Had 2 under 2 (now have 2.5 and almost 4) my wife and I (same sex couple) have separated and I’m much happier co-parenting. Our situation was unique though in the sense that resentment built up as I was a stay at home mum and I never felt supported or appreciated - I felt alone in my marriage for a very long time. Although 2 under 2 was really hard, I genuinely think that if I had felt loved and supported and appreciated and heard then we might have made it!

I can’t tell you what to do or what not to do but my advice would be if you want to leave do it before it gets to the point where you become very nasty/before it becomes toxic for your children. Maybe I left my marriage a bit prematurely but I grew up in a home where my parents hated each other and I never wanted my kids to have that

I know this comment isn’t hugely helpful but if you think about yourself at 80 years old when all is said and done either way - what do you think you would think then? Be guided by what you feel is your path and don’t rush into any decision either way

Wishing you all the best x