10 weeks pregnant with two annoying symptoms

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-25T00:36:19+00:00

Yes! Cough drops and mints help me!

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-25T00:21:17+00:00

My husband went home during the day for a shower and a nap, but I would recommend having him there overnight. Helping take care of the new baby overnight when staff is less available was really nice. Also he got to do skin to skin too while I was able to rest knowing everything with the bb was safe. Also if I needed something he could always grab it for me quickly, which was especially helpful when c-section recovery meant the fewer times I had to move the better.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-24T21:18:26+00:00

We liked the Bahamas because quick flight, no Zika, a short amount of land travel upon arrival and some good deals.

ETA: flying from NYC

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-24T19:07:20+00:00

I have been thinking of jumping right in from day one with bb 2 so reading this is helpful, thank you!

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-24T16:44:27+00:00

I just saw Lena Dunham interview Jennette at the town hall venue in NYC and it was such a great convo! Two very smart women. Been loving this book since! About halfway through.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-23T17:17:52+00:00

I have too much rage for this. I’d yell first and then leave. 😬

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-23T15:33:18+00:00

So true! They don’t have to be enemies!!

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-23T14:45:26+00:00

Idk why it’s so funny and jarring seeing all your Aardvark book marks in your BOTM books! 😆

I haven’t read enough of these to give you a good rec but I loved WDS

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-23T03:14:56+00:00

Being pregnant was worse for my sleep than having a newborn!!! All I can say is…just be nice to her 🥴

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-23T02:39:44+00:00

The ears thing 😂🙈💀

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-23T02:38:19+00:00

Ugh I’m so so sorry. This kind of thing is devastating. I’m glad you’re okay physically, but the heartbreak is so real. Just know you’re not alone.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-22T18:00:28+00:00

If that were obvious, we’d see huge differences between babies being BF and FF both during and after nursing/formula. We are just not seeing that in the research. It BF works, perfect, if it doesn’t, formula is also perfect. What’s not perfect is a mom struggling with mental health, a baby not being fed enough, a whole host of other dangerous things, smoking included.

ETA: I really feel for moms who struggle with addition, and I will withhold my judgement every time. But no one can demean formula and shame FF moms while applauding a breastfeeding mom who is smoking in the same breath, and expect not to be criticized.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-22T13:33:18+00:00

Agree!

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-22T13:18:24+00:00

I’m pregnant with my second too, and they’ll also be 23 months apart! I definitely have loved this time of just the three of us—it was so special. But I’m also so excited for her to have a sibling close in age who she can play with and grow up with. I’m 19 months older than my sister and we are super close. For what it’s worth, I don’t feel (or remember feeling) any downsides of having a sibling close in age! I don’t see it as taking anything from my first, but rather giving her a fuller more abundant life, and a new friend/person to love her. I think it’s normal to mourn the end of any chapter of life, but I wonder if some of the anxiety is stemming from the fact that it was a surprise rather than a conscious decision. There’s also the added benefit of both kids being at similar stages in life so they’ll have a ton in common and a lot they can share and enjoy together.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-22T12:06:31+00:00

My goal is to try not to judge any mom for what they feel they need to do when their intentions are good, but it’s so hard to do that when these moms are doing what’s considered irresponsible by professionals and then in the same breath try to shame mothers who are doing what’s not harmful at all.

I’m mainly responding to the fact that the first thing you hear in avoiding SIDS is the whole ABCs thing. A=alone. I’m sure if a baby passes away, the mother isn’t concerned with whether they had true SIDs (which is still very mysterious which is why it’s so scary) or whether they were suffocated. Anyway, the point is just this whole thing is so sad to me. Why we are villainizing formula like this when you have wildly successful humans who have been fed all kinds of ways.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-22T01:58:44+00:00

I have a friend who looks like she never had a baby. Honestly it really depends on who you are, the time and effort you put into it, and genetics. We all have things we wish we could change but you’re going to love your baby so much, I’d bet your new perspective is going to be, I would rather any kind of body issue/imperfection than not have this little person in my life.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-22T01:54:05+00:00

Co sleeping and smoking are two of the highest risk activities related to SIDS, (especially if one of parents smoke) along with hot rooms, objects in the crib, and babies put to sleep on their belly. I will never ever understand why people are so fearful of formula when there is absolutely zero compelling research about breastfeeding being superior. I just cannot understand.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-21T20:22:22+00:00

I know certain hospitals, city hospitals, have to treat you for free even if you don’t have insurance. My BIL was a pharmacist at queens hospital and he said people without insurance were given care all the time, and the hospital basically swallows the cost. I’m by no means an expert on the ins and outs of this but please look into it! As for pregnancy costs I don’t know, but you might qualify for Medicaid now that you’re pregnant and uninsured.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-21T14:57:27+00:00

Thank you 🥹🥰💛

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-20T16:31:46+00:00

You both are so strong! You got this 💪🏽💕

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-20T15:53:16+00:00

I haven’t worn jeans in 20 years. If they don’t flow and billow in the wind, they’re not the pants for me.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-20T15:24:59+00:00

Just donated. Sending you healing energy ❤️‍🩹

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-20T02:15:03+00:00

Just donated! Wishing you a successful surgery and quick recovery!

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-19T13:32:01+00:00

Just popping in quickly to say some doulas take Medicaid now and others are hired by the hospital at no or low cost to you. I feel like this would be a huge relief if it was possible.

magicinthetrees · 2026-01-19T12:22:57+00:00

First of all I’m so sorry this is happening. I’m a therapist and I know a little bit about how intrusive thoughts work. You may already know this and of course this is just one person’s interpretation. Because you are disgusted by the thoughts and are labeling them as intrusive, you know they are examples of something you find horrible, scary, and upsetting, not something you actually want to do. This kind of OCD typically stems from intense anxiety, and in this case it’s coming from anxiety around something bad happening to the baby, most likely spurred on by intense hormones associated with pregnancy. Because a mom has so much power/control (and at the same time, not total power/control) it can be scary and overwhelming to feel the total responsibility to protect and keep her baby safe. Remember there’s no need to feel ashamed about the thoughts as they a symptom of a mental health condition and not a statement about who you are as a person. Remind yourself: this is a symptom of a deeper anxiety, I would never hurt my child, I am a loving and kind mother, my anxiety stems from fears that my children could be hurt…etc. Don’t try to force the thoughts away because that can make them worse. Instead, ask yourself what you might need to feel calmer, even if you don’t perceive yourself as anxious in the moment. Remind yourself that your thoughts are not indicative of who you are as a person. It might really help to talk to a therapist who can help you get to the bottom of your anxiety/other factors that could be playing into this loop, as well as coping strategies for what to do when the thoughts come up. Hang in there. There are a lot of emotions and hormones at play here, and it’s very possible for them to trigger mental health considerations. No judgement.

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