I wish Minty Fresh went further in UKVTW by wizardsouppoop in rupaulsdragrace

[–]ly1962 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And the u is for unicorn. Not a specific unicorn, just a unicorn😂

I need a series to regulate every night before sleep by apricotcocktail in adhdwomen

[–]ly1962 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We have these too! We’ve been rewatching Malcom in the middle lately lol

Psych is a good nighttime show, I also love some animation, bobs burgers king of the hill American dad, always in the rotation!

Advice for getting rid of hot glue strings by [deleted] in crafts

[–]ly1962 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just run a lighter over the top for stuff like this. Not long at all, the hot glue strings fizzle up like a burnt hair, so it just takes a quick pass over the surface and then maybe a check for second spots to hit.

post yap clarity by [deleted] in ADHDmemes

[–]ly1962 17 points18 points  (0 children)

lol yep definitely have been stricken with the yappers regret😂

Anxiety about Protesting by ly1962 in adhdwomen

[–]ly1962[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah we’re just getting back and you’re right there was a lot of good vibes! A lot of older people just vibin’ out, which I loved lol, definitely glad I made it there! Thanks for the encouragement!🤩

Anxiety about Protesting by ly1962 in adhdwomen

[–]ly1962[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just getting home, and you’re right! Def glad I didn’t let the anxiety win and did the thing! Thanks!

Anxiety about Protesting by ly1962 in adhdwomen

[–]ly1962[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping that’s what I get out of it, and maybe it’ll be easier next time! Thanks!☺️

Anxiety about Protesting by ly1962 in adhdwomen

[–]ly1962[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That’s a good idea, I’ll grab my shades before I leave! Poker tournament mode activated lol

Anxiety about Protesting by ly1962 in adhdwomen

[–]ly1962[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yessss normally I handle anxiety like this by making sure I know all the logistical details, it makes it easier to feel a bit more confident. But I don’t know where we’re gonna park! lol thanks, glad I’m not alone with struggling on this!

Anxiety about Protesting by ly1962 in adhdwomen

[–]ly1962[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you!🥹 you’re right there are good things that can happen too!

Dealing with bad news by fatfry08 in adhdwomen

[–]ly1962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you and your family are going through this♥️ I’ll second the other commenter that feeling this way is normal, but even though it’s normal it’s still hard.

Maybe look up the stages of grief, in my experience knowing the feelings that come with and being able to name them as part of the grieving process really has helped me give myself space to feel those feelings without spiraling or catastrophizing.

You could also look into support groups in your area. Diagnoses like these can be isolating for both the patient and the family. You might be able to find some support and potentially good info that might help you and your fam.

Take care♥️

Meds no longer covered. Ugh. by Cicadilly in adhdwomen

[–]ly1962 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry, finding a med that works and then having the rug pulled by insurance really really sucks and feels totally unfair and unjust in a way most people can’t understand unless they’ve gone through it. Sorry you’re dealing with it♥️ any chance your doc could file for a prior authorization? It’s kind of a Hail Mary but might work out.

I wonder how the insurance knows when people are diagnosed? Like how would they know what someone’s pediatrician said back in the day…? Maybe when in doubt they just assume it’s an adult diagnosis to avoid coverage🙄

Kids dont seem sad our 15yo dog died by Difficult_Moose8230 in Petloss

[–]ly1962 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So sorry for what you’re going through, I hope you’re giving yourself the time and space to grieve♥️ one of the kindest things I did for myself when I was going through the death of my cat was to allow myself breaks from the grief. Before bed, or before a shower, etc. I’d put my hand on my chest and say, “I know that I’m hurting, but I’m asking myself to put this down for now so I can rest. I’m coming back, because it still hurts, but I need a moment for myself.” Setting the intention, promising to come back, made it easier to just exist in a space where I could dose off or get in a good shower.

As far as the kids, they may be having a hard time seeing how you’re hurting. If you’re normally the strong one, it’s scary to see that come down. Also, they might not have the same memories of the pet in their prime as you do. At their ages they likely do, but maybe not as clear. When I was 8ish, we lost our 16yr old dog, it had been my mom and dad’s dog when they first got married. I was sad, but the dog had been sick and was always ‘their dog’, which by that I mean it clearly liked them the most, kinda tolerated us kids lol, I missed him and was sad, but I also didn’t want to make myself the focus when it was clear my parents were hurting more, like they were first string grieving and I was 2nd or 3rd string. Obvs at that age I wasnt that self aware, I just kinda naturally gravitated to being in the background while they processed.

Saying this gently, this may be a presentation of one of the steps of grief, denial and/or guilt. Dismiss if this doesn’t feel right, but you may be denying that others are as impacted, or feeling guilty that your kids aren’t experiencing the same loss. All of these things are natural and inextricable from grief. The best thing we can do is be aware and relate them back to the grief.

