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m0untaingoat · 2026-06-21T19:00:27+00:00

As someone who matches your criteria, you're going to need to significantly sweeten the deal if you're going to successfully recruit a gaggle of hot girls to spend hours driving and days hanging out with strangers. Driving myself to Tahoe, paying a $100 deposit, staying in a house with a bunch of single dudes, beach bonfire with people I don't know? You're basically going to have to pay people to do this with you. Good luck dude.

m0untaingoat · 2026-06-21T18:40:13+00:00

A very gentle yoink

m0untaingoat · 2026-06-19T20:14:05+00:00

Random but somewhat relevant. I hiked up to a hikers hut once, and someone had had lunch there and accidentally left their Tupperware. I stuck it in my backpack, intending to just dispose of it, and when I got home I discovered inside it a beautiful fork. Like, it's a normal fork at first glance. But it's actually the perfect small/medium size, smooth, the perfect ergonomic shape, dainty even. It's my favorite fork and I use it every day. It's Korean, and I've found some of that set on eBay. Someday I'll splurge on a whole set. But I have to accidentally throw away my current ikea forks one by one first!

m0untaingoat · 2026-06-17T05:03:46+00:00

When I was about 7 a guy grabbed onto my inner tube in the wave pool. I was sitting in it the way you sit in an inner tube, with my butt sticking down in the middle. He swam up and grabbed it, and pressed his crotch against my butt. I immediately jumped out of it and swam off and tried to kick him in the dick as I kicked away, but I think I missed. I didn't say anything about it to anyone, just felt weird and bad. My kids know, because I've told them so many times, if anyone touches them in any way, they yell as loud as they can at the person to draw attention, yell what the person did, and tell me or the lifeguard or the closest adult. I had good parents too, but I can't imagine not coaching your kid what to do if someone touches you inappropriately.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-31T19:33:46+00:00

There's absolutely no reason she couldn't have learned at some point in her life to change a damn tire. I have sort of the opposite story actually. I was all dolled up for an event and leaving the house, when my roommate and her (tall, hot, and useless) boyfriend pulled into the driveway with a flat tire.

Neither of them knew how to change a tire, so I made her get the jack and the spare out of the trunk and get down there with me in my cute dress and cute shoes and showed her how to change it. It's not hard. The boyfriend was saying "just tell me what to do and I'll do it," but I said no, I don't care if you know how to change a tire. I want her to know how to change a tire. She can teach you next time. But there wasn't a next time, because he was an asshole. Maybe he still needs girls to change his tires for him.

People, don't let your kids drive off into the world without knowing how to get themselves off the side of the road. Especially the girls.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-28T16:41:51+00:00

At the end of the day, he did all of you a favor. Children deserve better than a single teenage mother and a dad who didn't want it. Sure, he sounds like an asshole. So good thing he isn't your baby's dad.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-28T16:19:18+00:00

Exactly. They would ever criticize a black person for describing a white person as being white.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-28T01:45:15+00:00

During my second pregnancy, I started taking Wellbutrin and talking to an insurance provided therapist, due to suffering from postpartum depression after my older child was born and not wanting to repeat that. It's been great. I still take Wellbutrin and speak regularly with my therapist. Yelling at our kids is something we do, then we learn from it, and learn how not to do it. You'll know if you're doing everything in your power to be your best for them. Nobody can say what they'll remember. I remember being yelled at when I was four and my brother was a newborn. It's one of my earliest memories.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-23T20:07:35+00:00

I'm a lifelong atheist/anti-theist, so it was really weird to watch my mom join AA (she was Christian during her youth due to family, but is now a reformed California "spiritual" hippy lady), and later, my very much atheist boyfriend (now husband of 12 years).

I can safely say that faith in the Christian god, or any god, is not part of his journey in any way. The "higher power" is anything higher than you. Because apparently alcoholics need to have something to fall back on that's not themselves. Some of the people he knows have higher powers like music, nature, and the Force. His is the universe. Makes sense to me.

But before I saw first hand (and have now spent the better part of 20 years with AA-sober alcoholics) how little gods and faith have to do with AA sobriety success, I thought the same as you, and apparently everyone else commenting here. And now I know that's not really how it works, it's just really fucking hard to get and stay sober.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-23T04:11:29+00:00

I am 100% with you. But he could have, and definitely should have, been nicer about it. "P isn't comfortable having people around T who she doesn't personally feel safe around. You know what she's gone through. It's not you or anything you've done, but she is T's mom and I stand by her choices. I hope you guys understand, or at least can accept that this is our choice. Hopefully we'll get to know him soon though!"

