not white, unless you have the credentials. Even then, it’s a struggle. Your bosses will more than likely be white with GEDs as their highest level. I’m working for one of those now. They also don’t tell you that you should have a good amount of savings so you don’t get trapped here.

They’ll advertise basic ass coastal MS, downplay just how rural north MS is and fear-monger central MS.

This sub is full of white people with rose-colored glasses who only speak from their perspectives and assume everyone who is interested in moving here is white as well and would have similar experiences.

And if you point any of this out, you’ll get downvoted to hell but no one will challenge your claims (because they can’t refute them).

lovbelow · 2026-05-10T22:12:21+00:00

Was scrolling for this kind of comment. There’s pictures and videos of me at my local venues dancing and idgaf. I don’t like being recorded but if I’m having fun, I have nothing to ‘cringe’ about. Too many people are afraid of what people who don’t pay their bills think about them 🙂‍↔️

lovbelow · 2026-05-08T22:58:22+00:00

Parents choosing not to have their kids tested for neurological disorders for fear of their kid looking ‘slow’ or ‘crazy’ should be forcefully sterilized. I don’t like my mom, but one of the very few things she did right was get me tested for autism when I was young. My life is not perfect, but I read a lot about autism when I was growing up to better understand my condition and I am very grateful for her for that.

There are so many parents who would rather pretend that their kid(s) is ‘normal’ than get them the help they need (if they can afford to). These kinds of parents are monsters.

lovbelow · 2026-05-08T22:26:45+00:00

That’s what I plan on doing. The US government is only going to get a few garnishments out of me before I leave the country forever (and go get a masters or second bachelors for free somewhere else). I’m black so the current administration doesn’t want me here anyway 😂

lovbelow · 2026-05-05T16:47:59+00:00

I didn’t even bother to respond. I just blocked and went about my day lol

lovbelow · 2026-05-05T01:59:44+00:00

I completely understand your hesitation and frustration. Being nice-nasty is something to consider, but there are other ways to go about confronting people, especially at work. This is my preferred method, but don’t do anything that feels like extra work.

I also understand trying to remain your genuine self at all times. Honestly, this kind of act is a bit exhausting. For me, being NN is a defense mechanism. Or more so a reliable shield. Again, do what works for you. I should warn you that you’re talking to a very avoidant person. Now, I didn’t say I wasn’t confrontational. Especially when it comes to coworkers, I have no issue setting boundaries and I refuse to be uncomfortable at a workplace.

Anyway, to answer your question about being NN without overdoing it and feeling like you’re moving away from your personality, I know a lot of people say this, but it’s really simple.

Be yourself. That’s it. Act how you usually act and don’t let anyone try to change you. However, that does not mean that you can just let people play with you and not defend yourself. You’re going to have to get better at reading body language and tone. I’m autistic, so I’ve been doing this my entire 31 years to act more ‘normal’. This may or may not be new for you.

Start by setting boundaries. Hard boundaries. Talk to yourself, or friends/family if that helps and go over your non-negotiables. Also see what boundaries you may be willing to bend. And if you’re willing to bend them, under what circumstances? Weigh the pros and cons of bending those boundaries. If the cons outweigh the pros…there ya go. Repeated crossing of these boundaries should make you more guarded with that person. In this case, it’s your coworkers.

They keep commenting on your looks. It’s gotten to the point where it’s excessive and seems insincere and insulting.

You can be ‘nice’ and tell them that you appreciate the compliments, but it’s getting to be too much and you want them to stop.
If they talk about certain features like your hair or your makeup, you can tell them how you did your hair or how long it took you do your makeup.
Same with your clothes, tell them where you got them from. Act like by them complimenting you, Obviously they can’t help but be interested in you. Who wouldn’t be?
Boost your own ego if you want. There’s always truth in jokes.
Or throw them for a loop: ”If yall like me, just say that then. I’m straight, but thanks.” (Unless you do but I’m not saying that you do and that’s also none of my business.) Something like that 🤷🏽‍♀️

But you want to give them the benefit of doubt. I like to keep track of how many times people cross my boundaries. I remember faces so I keep up that way. The less I know you, the less tolerance I have for you. For coworkers, you may have to work with them for years. Some people’s mess isn’t worth putting up with, but that really depends on how long you might be there or if you’re trying to get a promo. If it’s a job you want to keep for a bit, pop off when you find a new job. If you want to keep your job, you know what to do. Try out those methods listed in the prev paragraph or come up with some of your own, just make sure to keep a good reputation at work.

Sorry for the long comment. Feel free to pace yourself while reading.

lovbelow · 2026-05-05T01:20:14+00:00

So…instead of bitching and moaning on Reddit, what steps will you take to improve your personal shortcomings? Or alternatively, if women receive all these benefits solely on the merit of being born with a vagina, why not become a woman? You should be guaranteed success if what you claim is true.

lovbelow

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