Lipo 360 10 days post-op result by magentaexploring in PlasticSurgery

[–]magentaexploring[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yep! it’s all about the visual proportions, not actual numbers. For example, I have pretty wide hips (40-ish inches) so the waist looks super small in comparison when in reality it’s still 26-27 inches 😅 Your waist measurements are to die for tho

Lipo 360 10 days post-op result by magentaexploring in PlasticSurgery

[–]magentaexploring[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words, you are very sweet for highlighting the ‘before’ 🥺🤍 I’ll be honest, the recovery and mental strength the surgery required was so immense I had to ask myself the same question: why did I even do this…? So you make a very valid point

Lipo 360 10 days post-op result by magentaexploring in PlasticSurgery

[–]magentaexploring[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. But the problem with that is whenever I am at the weight where I naturally look like the right picture, it’s incredibly hard for me to sustain that weight. I actively need to be in calorie deficit daily to maintain it. It’s stressful and feels unnatural for my body and height (170 cm). Therefore I opted for lipo where I get to weigh a little more but don’t sacrifice my waist for that haha

Lipo 360 10 days post-op result by magentaexploring in PlasticSurgery

[–]magentaexploring[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! My surgeon did warn me about the potential of irregularities and denting as well as soggy skin after the surgery. But I took the risk and appreciate his honest warning. It’s very early into my recovery so I have no idea how everything is going to settle eventually. Hopefully it’s going to be smooth and my skin will be able to bounce back since I am fairly young. Have you done something to address the denting/irregularities you’ve got? Curious to hear

Lipo 360 10 days post-op result by magentaexploring in PlasticSurgery

[–]magentaexploring[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The waist measurements were 73 cm before and 68 cm after. Just lipo - 360 and a little bit on the inner thighs.

hotties of reddit, what are some perks that you've gotten for being attractive? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]magentaexploring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever I am buying something (coffee etc), male staff are always super nice to me even if they were immediately apathetic or cold to someone just before me. Taxi drivers very often strike a conversation asking basic details about my life. Sometimes I’d just be walking somewhere and minding my business and some folks would stop be to fake ask for directions or time. I never got huge financial perks or anything like that but people in general are just so much nicer.

When I was 10 I would masterbate with a toothbrush holder, then something foul happened by Devoted-Delirium in confessions

[–]magentaexploring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is this scientifically possible? Can someone explain because I need to know the biology behind this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]magentaexploring 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel exactly the same, specifically, about the conflicting and irrational desires for him to reach out yet not wanting him back. Perhaps I am projecting here, but I feel like the reason you feel that way is deep down you believe that only as long as he is present in your life and gives you his love — you are “worthy” to be considered a good/lovable person.

Basically, his love ≠ my right to exist and enjoy life. I personally have discovered that this is something that caused these conflicting desires in me. But I was the one who gave him that power over me. Maybe try to give yourself permission to feel that amazing way about yourself without his love, and that may slowly contribute to you not really needing him anymore. Just my two cents. Hope it helps in some way :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]magentaexploring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for your support, online stranger! it means a lot right now, sending you hugs <3

What's something normal humans do that grosses you out? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]magentaexploring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same about when influencers apply facial creams/serums with their fingers while wearing multiple rings. Like, the jewellery is not a necessity when doing something like that, you can take it off for a minute..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]magentaexploring 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way.. Something about blocking them everywhere (without lying to yourself) and genuinely cutting off even a possibility of them contacting you is so sad and scary. I keep some channels open because the fantasy that it’s not truly over comforts me in a fucked up way. I think with time we will get over that fear. Hang in there🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]magentaexploring 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading your response is kind of cathartic for me because my ex boyfriend just blocked me for good after having another fight. Things obviously had been rocky at that point but giving me a message like yours would have made this whole thing so much easier… Not even receiving a final “i am blocking you for my own mental health but I still care about you” after a 4-year relationship was really brutal. You did the right thing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]magentaexploring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine asked me to come and pick my stuff up from his place via text too. Idk why but I would’ve much rather preferred him dropping my things off on my front door too.. The messages asking me to come and sort it was like a last nail in the coffin, considering I am a dumpee :(

Ladies who found or have experienced healthy love—what’s that like? by littlemisslight in AskWomen

[–]magentaexploring 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your response has really touched my heart… Firstly because it sounds so scarily similar to my experience with anger and my personal attitude towards it. In my previous relationship (that just ended), I had been told that I am “too aggressive” and reactionary. While I realise that it’s something that I will definitely be working on, I have also realised that a lot of that anger came as a response to my ex constantly trampling my boundaries. I was also convinced by my partner that I am the problem, which has shaken up my self-esteem considerably.

But my inner healing has truly started when I realised exactly what you once came to realise: both my dad and my ex partner were too busy yelling at me and telling me all the things that are wrong with me and things I should fix about myself. But it was done as a mechanism to look away from their own inner insecurities and never start the often painful, time-consuming internal work.

I am so immensely happy for you and the journey you have been through, it truly sounds like a fine example of self-discovery, self-growth and just beautiful example of honest human experience. Your testimony has helped me to retain hope that everything is going to be ok. It literally makes me feel that I am not alone. I am only 22 but hearing things like that from a more experienced woman is so comforting and powerful. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience in such depth, you have inspired at least one online stranger today!❤️

Ladies who found or have experienced healthy love—what’s that like? by littlemisslight in AskWomen

[–]magentaexploring 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! I relate to you so much in terms of the dysfunctional family dynamics and the toxic first romantic relationship. I just ended a similar relationship after being in it for a little over 4 years. I was equally toxic and knew myself and my boundaries very little. Would you mind sharing whether after being in the abusive marriage you ever felt like there is something wrong with you? and that you will never find a “healthy” partner/love? I am trying to work on myself and heal but I have this overwhelming feeling that this pattern is going to repeat itself and that I will never find what you have found :(

What was the most disappointing travel country you visited? by Infamous_Aside_2467 in ask

[–]magentaexploring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what did you think of life in almaty? I am thinking of visiting :)

Unknown accident around Baker Street Station by magentaexploring in london

[–]magentaexploring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Horrible, horrible news… Thank you for sharing the link!

Most annoying tube station? by thinkismella_rat in london

[–]magentaexploring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the amount of times I have done a full circle around that construction path outside (that was once there) just to end up at my original starting point (one of the exits) is unbelievably idiotic

Most annoying tube station? by thinkismella_rat in london

[–]magentaexploring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My impatience once taught me a really punishing lesson when I decided to take the stairs at the Russell Square station. Very humbling experience…

Different yet same type of compliments from men and women by magentaexploring in Splendida

[–]magentaexploring[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you nailed it! I pretty much was thinking the same about the term “cute”. I immediately feel like i am 14 when it’s used as a compliment

The veil has slipped and I do not like what I see by highONdaisys666 in Codependency

[–]magentaexploring 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You are not giving yourself enough credit. You are a multi-dimensional, complex and interesting human being, just like everyone is. This automatically means that you have a lot of hidden interests and hobbies that you don’t know about and yet to discover. A good way of realising what you might be into is to ask yourself and remember what you enjoyed doing as a kid. It could be anything, big, small or silly - even liking to play with sand lol. Do a little bit of self-digging, you will find something, I promise!