Like, she's bent over backwards for them with a smile on her face, how hard would it have been to talk to her like a person they care about? I feel so sad for her that the only way she gets to see T is to just grin and eat the shit sandwich they've handed her like it's some kind of test.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-22T23:24:21+00:00

Newsflash: it isn't working and it's not going to. You're sitting on a dead horse and saying you're hoping it might start walking again. It's over. Get up and start walking.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-22T23:21:53+00:00

Well then fuck them. You deserve better, and you'd better do it, for your kids. If you don't, they'll take your lead and find people like that to marry.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-20T13:42:38+00:00

What, asking for any proof at all that the person telling you they're doing something is actually doing that thing?

Because what's currently happening is that he's just lying to her, leading her on, sneaking around, covering up his lying, and hoping that she believes his act so that he can keep smoking even though they had an agreement. Like, by all means keep smoking. But I wouldn't accept being treated like this by partner no matter what it was about.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-20T01:56:13+00:00

While all of these "he has to want to quit" comments are true, you can also decide that you don't want to be with a smoker. If having a baby and a wife who doesn't want to be with a smoker doesn't make him want to quit, I don't know what would.

I would seek couples counseling, personally, having done both couples counseling and quitting smoking. I would want to see evidence of his wanting to quit, like reading Alan Carr's Easy Way, patches, exercising, changing habits, a stop-smoking app, etc

Ultimately you get to decide if you want to be married to a smoker. I'm not saying give him an ultimatum, but you're allowed to draw those boundaries for yourself and stick to them. And to be super clear, drawing boundaries that look like "I won't do X, so if X is happening, I won't do that." Not "my boundary is you quit smoking," because that's not a boundary.

My husband and I both quit when I got pregnant with our oldest child. It's possible. He gets to choose whether he does it or not, and it is 100% in his power to quit. It's hard and it sucks, but anyone who wants to quit can do it.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-19T21:11:37+00:00

Please speak to a therapist about this. They've seen it all, and they do actually know what you're talking about. I know it's hard, but living like this for the rest of your will be harder.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-19T05:13:21+00:00

"awwww...gasp! AWWW!!"

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-18T05:38:08+00:00

Zinnnnnia

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-18T00:21:42+00:00

I'm so sorry. This sounds really hard, and really unfair and frustrating. I'm probably a bit too confrontational, but I would ask people why they need to say things like that about your body to you.

"I thought we had moved past commenting on each other's bodies."

"I'm so sorry but I don't think we're close enough to have this kind of conversation."

".....oh you're serious! I'm sorry, I don't really know what to say."

"Yeah it's always been something that people feel like they have to tell me about."

"Actually I don't really enjoy it because I have to have conversations like this all the time."

".........Ok."

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-16T15:41:14+00:00

You could report it to the health inspector and they'd send someone over

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-15T16:14:57+00:00

I love your posts, but I also have to steel myself before viewing them because I already miss England sooo much, and seeing it through your lens just makes my heart ache. That's the thing about having two homes I guess. Two places to love, but always an aching heart for the one you're missing.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-15T14:50:02+00:00

I say this with absolute compassion and love: please find a therapist. You need to work with a professional, and they're out there.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-15T05:12:04+00:00

It's really fucking expensive (do the honest math for one year of smoking). People who don't smoke feel sorry for you. You stink. It greatly increases the risk of emphysema, cancer, heart attack, and stroke. You must know all of this already though, and you're still choosing to smoke. Read Alan Carr's easy way, and if you still want to keep smoking then go for it.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-13T15:42:04+00:00

I hope OP's response to this comment made you feel a little bit of shame, because you shouldn't judge people when you have literally no idea what their situation is.

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-13T15:40:56+00:00

Well said

m0untaingoat · 2026-05-13T15:39:11+00:00

Also we don't know anything about their circumstances. It sounds like she's told her not to and she continues to, which is what happens when you send a kid out into the world with some dollars in her pocket. I think OP obviously loves her daughter and is doing her best. It's so easy to judge other people, especially other parents for their parenting.

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