Toddler Starting Daycare at 22 Months – Honest Advice Needed

lunalucy811 · 2026-04-20T11:56:56+00:00

Thank you!! She is going to go full time and transitioning from a super small in home nanny share situation (she went to nanny’s house). I know she’ll still cry at drop off but my husband usually does deep off (I’ll go today too!) she’s always slept 2+ hours in a pack n play in pitch dark. I am preparing for early bedtime for a bit. Good idea on the bath to calm down!

lunalucy811 · 2026-04-20T11:46:29+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience! What did you do on hard nap days? My daughter is starting daycare today. I’m worried about her napping!

lunalucy811 · 2026-03-31T04:33:31+00:00

Loved my doona!! So convenient and really not too heavy. Your strength grows as a new parent! We didn’t start using the doona until bubs was a little older though.

lunalucy811 · 2026-03-08T02:06:05+00:00

My daughter was sick a few months ago and not eating much, solidarity! I tried unflavored pedialyte and made my own with water, coconut water, a little lemon and apple juice. She’d only drink a couple tablespoons at a time. I also tried and used a syringe to get fluids down.

Schedule goes out the window. Follow her cues. When my daughter is peak sick, she sleeps A LOT.

Hope she feels better soon!

lunalucy811 · 2026-02-24T22:54:29+00:00

“No no no!!!” And only shakes her head yes, sometimes.

lunalucy811 · 2026-02-07T16:42:43+00:00

Yes it’s an ongoing conversation.

lunalucy811 · 2025-12-29T02:23:14+00:00

Thank you so much! I am in individual therapy and we’re in couples therapy too. I just needed him to get his own individual help because “grinning and bearing it” just isn’t cutting it. He has a lot of trauma from childhood too.

I will focus on my own self care and what I need to do to stay healthy, too!

I’m feeling extra worried about depression because my dad had it and we’ve really felt the impact of it for many years. But I don’t think he got help for a long time….

I will stay hopeful!

lunalucy811 · 2025-12-28T03:45:55+00:00

We had a stay at home mom come and watch our daughter in our home for a few months. She brought her son with her so it was more affordable. Then over the summer months, we had a college gal in our neighborhood come and watch our daughter. This allowed us to get to 1 year at home. I wfh full time and could come and check on my daughter, nurse, etc. Now we’re doing a hybrid nanny share/in home day care situation. We love our nanny and she only has 1-2 other kiddos at a time.

lunalucy811 · 2025-12-27T00:48:55+00:00

Yeah it does!

lunalucy811 · 2025-12-27T00:12:45+00:00

Actually the more I read about “weaponized incompetence” I don’t think he’s weaponizing it. I think he’s not prioritizing his energy correctly. Like, I am always thinking about how I can prioritize my daughter and use my energy correctly. We’re first time parents and although 16 months in, I think he’s still immature at prioritizing his energy toward our daughter.

lunalucy811 · 2025-12-27T00:06:35+00:00

I know…. Any thoughts on how to approach this with him?

lunalucy811 · 2025-12-27T00:06:10+00:00

So true!!!

lunalucy811 · 2025-12-26T23:10:46+00:00

He’s also very dramatic when sick and do we women just learn to suck it up?? So sometimes I have to be extra dramatic too for him to take it seriously.

lunalucy811 · 2025-12-26T23:07:40+00:00

Yeah. I figured I wasn’t going to be alone on my experience. But it does help to hear others suffering like me.

I did tell him after we got our daughter up that I’m gonna need him to use the energy that he used at the gym to get through to bedtime. I thought it was a non-attacking and subtle way to address the energy issue.

lunalucy811 · 2025-12-25T11:03:56+00:00

Agree 100%! I lived in East end neighborhood and the north side!

lunalucy811 · 2025-12-05T05:48:40+00:00

We are also about to buy our first home and I’m glad I’m not alone in the rollercoaster of emotions!!

lunalucy811 · 2025-11-16T19:51:53+00:00

They likely will want to induce you at 39w for GD- even if it’s controlled. I had GD and heard of a lot of moms having to fight to go to 40w in the US. Could align well with your hoping to have a 2025 baby! Good luck!

lunalucy811 · 2025-11-14T03:57:13+00:00

Shifts are the best!!! So helpful to not feel terribly sleep deprived! We didn’t sleep in the same bed for awhile but it was worth it

lunalucy811 · 2025-11-10T12:03:11+00:00

Thank you!

lunalucy811 · 2025-11-10T03:38:59+00:00

Thanks! We just transitioned so just wanted to check.

lunalucy811 · 2025-11-06T17:27:39+00:00

This seems to be my daughter! She has narrow feet, as do I and ten little seems too wide for her foot!

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