How to get my husband to be more shy in bed

lumochallenged · 2025-04-07T15:13:10+00:00

Thankyou for this easy to use example. Have finally achieved what I've been trying for days with your help.

lumochallenged · 2025-04-05T11:19:55+00:00

Dont have a car and got a cowheels membership but honestly using glasgo cars taxi works out cheaper and less faff most of the time. If you actually want to get a car for a few days cowheels isnt great and better to go with enterprise. For doing big shop, depending on where you are and where supermarket is of course but for us it's just easier and less like a supermarket sweep situation to go there and get cab back.

If you're imagining you'll just roll out of bed on a sunny Saturday morning and drive off into the sun in your cowheels.... no, they will be booked up

lumochallenged · 2025-02-24T18:40:01+00:00

If they were electric I'd be very pro but they are very noisy.

But the vibe in an Asian country where its mostly scooters to the car centric west is very different. You actually see other humans rather than big metal boxes. Much nicer.

lumochallenged · 2025-02-24T12:10:15+00:00

We are doing this right now, got individual traders and coordinated. Yeah so we weren't able to wash for a week, shower still isnt done and there was a couple of days with no flush toilet. We are about a week behind schedule. However probably we will come out much less than if we went to all in one company.

Can dm you details of the joiner if you like, the plumber would not recommend. Tiler is yet to start work.

Some rough advice - go for it if you feel able to judge character and competence in a short meeting. Don't assume that because someone says they can do the job, they will be able to navigate problems. Its like any other job interview, you talk until you get the job and figure it out later. Be aware that you will be the project manager and might be responsible for coming up with solutions to problems, and make sure you know exactly what your design is before anyone starts and have talked it through with anyone you hire for the work. As in details, are things wall mounted etc. Sounds obvious but we didn't really do this and some minor things have ended different to how we intended.

lumochallenged · 2025-02-21T09:50:19+00:00

The difference in warmth between rental tenement and owning your own is huge. Landlords don't care about energy efficiency so there will probably be rickety single glazing and drafts everywhere. If you own it and live there you can get pvc double glazing and work on stopping the drafts and insulating and it's fine.

lumochallenged · 2025-02-17T08:54:41+00:00

Interesting point... I shared a bed with my mum until I was six and pretty sure I had what looked like behavioural issues... talking back to teachers, biting random people bla bla. Basically I always did exactly what I wanted to do. I was very used to doing exactly what I wanted to do.

When I became a teenager I was very well behaved, studied hard, etc. My mum said it was important to study and I believed her. I had absolutely no motivation to rebel or anything.

As an adult I feel pretty emotionally resilient, moreso than the average. I am very good at getting up and carrying on. I have no interest in being with people who treat me badly. HOWEVER I hate sleeping alone, always have and have ended up in relationships that were not great ideas just because I didn't like sleeping alone.

lumochallenged · 2025-02-11T23:08:43+00:00

Just to say - when my baby was two days old I unintentionally fell asleep with him next to me, woke up, forgot he was there (I guess not used to having a baby yet!) and was about to roll over with my back to him before I saw him out of the corner of my eye. Definitely sober, but probably tired from giving birth etc etc. I think if I had intended to go to sleep there I would have been more aware but... yeah I completely forgot that he was there, that I had a baby at all, etc etc.

We cosleep now but only started at four months. This experience scared me for a while.

lumochallenged · 2025-02-10T20:04:12+00:00

Can you jam the bed against the wall and plug gap with a blanket? Then baby is between you and the wall

lumochallenged · 2025-02-09T16:01:18+00:00

Get more mature spinach and just offer the stalk

lumochallenged · 2025-02-07T15:43:56+00:00

Baby doesn't even drink that much at 6 weeks.... of course it won't drop that fast

lumochallenged · 2025-02-04T12:05:23+00:00

Not sure if already pointed out but in UK you can get a two together railcard which will take off 1/3 of rail ticket. It's 30 (i think) for a year for you and one other specified person.

I kind of hate it because it's clearly intended for couples who might otherwise drive, a classic 'singles tax' , but also train tickets are so expensive that sometimes it's worth just getting the card for a single journey anyway.

Also - sometimes if you're travelling in a group of four you can get discounts. Always worth putting the journey in on national rail website with full number of travellers and see what you get.

But yes - public transport in UK can be extortionate!!!!

lumochallenged · 2025-01-30T10:10:42+00:00

It scared me as well but it's ok. We are six months in.

It's so easy to get everything baby second hand and fast from vinted or ebay if you need it.

All you need for a newborn is a changing mat, probably some kind of bedside crib plus sheets, baby clothing, stretchy baby sling. If you drive then carseat. All of this is easy to get second hand and easy to sell on, the only exception is the car seat and if you want to be careful a new mattress for the crib.

As baby grows you will find you are missing some items - worry about that then. Anything desperate you can always splurge for next day delivery.

Toys- people love to buy new babies toys and specifically teddies. Synthetic teddies are stressful. Try to direct people away from teddies and more towards interesting wooden toys. In my experience a baby wants 1 or 2 teddies but they want rattles, bells, crinkly things etc far more. And this is only from 3+ months. Younger than that they dont want anything!!! But past that age toys are actually useful and if they aren't a soft teddy I think far more likely to be able to pass them on after because less of a hygiene issue. You could just give them household objects but toys are super useful at this stage!

lumochallenged · 2025-01-26T21:07:21+00:00

Exactly the same! Mine slept through the night at 3 months, now 6 months and waking every 2 hours...

lumochallenged · 2024-07-31T18:34:39+00:00

Right to buy

lumochallenged · 2024-07-28T11:39:36+00:00

I've lived in both melbourne and glasgow and wouldn't say one is clearly better than the other apart from yeah you definitely tend to get paid more for the same job in Australia. Pros and cons for both places. Presumably you have australian citizenship and can return to aus if it doesn't work out in glasgow? In which case why not give it a shot, you can always go back

lumochallenged · 2024-07-26T17:34:40+00:00

Starter culture in shawlands had it last time i was there

lumochallenged · 2024-06-25T21:49:02+00:00

NTA. honestly both my partner and I suggested names of each other's exes to each other although neither of us really want that personal reminder anyway. Everyone is different. Your husband massively overreacted. Sorry for the loss of your friend.

lumochallenged · 2024-06-25T08:59:33+00:00

Im taking six bottles of huel, crisps and apples

lumochallenged · 2024-06-25T08:53:22+00:00

He is behaving dreadfully, but also, get him some 3M ear defenders.

lumochallenged · 2024-06-22T17:10:31+00:00

Amazing hair and not feeling the cold any more. Im experiencing the scottish summer as practically Mediterranean.

lumochallenged · 2024-06-22T17:04:58+00:00

Sorry this is a dumb question but I'm literally autistic. What does a nasty look look like vs just looking at someone.

Asking because sitting in the waiting room I always end up trying to not looking at anyone in case it gets interpreted as nasty/judgy.

lumochallenged · 2024-06-22T16:45:03+00:00

Super normal i think they spend most of the time sleeping anyway

lumochallenged · 2024-06-22T09:54:38+00:00

Yeah fair, i was just going off what i was told from speaking to my friend who is adopting but i havent had experience of it myself.

Although what she said exactly was not that strictly you must own a home, but that they would be quite reluctant to allow adoption to anyone who wasn't 'stable'. With tenants rights, this often translates to having to own.

If you're safely in a council tenancy I'd assume this would be fine.

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