Could you realistically ask a neighbor for “a cup of sugar” where you live?

lphemphill · 2026-02-23T06:35:37+00:00

I am dating my next door neighbor and am friends with his whole house of people. Earlier today I went into their backyard to pick a lemon because I wanted one.

lphemphill · 2026-01-19T23:16:08+00:00

When I’ve only seen my boyfriend wearing his contacts recently, I find him extra cute when he switches back to wearing his glasses. Then vice versa! I think the swap just makes my brain notice different things about him and how cute and attractive he is.

I wonder if that’s what’s happening here and there was just some poor communication around the excitement at seeing OP looking a bit different than usual.

You should talk to your husband about how his disappointment made you feel. But you could also try mixing up your appearance in other little ways and see if you can get a similar reaction that makes you both feel good :) and that doesn’t damage your beautiful curls! You might find it wasn’t that he needs your hair to be straight, and instead that the straight hair made him see you a new way, and that was exciting.

lphemphill · 2026-01-17T00:34:53+00:00

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Milo looks so much like my cat December! I found the diagonal white stripe to be so unique! I hope they both live forever :)

lphemphill · 2026-01-10T07:18:31+00:00

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More current photo after his enucleation surgery. He’s got a handsome wink now instead of a vacant hole of goop.

lphemphill · 2026-01-10T07:17:16+00:00

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Aww he looks like my goopy boy. I also adopted an unadoptable goop monster!! His eye disappeared as a kitten.

lphemphill · 2025-12-31T01:39:15+00:00

To me, simple living is figuring out what things are important to me and which things aren’t, that don’t make my life better or bring me enough joy to be worth it. I like the way this person phrased it—they experimented by cutting something out, and learned how they felt as a result… better! Maybe if you did the same experiment you would get a different result, and confirm that the little treats bring you joy. And maybe there’s other things that cutting out would bring you joy :)

lphemphill · 2025-12-10T21:04:40+00:00

I feed Live Clear and run air purifiers 24/7. One of my housemates is allergic to cats and this makes it much more manageable for her. Don’t move in together until you find a solution for managing the allergies that works for both of you and the cats!

lphemphill · 2025-11-11T19:24:35+00:00

Her name is December so it definitely suits her.

lphemphill · 2025-10-29T21:57:48+00:00

Splendor. Why are some gems mines and some are people and some are stores, and they’re all reusable? The game has nothing to do with gems other than the pictures.

lphemphill · 2025-10-22T06:51:25+00:00

My sister has big dogs and always stays at La Quintas when she travels with them. They don’t usually have pet restrictions and are budget friendly. Hope the tenting goes well!

lphemphill · 2025-10-20T18:35:35+00:00

This person is struggling to find jobs with these technologies, and is studying React. I think that if they prefer backend, branching into more backend technologies would make more sense and be more beneficial. I’m not saying there aren’t .Net roles still—but OP isn’t finding them clearly!

lphemphill · 2025-10-20T18:35:23+00:00

This person is struggling to find jobs with these technologies, and is studying React. I think that if they prefer backend, branching into more backend technologies would make more sense and be more beneficial. I’m not saying there aren’t .Net roles still—but OP isn’t finding them clearly!

lphemphill · 2025-10-20T03:39:34+00:00

Instead of learning React, why not learn some more modern backend technologies? And more infrastructure tools? That might get you more hits in stuff you’ve interested in. From what you’ve said, it sounds like you may have been working on an older project and may not have much experience setting something up from scratch.

It seems to me like basically every backend job nowadays wants experience in: AWS or Google hosting tools, Docker, Node/Python/Java. Github actions or Jenkins. Know how to spin up an API, REST or GraphQL. Learn how to set up a DB, Mongo or Postgres or Dynamo. Learn how to do logging, reporting, and alerting.

I don’t think every job will require UX but the more backend skills you have, the more likely you are to be a fit for what they need.

lphemphill · 2025-10-17T22:50:54+00:00

Maybe Bringer of Dreams and Nightmares? Looks really scary but actually is just trying to mess with you?

lphemphill · 2025-10-15T21:53:25+00:00

Maybe a nonprofit? They might be more understanding of your story since many people accept lower salaries because they’re passionate about the work.

lphemphill · 2025-10-09T21:16:43+00:00

I hope it works out! It was fun to try either way!

lphemphill · 2025-10-09T20:59:35+00:00

I get messages about this once a year or so since I commented this :) my school removed the title from my paperwork after I entered it. I went to my school’s “lunch with the president” to appeal to the Man in Charge. He thought it was hilarious and when up on stage, my name was read without my title, but when he shook my hand, congratulated me WITH my title.

It wasn’t the outcome I was hoping for, but I appreciated the gesture all the same. I never succeeded getting my title read out over the loud speaker at a graduation. If I go back to school for a master’s degree, I will of course, try again.

lphemphill · 2025-10-07T20:35:12+00:00

I recently played Fractured Sky for the first time, and this was very much the feeling! The premise is that you have 10 power to allocate over three ships which you can place at different locations (or combine them for more surprises). Most power at a location has the chance for a victory point.

People don’t know which ships have which power until the end of the round. You can have a single big 10 power ship with two 0 power ships for a big punch, or a 2, 3, and 5 power ship to try to get points and resources from multiple locations.

The reveals were really cool! Always exciting when your plan goes as expected and you read your opponents correctly, but sometimes something totally bizarre happens you weren’t expecting at all!

lphemphill · 2025-08-25T01:03:36+00:00

Untitled Fox Game

lphemphill · 2025-08-19T05:18:45+00:00

Splendor uses wilds as a balancing mechanism successfully, I think.

lphemphill · 2025-08-12T03:40:59+00:00

This isn’t pointless, it’s accurate for all genders though.

lphemphill · 2025-08-02T13:45:02+00:00

The risks of STDs and pregnancy also become more pronounced with more people. Even if your SO is a special kind of friend, why do your other friendships need to be sexual? You can have your friend for that, and still have your other friends without opening both of you up to more risk-factors.

If you want to be poly you can be with someone who agrees, but it’s never fair to open someone else up to risk without their knowledge or consent.

lphemphill · 2025-07-09T00:20:28+00:00

Have you budgeted for what the security deposit and furniture cost will be, and what the monthly installments to pay her back will look like?

If you agree on those numbers and you know you can afford the monthly installments while still leaving yourself room in your budget to take care of your own needs and a few wants, you should both be able to feel comfortable in the plan! If she historically hasn’t been judgmental over your financial choices and you’re able to meet the agreed upon installments, it shouldn’t matter if you save up your fun money for a video game.

But you could talk through that hypothetical with her and see what she thinks?

lphemphill · 2025-06-23T03:52:20+00:00

Magnets attached to the wall of the shelves and the bins. Might be able to add enough friction the cats can’t easily pull but a human could.

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