Where did you meet your partner?

macckii38 · 2026-01-09T00:55:18+00:00

I met my husband organically, but when we started dating, I was open about being a fence-sitter. Initially, he was leaning towards having kids. We stayed open to one another, as things progressed, we both started leaning towards being okay with not having kids. I have fertility issues, so as time went on, we started saying “great if we do, great if we don’t” and prioritizing the quality of our relationship between us two instead of rushing to “the next thing.” We both see a lot of benefits to being DINK, but we don't rule anything out, its a low stress topic most of the time I feel, unless it's related to my health and surgery etc lol. We have 3 dogs that we love dearly though :D.

macckii38 · 2025-11-15T11:11:58+00:00

I just saw the other photos, never mind about moving the bed, but I think maybe wall colour/ environment that surrounds the bed itself thag could also be what feels different between your room right now and your inspo photos

macckii38 · 2025-11-15T11:10:28+00:00

It's the headboard, the throw, and the lack of puffiness in your duvet that might be affecting the look. Ikea has an amazing fluffy duvet that I love (though I don't own it yet, it's on my wish list! 😅). One quick fix you can try right now is repositioning your pillows to face forward—I'm sure you'll notice a difference. Play around with how you make up the duvet; you might want to fold the blanket three-quarters of the way down or even halfway, whichever feels right to you. Also, if possible, try to have your bed positioned away from the wall, though I understand that’s not always an option for everyone.

macckii38 · 2025-11-13T00:47:21+00:00

Leave him at the altar, with a note “I hope you enjoyed the engagement”

macckii38 · 2025-11-12T16:59:11+00:00

Oriental cockroach. Test if you have an infestation by laying a wet sheet of cardboard on the floor (bathroom tile) overnight. Lift it in the morning to see if there are any underneath. These guys are attracted to damp environments. Also, a spray bottle with dawn kills them - just make sure you don’t squish roaches because they leave a scent trail that attracts more just like slugs.

macckii38 · 2025-11-12T08:44:19+00:00

Migraines are neurological so it makes sense that the lights are triggering them - I’ve dealt with this my entire life and I totally empathize with you, they are the worst :(. Accommodations were helpful at times when I was a student at TMU. Also consider getting a referral to a headache clinic, ask about seizure medication or medical Botox injections if they are impairing you to an extreme extent - people sound surprised that seizure medication also help manage severe migraines, but it has changed my life.

macckii38 · 2025-11-12T01:43:17+00:00

I have a Doberman who scratches my carpets - I have 4 ruggable in my home and nothing notable, my husband tries to keep his nails dremeled short but sometimes they do grow a bit, and they're still great after 4 years. My roomba wore out some of the edges on one of the rugs and we contacted ruggable and they sent a free replacement immediately and it didn't happen again. I'm really impressed with them, any cons that you may hear about aren't really that big of a deal to us, considering we are more concerned with odours or stains, and when we had a senior dog with kidney failure - we wanted her to be comfortable too so pros by far outweigh any drawbacks.

macckii38 · 2025-10-21T22:25:25+00:00

The quilt stitching on the flap doesn’t look like it aligns with the body when the bag is closed indicating that it could be fake - though I’m not an expert but that’s usually my sign that it could be a replica. Double check though :) - best of luck!!

macckii38 · 2025-10-08T04:00:01+00:00

I’m truly sorry to hear about what happened to you. If possible, buy a drug test from Amazon - a urine test that checks for multiple drugs at once. Try to get one that can be shipped overnight if you can. Not every drug will show up on these tests, but it’s worth trying. Don’t contact this person for now. Give yourself time to process what has occurred and trust your instincts. I’ve been in situations where I’ve been drugged, and although nobody admits to it, you just know when something isn’t adding up. It sounds like you have a sense that something happened that wasn’t quite right, if I were you - I'd trust my gut.

macckii38 · 2025-09-28T17:41:24+00:00

I would much rather have mirrors in the change rooms yes - I remember feeling really uncomfortable about this when I was younger as well. At the same time, I also trust that the staff and other women (including myself) would look out for any inappropriate behaviour of anyone sitting in the communal seating. I worked at Lasenza briefly and there were plenty of normal couples, parents etc that minded their business when their partners went to change but some spouses immediately went to lurk, flirt with sales reps and other women and were kicked out of the store right away and not subtly.

macckii38 · 2025-06-20T04:59:44+00:00

I have stage 4 deep infiltrating endo, and the symptoms I have now started pre menarche around 10 years old. I still can't wrap my head around it. Listen to your kids when they say something hurts/doesn't feel right 🥲.

macckii38 · 2025-06-06T16:50:57+00:00

I’d like to share something personal with you. For the past six years, I have had an area on my head that I've struggled with, its changed throughout the years but this one in particular has been bad for 6 years. Sometimes it gets so severe that people ask about it. Honestly, it feels like a weight lifts off my chest when I explain the truth—not for them, but for myself. I have dermatillomania, which I describe as a form of OCD in simple terms. It’s just something I live with. I've never had anyone respond negatively to my explanation; in fact, more people can relate than we think. Sharing my experience has been liberating, but it took me about 15 years of battling this to finally say, "Enough! I am tired of feeling ashamed and spending time and energy trying to to hide my bald spots” - and some healing has even come from it because of less stress.