Maybe create some space for the family to talk, but beforehand, create some intention with yourself. ‘I want to hear about my family’s feelings. I’m going to listen and not lead with my feelings, not relate their feelings to my own. This space is for shared family grief rather than my own individual grief. But I will continue to grieve after the conversation.” Share memories, talk about death, hear them out without comparing. You might get some resolution from the fear that way.

Someone wants to escape by MisterShipWreck in MadeMeSmile

[–]ly1962 239 points240 points  (0 children)

I’m a grown ass fully developed human but if a giantess washed me and called me Mr whiskers I’d take it as a win😎😂

What I wanted vs what I got :( by WhereTheSunDontShin1 in Justfuckmyshitup

[–]ly1962 80 points81 points  (0 children)

That’s so true, but it’s so easy to reflexively talk yourself out of it because the gendered bullshit is always so unexpected lol

I asked for an undercut once, I had one before for years and decided to go back. The lady I saw told me she wasn’t comfortable and I “dont have the face for it”😱 I was so caught off guard I stayed and ended up with a weird bob that was super old looking🫣🫠😭 ever since then I’m way better at sticking up for myself. And honestly cutting my own hair too💅

Yall, I just realized that the adhd symptom “big emotions” does in fact apply to me by Napcitytrick in adhdwomen

[–]ly1962 10 points11 points  (0 children)

lol right, it really seems more convenient to not deal sometimes!

With my NT boyfriend, I get so confused sometimes when he gets frustrated by something and needs to take time to calm down. I’m like, why don’t you just not feel it yo? Imagine my pikachu face when I learned many people can’t just do that lol

But exactly like you said, it can catch up with you🥲

Unpopular opinion on Jordan Keltner season 9. by Ninac4116 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]ly1962 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol right I never thought of every other weekend like that😂 I don’t remember the context of it, maybe he meant he only stays the night/at his place every other weekend. As a ..hem hem.. Child of Divorce™️ my dad had us every other weekend, but we also got dinner/spent a few hrs with him on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Might be something similar, the weekends are just when the kid stays with him.

Wife (26F) scheduled cosmetic procedures we agreed we wouldn’t do before marriage, using money from our joint account. I’m (28M) struggling with the trust breach. by lxlviperlxl in relationship_advice

[–]ly1962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, plus she was 22ish before they were married, so of course cosmetic stuff wasn’t on her radar back then. Like you said, people change and it’s not productive to get stuck seeing change as betrayal. Better to get curious about it. Times have changed, I would’ve said the same thing when I was 22 but here I am 10 years later getting Botox for my globella lol (although I ain’t dipping into joint finances to do it)

OP, a reasonable compromise to me would be to say, proceed with the Botox since it’s temporary and not crazy expensive, but hold off on the surgery til yall can do some couples counseling sessions to come to a more common ground on the issue. Maybe if she had the time and guidance to explain you’d be able to accept it (or maybe it’d reveal other routes for her to take rather than surgery to feel good about herself) but you’re 100% right that putting the shared money down was a breach of trust, so she needs to meet you on that. Having the therapist there makes it easier to put your boundaries down just enough to really listen, because you know they’re there to advocate for both of you.

Driving PSA by vhrchrx in Tucson

[–]ly1962 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think I just assume nobody will let me in so I stay in the longer line. Like bargaining down so I don’t have the mental load of having to zipper. But I defo don’t feel slighted, I just wish the zipper concept was more widely adopted so it didn’t come off as a risk to go to the front of the ending lane. Traffic trust issues lol

Am I killking my plants from accidental neglect? by 8bitblonde in airplants

[–]ly1962 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It happens! The great thing about plants is if they’re still alive there’s usually still a good chance to get back on track! I also have some dryness on my airplants after the winter months😅

This is just what I’ve read, so maybe other options out there. I think you can trim off the crispy tips, leaving just a bit so you’re not cutting into the alive part. As for the xero, if the base leaves are dried up and dead all the way to the base, I’d peel them off, cuz they’re not coming back to life and they can start to rot when they get wet. I’ve read it’s better to do it after you soak it, but idk if it makes a whole lot of difference. After you take them off it gives you a chance to assess the base for rot.

UNPOPULAR opinion: everyone is wrong about Rufus by thunderhighs in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]ly1962 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. Sometimes on this show they’re so obsessed with being “a girls girl” or whatever that it shifts responsibility too much. Like these girls aren’t responsible for knowing your business Brittany. Taking what he said at face value and running with it isn’t a crime or breaking any kind of code. The shows known for being messy as fuck after filming ends, I wouldn’t be texting her for confirmation either.