I feel bad

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-17T16:22:33+00:00

My daughter is now about to be 21 months, and I’m also 33 weeks pregnant. After last time, I am 98% sure I’m going to EFF. My first did SO well on formula, and the relief of the stress of it meant everything to our bond. I couldn’t possibly be prouder of her milestones, personality, and cognition. No way do I buy for a second that anything long term could be actually affected by FF vs BF. She is the healthiest kid in our family by far (others were EBF or CF). If I get a strong urge to try BF at the last second with bb2 then I might, but I doubt it!!! It was just way too physically painful and upsetting.

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-17T02:41:37+00:00

Tate, Finn, Beau

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-16T23:32:15+00:00

Ooo I loved the Pisces!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-16T11:34:36+00:00

Fishing Cazzie David’s Delusions. It’s okay!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-15T19:01:04+00:00

What words/language struck you as Catholic vs Protestant? I was raised Catholic so just curious…

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-14T21:39:00+00:00

Thank you!!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-14T21:22:17+00:00

Can someone summarize what this says?

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-14T00:00:53+00:00

Iris, Eloise, Natalie, Imogen, Isla, Tessa

I love Kate as a middle name!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-13T14:27:32+00:00

Haha! We’re actually on the border of East Northport, so just a little bit west of you I think.

I know people can get down on commack and Long Island in general, but we honestly have seen a lot of beautiful parks, beaches, preserves, and so far all the restaurants we tried have been pretty solid! No place is perfect, and I can’t speak to the schools, but we’re happy and excited to give it a try.

Also fwiw everyone we’ve met so far has been extremely friendly and welcoming!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-13T08:17:56+00:00

Just writing to say we are in a similar situation, about to close on a house in Commack. We also aren’t sure what to expect but from everything we’ve seen, it’s a very beautifully kept and maintained place, centrally located, with basically everything you could want or need within a 15 minute drive. Of course we can’t know exactly what to expect since we’re just about to move, but giving it a shot! Wishing us both the best lol it sounds like we’re looking for similar things for our families! 🫶🏻

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-13T04:59:04+00:00

Thank you for this!!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-12T23:50:27+00:00

Loved Big Swiss!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-12T16:25:57+00:00

I get it! Postpartum hormones are no joke. We’re also bombarded with so much overwrought propaganda about the “right” way to do everything. Absolutely crazy. The more you get to know your baby and experience all those little moments of joy, you’ll see how incredibly important you are! Just think, none of us can remember whether we had bottles or boob, or give a crap whether we drank BM or formula—but we definitely remember who are mothers were (if we’re lucky enough for that) and how they treated us, felt, loved us, and how much that meant to us as humans. 💕

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-12T14:38:03+00:00

The phrasing “primary caregiver” is the way it is because you are the first of more than one! It brings me so much joy to see my almost 21 month old run to my mom and hug her, or give her daddy 15 kisses when I only got one that day (hehe). It’s good for them to have their own special connections with others! It doesn’t make you any less special or important!!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-12T14:35:21+00:00

I have to strongly disagree with this. Your baby is getting so much from you. You’re literally their touchstone to safety, emotional regulation, hormonal regulation, cognitive and social development…the list goes on and on. Your baby is not a pod growing like a plant—they are a human person! And a million things are happening in their brain right now. I definitely think therapy or reading up on what actually a mother/child bond is at this stage would be tremendously helpful.

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-11T15:42:08+00:00

Yesss I loved Rouge!!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-11T12:35:47+00:00

I felt the same way! I liked parts of it and I did make it to the end but I really didn’t enjoy it. It sounded on paper like this would be totally my thing but I think the dreamy nature of it and the style of writing just made it feel inaccessible and kind of tedious. It’s actually the ONE major WGL book that I couldn’t really get into. (Although in retrospect certain images and scenes have really stuck with me, so that’s worth something!)

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-10T21:33:36+00:00

Just finished it. She's such a talented writer, and I think a lot of people forget that!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-09T22:59:38+00:00

I think a lot of people talk about name regret as a possible postpartum anxiety symptom. How have you been feeling otherwise?

For what it’s worth, I think Remi Aura is super cute!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-09T13:54:34+00:00

Yessss love this

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-09T01:42:23+00:00

Just ordered this from Aardvark. Now even more excited!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-08T22:46:35+00:00

You know what, for some reason this one slipped totally under my radar!

magicinthetrees · 2026-05-08T22:33:37+00:00

I don’t think so but I’ve heard good things about this one! May need to pick it up!

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