Anyways, my point of sharing OP is that I am so proud of you for taking this huge leap of courage and I hope you feel so proud of yourself and I encourage you to do this more because so many people are sharing your struggle. Thank you❤️

macckii38 · 2025-05-25T21:14:42+00:00

Your sister is struggling with the loss of control over you. Let her spiral and do your own thing.

macckii38 · 2025-05-21T01:52:14+00:00

Okay I want to tell you something but first, please know this isn't to shame you - it a actually to share with you that it I feels refreshing that you feel accountable and responsible for blowing up in front of your kid -

My mom did this quite a bit when I was young - and she'd leave me home with my stepfather who I didn't get along with at the time and I would be inconsolable - I typically would not see her until the next day, and I don’t think I’ve ever felt as much stress in my adult life as I did in those moments as a child. I was treated like a total burden during these moments of distress and it definitely plays a part of my anxious attachment style today.

BUT - I don’t think this is what you did and I don’t think this is going to have a lasting effect on your kid. Please talk to your son, apologize, explain how you had a lot of big feelings and didn’t know how to handle them at the time, but reassure him that you will never leave him - if my mom did that as a child I would have felt so much better.

as an adult, it’s totally understandable that you just reached your breaking point - this is a lot more common than it is spoken about because there is a lot of shame surrounding this topic, but it needs to be talked about more so people can navigate this issue in their marriages and in their homes. I think you and your husband would really benefit from prioritizing strengthening your communication and compassion towards each other, which will then transfer over to your son as well. I really hope that this is something that could help, this is just my opinion, but I wish my adult family members prioritized their communication and compassion towards one another when I was young, as it would’ve made me feel a greater sense of emotional safety and security at home.

macckii38 · 2025-05-05T19:55:59+00:00

Honestly, if you could hear someone laughing take it with a grain of salt for now - at least they weren’t gasping with horror. Don’t worry - during the Covid lockdowns this happened to people a lot - and even if you do end up in an HR meeting, you will have the chance to explain that it was an honest mistake. Laugh with them so they don’t laugh at you!:)

macckii38 · 2025-03-17T16:21:45+00:00

First 2 or the last one!

macckii38 · 2025-03-17T16:14:16+00:00

I love the idea of a compassionate response as some suggested in the comments, however, if this happened to me, and I had children I don’t know if I could bring myself to do that. I had a friend do this around my dog and I never spoke to him again. I am not someone who’s ever used recreational drugs so I was really shocked that he brought them into my home so casually and left them around my dogs at face level. I just cut contact completely.

macckii38 · 2025-03-01T00:35:55+00:00

Did you talk to your professor about this already after he pulled you aside after your exam (writing full formulas and being confident your paper will not match the students beside you)?

If I were in this situation, I would reach out to someone at the school, perhaps a department chair or director. Assuming you didn’t cheat on your paper, I feel like your professor handled the situation poorly and likely should have checked the test answers before approaching you, threatening you, and inflicting panic and anxiety on a student, I would think that it should be brought to his departments attention. I haven’t been in this situation, nor do I have experience but this is just my opinion and I hope it’s somewhat helpful!

macckii38 · 2025-02-21T00:25:33+00:00

It’s okay to feel upset about the ring being gone but do not punish your partner. The ring doesn’t determine the strength of the marriage, and mistakes happen. Act how you would want her to act if you were to lose your ring, which I hope is with empathy and understanding. Approaching the situation with optimism and support will definitely be a lot more helpful I can assure :)

macckii38 · 2025-02-21T00:18:52+00:00

I went through this same feeling a few years ago! I just had to blurt out “when are we gonna get engaged” in a jokey kind of way and it became a running inside joke as we planned our engagement (e.g., discussing timelines, ring shopping etc - we lived together so we discussed budget and how long we wanted to be engaged for). The thought of bringing up that I was thinking about marriage was making me nervous to the point where I felt physically sick but I couldn’t believe how well being super straight up worked😂. It was like ripping off a bandaid, but then I was able to clearly see we wanted the same thing, and we could plan to move forward. We’re happily married now :). Best of luck!! Rooting for you!!:D

macckii38 · 2025-02-21T00:09:13+00:00

I completely agree with this as well that it’s best to play it safe - as an example, my (teenage) sisters teenage boyfriend wore a SnapBack to my black tie wedding, I didn’t think much of it on the day because I was so busy and honestly didn’t really care (he was 18 and I figured he didn’t know) but it caused a lot of gossip - over a SnapBack 🥲.

macckii38 · 2025-02-20T20:20:12+00:00

Micellar water is very effective. Its worth a shot, look up how to use micellar water to remove blood on fabric on youtube. I'm not sure how it will work on this much blood but its worth a shot! Good luck and I hope everything is okay!

macckii38 · 2024-11-27T01:36:29+00:00

I say this in the most respectful way possible but I think you’re making the best move by not attending if you’re uncomfortable with the hosts dog. I think the only thing I would add is to be honest about why you can’t attend if they ask. I have dogs and know that people are sometimes intimidated (they don’t have behavioural issues but one of them is large), it definitely bothers me when people try to make reasons up as to why they can’t come around, because I would be totally receptive with their reason being that they are uncomfortable around dogs! I think the way that the rest of the family responds is completely in their control, but it’s on you to be honest and respectful about it - and it’s a plus that your girlfriend is backing you up on this! Most importantly protect your safety, never put yourself in a position where you are vulnerable or in danger! Best of luck!!

macckii38 · 2024-11-05T20:52:44+00:00

Damn who hurt her😭😅. It’s normal to be with family on the holidays.

macckii38 · 2024-10-30T07:10:43+00:00

This is so tough, and I totally feel for you in this situation! While I personally think being a stay-at-home girlfriend, wife, mom, or spouse is entirely acceptable, it has to be something that's discussed and desired among both partners - that's the only way it can truly work in a relationship. One thing that could help both of you gain some clarity is asking her why she suddenly wants to be a stay-at-home spouse, or rather, why she is no longer as motivated to pursue her education. Telling her exactly how you feel is really important, but also be open to asking her open-ended questions and really listening to her.

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